Do you feel like you don’t belong here, in this world and society? You will be surprised to know that it may actually be a good thing.
We grow up believing that in order to be happy, we need to belong somewhere – a society, a country, a social circle, and finally, a family.
The desire to be a part of something bigger than ourselves seems to be our innate need, which probably has evolutionary roots (remember the well-known notion that human is a social animal?). As Wikipedia states, “belongingness is the human emotional need to be an accepted member of a group.”
But what happens in the case of people who don’t only lack this need but also feel that they don’t really fit in this world? Some individuals don’t simply consider themselves different from the rest – they actually have different tastes, ways of thinking, and priorities in life. They don’t like popular things and activities and don’t go after the goals most people pursue.
They may seem a sort of weirdos to those around them, but the truth is that there is a bright side of being a “misfit.”
Today, we will discuss four categories of people who are very likely to have a sense of detachment from the world because of their emotional and mental makeup. Moreover, it’s not a bad thing at all and is, in fact, an indication of increased awareness and sensitivity.
1. Deep thinkers
Sadly, the society we live in is giving more and more importance to primitive instincts and material needs. So it makes sense why individuals capable of deep thought may feel like they don’t belong here.
If you are a deep thinker, then you probably know what truly matters in life. That’s why seeing people around you chasing ephemeral goals and being interested in meaningless stuff is so disappointing. It’s not only disappointing – sometimes, it makes you wonder what you are doing here, among these people, and feel like you come from another world.
2. Old souls
Old souls often feel like they don’t belong here, especially when growing up. Being passionate about unpopular things may make others pick up on your differences and tease you for it. And this can be painful in your awkward childhood and teenage years, making you feel like a misfit who doesn’t have a place in this world.
In your adult years, this gap separating you from other people only becomes bigger. However, you find your path in life and don’t care the same about what they think about you.
3. Empaths
Empaths are so sensitive to the emotions and energy of other people that they may find it uncomfortable to be around them. If you are an empath, you know that every time you watch a news broadcast or learn something sad about someone you know, you get truly upset.
All these side effects of being an empath can also provoke a sense of detachment. And it’s no surprise – there is so much greed, cruelty, and violence in today’s world that an empath may suffer, being a part of it.
4. People who experience a spiritual awakening
A spiritual awakening is a great experience that elevates you to a higher level of consciousness and turns you into a spiritually evolved being. However, it is also paired with painful feelings and experiences because fundamental changes are never easy.
Not only do you start to wonder about the existence, reconsidering your life decisions and relationships, but you may also feel detached from those around you and the world in general. It’s all because you are becoming more aware and understand things you previously turned a blind eye to.
If you feel like you don’t belong here, remember that there is nothing wrong with you.
Instead of worrying about what others think and seeking their approval, try to find your passion and life purpose. And it’s fine if it doesn’t seem attractive or “cool” to most people. The point is that it should fill your life with meaning and happiness.
Did any of the above-described things ring true for you? We would love to hear your thoughts on this.
If you are feeling like a misfit, you may want to read my recent articles that provide some guidance for coping with this emotional state:
- ‘I Don’t Belong Anywhere’: What to Do If You Feel This Way
- Do You Feel Disconnected from Reality? How to Stop Dissociation and Reconnect
- Feeling Alienated from Everyone? Why It Happens and How to Cope
When the flood of comments came in response to this article, I realized that there were far more people who felt like they didn’t belong here, in this world and society, than I had imagined.
Inspired by this fact, I wrote the book The Power of Misfits: How to Find Your Place in a World You Don’t Fit In to help all those introverts, empaths, and deep thinkers who feel alien to modern society. If you are feeling this way and are looking for answers, you may want to check my book on Amazon.
I’ve always felt like I didn’t belong in this world because of so much negativity and how mean people can be. It would just hurt me so much. I couldn’t believe it sometimes how people can be to each other when I was growing up. Even when I watch the news I can’t handle it sometimes. Now it’s like I’ve been heartbroken by the way this world is. I hardly watch the news anymore. All that really makes me happy is love.
I feel like this just right now. I learnt how to meditate, wich has helped me with previous anxiety episodes i used to have. Right now i need to finish my dissertation to get my degree, but i feel detached and as this is pointless, the more i meditate the more i feel detached to these things. I know is important and that i need it to get a good job, but i can´t find the way for my brain to find a conection, everything seems meaningless. I don´t know how to get out of this place.
I make it short and simple. I am 38 years old. since my childhood I am totally disgusted of non logic , non empathy and the actions and excuses the most human beings “provide”. Indeed I feel since I was a kid that I dont belong here. Now comes the conclusion ..I know that i dont belong here, but I want also not reject this mission I have in my life , because something deep inside tells me ” if you fuck it up, you will be back on earth again “
If you are a spiritual person, you will indeed feel like an alien
I’m not one, and I tick off all the boxes. The church burned any spiritual anything out, even if I had any in the first place.
The world is full of greed, consumerism and worldly attachments.
Boy, you got that right. And woe be to those of us who aren’t toeing the party line. o_o
If you feel set apart, lonely, isolated, count it as a blessing. You have been chosen..
To be recruited by the Star League to defend the frontier against Xur and the Ko-Dan armada? I’m sorry. I couldn’t resist- and we all need a chuckle..
hello i’m very young about ten and i think all of the are me cause i feel like i don’t belong but at the end i learned that being different does not mean i don’t belong it just means i’m different and it is all okay its okay to be different
I’m so glad to find this page, I’m a 33 year old female- and I totally understand why everyone fells this way.. I used to feel like I have no sense of belonging since mychildhood. I traveled a lot, camps and almost all the outing you can think of but I never felts like I belong anywhere. I relocated to the USA nine years ago. After some time of no luck finding inner fulfillments- I finally met people who are like me ( old souls/ spiritual awakened people) I came to self realization and learned how to deal with myself.
This world is getting worse and worse each day due to what other people are doing, but it is still a wonderful world that is full of good people and great opportunities.
I’m open to talk to anyone that needs help. We are here for you and you🌹
I feel like there are things in this world that can be solved very easily yet they don’t. And i dont understand why. I dont understand why someone or group of people would choose to see others hurt or suffering when there is enough of the world to go around. This injustice makes me feel like a foreigner and therefore find it hard to do anything as it’s all pointless. I can’t be truly happy knowing others are suffering at the hands of others which therefore makes me feel unsafe. I dont want to be in this arrangement anymore. I love nature and do not blame animals for killing other animals to survive but with humans we are intelligent and can think critically so why would we choose to harm others. I understand its a chain reaction but when is it going to stop???
Yet again I found myself this morning driving in complete silence carrying the numbness within me while feeling the need to call out to the Universe and converse because it has been the Universe and my spirit guides that give me the answers I seek. What I see I don’t need or want; it is what is felt deep within me that remains a constant reminder of who I am and why I am here. For as long as my conscious mind can back track I have never felt as if I BELONGED. My young and unmatured mind was convinced I had been adopted but, deep down inside, I knew that it went beyond that thought as experiences started to unfold leaving me frightened and unable to express myself for fear of being judged and/or ridiculed. During my upbringing I was massively misunderstood and pushed aside, I was beaten and emotionally neglected but I had the strength to forgive and move on. My courage was my determination and my determination became my strength to push through and move on by enabling myself to see beyond the parameters of what was/is obvious. Along the way I learned that my experiences were nothing to be ashamed of so I started to nurture them as I nurtured the knowledge of being a Indigo child with strong empathic and mediumship abilities and a deep sense of compassion for all that is part of our Universe. I am in my early 50’s and not for one single day I have awoken feeling as if I belonged here so I have been craving wanting to go back where I came from. Once upon a time I truly believed there was good in all hearts but I had to accept that a good, genuine heart has become a rarity these days and that people, in general, are too attached to the illusions of life to allow themselves to awaken to the truth that reflects right back at them. Us ancient and old souls are part of a higher realm and we will always feel different and displaced. It is easy for us to give love without expectations or reason because we understand that we are all here to give and take love, but for the many that live life blinded and unaware, at times, it proves very hard for the awaken ones to want to be part of this world.
The words written here is a belief I have never been able to express on paper or in words. My ability of true sight has lead me to be a moving target in this world. I knew at an early age my path on earth would be tumultuous. The words: Be and Very Careful on What You Wish For; You Just Might Get it”. I can vouch this statement is real for some..Currently I just exist. No longer a player in life just an observer. This new position is terrifying. I’m still needed by love ones but have no interest in this simulation called life.
I am so glad I came across this article. It really makes me feel better about feeling like I don’t fit in.
I…. I’ve felt like this my entire life, and nothing I do can seem to make it go away or get better. It only gets much, much worse and it is nearly unbearable. I know something is really wrong. Maybe it’s just a psychological condition like a mental illness but it’s not just the mental pain but the emotional …..burden. I can’t stop it and can’t turn it off or forget and it’s not a lack for trying… but… when I think…. this may be ridiculous but the thought of dragons for instance completely breaks me down and makes me cry and no idea why but somehow a love I can’t explain and this idea…. that something is missing and really wrong it’s sometimes just too much. Although it gotten really bad before but I accidently stumbled upon witchcraft a few years ago and it kind of really helped and balanced me. It’s kind of my “guide” to understanding things and makes it lesser to carry inside my being… I am still searching to why it is I feel as I do but…. It still hurts a lot knowing I don’t belong. This is not my home, not my world and nothing can seem to replace that emptiness…
I’m only 22 and I constantly find myself searching the web for answers on WHY I feel this way so deeply and everything resonates with me except the old soul. Maybe some others would consider me an old soul but I don’t consider myself one because I fit in I get along with everyone and I make the people around me happy and feel comfortable however, I don’t connect with them I make my way through life but there’s no real connection there. I feel like I’m not apart of this world it doesn’t make sense to me. No one understands me and it consumes my soul. Everyday is a struggle trying to be okay on this earth. I’ve been diagnosed with depression and depressive bipolar disorder but I still don’t feel like that’s the answer because it’s more than that to me. I try so hard to find answers for who I am but it feels like it’s endless search and unattainable I feel like I was born this way and it’s just the way it is like nothing is ever meant to change for me. I’m supposed to be like this for eternity. Like I’m stuck. But I try so hard to do things that make me feel happy and I practice self care all the time.
I truly loved this article. It was very inspirational for me as I too have felt like this my entire life. I am very cautious with whom I let into my life and find that most people have a “group think mentality” and if one doesn’t go along with the group’s thought process then you are shunned. I do enjoy interacting with others and hearing their opinions and having deep conversations but have also learned the hard way that you can’t trust to have those conversations with everyone. I really treasure those in my life that do love me and my company. I have found a great church and continue to force myself to join groups and get to know others, and yes even at 59 years old it’s still hard. God Bless you all for sharing your thoughts on here, I found your stories all very helpful to know that there are others that think like me .
The article is nice but its left up in the air. Some truly feel they don’t belong and probably truly don’t belong. Many engage in escape activities like fast cars, motorcycling or music, but in the end find that that is not really an escape. It really never gets you away. Away means away from life. Its why in the end many commit suicide. Many realize that there really just is no real future in life especially as you get older. The sad part is many look down on suicide as if its a bad thing. Those who do are simply those who fear death and deny reality. Every city in America should have a euthanasia clinic to assist in suicide. The world is screwed with many people looking for an out, they get frustrated and take it out on others and do crimes and other bad deeds. Many know they don’t belong here and want out but have no humane way of getting out. Those who choose out should have that option to die peacefully without fear of a botch suicide attempt.
Hint…Most people who go to psychics feel lost and empty, they are searching for answers because many don’t fit in. So what she told you she probably says to all her clients and she probably has a 75% success rate in those who see her.
I am literally all 4. I don’t belong here…I remember being a young child feeling this. Feeling like I am simply waiting for something. My entire life just seems like I am between two points….waiting and yearning to know what it is…why I am here…please take me to the next episode. I cannot handle this anymore.
I am the same way and am now 62! I believe that I am old soul and have never been able to figure out what drives me and why I have this empty feeling all the time. I constantly feel like there is someone I miss so much but I don’t know who it is…. I stay busy and am still working as a metal sculpture artist.
I’m 22. I really feel like I don’t belong here on this planet. I don’t like how things work here on earth, everybody is drunk on the idea that you need to go to school and get a degree, after that you need to find a job and build a career then work your ass off to pay bills and get the things you want and buy all that meaningless stuff and then what? I understand all that and why people do it but it doesn’t add up for me, it lacks something. I mean, don’t you want to know more? No one is asking questions why we’re doing all this meaningless stuff. They’re just doing the things what everybody else is doing and they’re okay with that, it’s like a stupid cycle. I opened up to my dad about this and how I’m feeling and he said that I’m not thinking straight maybe because I smoke weed. Imagine hearing that from your parent. It hurts right? My dad doesn’t believe in cannabis and the benefits of it but that doesn’t stop me from using it. I know I was put here for a reason and a special purpose not just to pay bills and work everyday just to survive. I don’t know what it is but I can feel it inside me, I feel this strong energy flows through me everyday and it’s the only thing that keeps me going.
I don’t know if I’m from a different time, place or I’m just woke, because I’m pretty sure everybody else around me is fucking sleeping and are being controlled. BUT I DO KNOW THIS, THAT I’M NOT ALONE IN THIS JOURNEY AND THERE ARE OTHERS LIKE ME. HOW DO I KNOW THIS? BECAUSE IT LEAD ME HERE! HAVE FAITH IN YOURSELF AND STAY STRONG. THE RIGHT TIME WILL COME FOR US AND WHEN THAT HAPPENS WE WILL KNOW WHAT TO DO. Peace out 🐱🏍
I hope that is true.
I always felt like I’m belonging to anpther world or maybe that I belong to the past life. I just see how this world is getting worser the easier the things get. YES technology is a grest thing but it just took control over us even our emotions. I took away our imagination there is no imagination no fantasy no true feelings. Everything is just hidden behind social media. Why could we just be ourselves? Why have we always to show others what we are what we do and how good our life is ??
It’s so disappointing and sad. We are destroying our world.
That is why I just can’t match.
This article is so true. I fit all of these things. I’m an old soul, an empath, a deep thinker, and I’m currently experiencing a spiritual awakening. All of my life I never fit in like NEVER. It didn’t help that I’m in introvert. I’ve read somewhere that as we get older and build more wisdom we become more introverted. I believe it because when I was younger I actually enjoyed partying and being in large crowds. I was also very materialistic. As I’ve gotten older I spend more time alone. I even deactivated all of my social media and now I really feel like I live under a rock which is fine. I don’t feel like I belong anywhere. Not with my family, I don’t have anymore friends, I don’t fit in with colleagues. I don’t go to church because I left the church 3 years ago and even when I did go I didn’t feel like I belong. I just haven’t found my tribe and living in the south in the Bible Belt I doubt I’d ever will here since everyone is the same and there’s absolutely no diversity.
Im so glad i ran into this… i cant understand the way of living now days, its sad how i see everyone around me caught up in a maze. and if i open my self to them, they wouldn’t understand a word. still searching for my purpose in life. Material shit has no effect over me.
Oh wow i think i may be an old soul…and i can relate mostly from number. 1 i do think some people are just not…i don’t even know how to explain it either. So so far in my life i have thinking there’s to many “immature” people in certain ways i don’t even know if i’m mature myself but i honestly have another way of thinking…another way of saying this or that, and like today a just talk to a person told me i was the very first to say these certain things and the way i said even shocked him. At that moment i felt like maybe i am different and not like everyone else because he honestly sounds like every normal teenager to be honest….and i would say his the same like everyone else but that’s why i wanted to know. Thank god i think i feel different haha but i wont overthink it cause then ill go crazy so maybe its just another way of thinking like my own opinion.
I did try to fit in.It was the longest 15 minutes of my life.
I am 33 year old male, I always felt alone even when surrounded by people, I tried to like things for the sake of keeping my friends. One day on a road trip with my “friends” I realized that everything I did was not for me but for other so I can keep being in their inner sircle. From then on I stopped trying to fit in I stopped, pretending to like things, like drink alcohol, smoke cigarettes, go to bars/clubs. I never liked any of that, I would rather be outdoors and travel the country see new places. Camp, river rafting, crossbow. I don’t care for new things anymore I did at one point, but it felt I did it to fill this void. I don’t get excited about new things, iPhones, new cars sports, or super Cars. I don’t follow sports ie baseball, football, soccer ect. I hate small talk, I don’t follow new music. I hate trends. I can’t stand people who brags about so many things. I don’t follow politics, or government, I could care less. I don’t ask the government for anything I honestly see them as a waste of money, and all they do is control you so you become stuck in their cycle of lies. I see money as a requirement, a necessity to continue living this lie. I don’t desire money, I could care less. There is zero freedom just slavery to this government and they paper they print for us to work for to buy food, because we arw not allowed to be self-reliant.
I think I can relate to all of them, the fourth one… I am not so sure there’s so much information on it and so many opinions that it gets to be a little confusing. I am not sure about the process but the description is spot on. What I do know is that I am just tired now, I want to go home. I don’t know where that is or why I just keep feeling and saying that but I do. It’s almost like it’s time.
I can understand you whole heartedly, I too feel that this world isn’t for me and want to “go home,” where ever that may be. You’re not alone always remember that!
Me too! This world is NOT my home. I know what my true home is, I know how it smells, looks, feels, sounds. I NEED to go Home, I know what is in store for this world and I want no part of it. I have always felt different and my mom would often pick up on that. She would often ask, “Who are you?” Every time I wake up, I feel nauseated knowing I have to face yet another day in this world. On the outside, I look fine but on the inside, I am screaming and begging for release. The older I get, the more intense the feelings become. Sometimes, I truly believe I am going to lose my mind.
I can relate very much to the first 3. It’s bad though, I feel like I’m always so intense or dramatic, like even my chillest mood is too much for people to deal with. I just think people feel like I’m “too much” to deal with. I don’t think anyone truly understands me. Like how come something that I feel is morally wrong is no big deal to others? How can I not care so much about stuff? I’m just tired, I’m literally emotinally drainedmy brain is just exhausted. I hate it. And nobody fricken cares …. It drives me crazy I can’t even seem to relate with people.
I feel like such a weirdo, but I have such a big heart?? How can I make my emotions match my behavior instead of coming off as a crazy person?
I feel the same way… It’s like I can’t express who I really am, and I always get the gesture that no one even knows what I feel and who I am. I’m really close with my mother, but yet I always feel like there’s a wall between us, like she knows who I am but she doesn’t at the same time. I cannot express these feelings towards anyone because I feel like no one would get it, or think I’m different. I just want answers and I want to know.
I just wanted to reply and say I feel the same way, you’re not alone. 🙂 sorry if this sounded weird lol
I feel you so deeply! I have been homesick since being a child but all the moving from one city to another could not solve the problem because this home we are longing for is not in our physical world (my mother once said to me: “you want to go home to youself”) – i have the strange feeling that “home” in our case is the “source” (as some spiritual teachers call it). Home is g-d, the universe, the great energy, g-d-source… whatever you want to call it. Could Buddhist and Hinduist teachings be right? Home is a state of mind deep within you – contemplation and meditation will help. And maybe one thing will happen: “There’s a Chinese poem which puts it this way. It is a poem written by a man who has gone to find a sage in the mountains and the Sage has a little hut at the foot of the mountain and a boy there who is his servant. I asked the boy beneath the pines he said the master’s gone alone herb-gathering somewhere on the Mount. Cloud-hidden, whereabouts unknown.” (Alan Watts)
I feel the exact way you do T! I would like to get a chance to connect and talk with some of you who feel the same as I do. Makes me not feel so alone in the world. Every just keeps throwing the youre depressed at me and it’s like no matter how many time people want to say that I will never believe it. I’m happy as fuck, just this world is to much bullshit to carry, you guys know what I’m talking about. I just feel like I don’t know where I belong.
I’m glad that Anna is researching this topic. At least she makes it seem like it’s just fine to feel different. I’ve been looking all my life for something that fulfills me. I still haven’t found it. Yes, it is tiring and I would like to go home too.
I have always felt different and that I don’t fit in or belong here on this planet. I just don’t get most people and the way they think….some of the things they do. I think maybe I’m just crazy, paranoid, insecure or maybe this is just who I am. I just have to try not to put myself down because I feel so different with the way I think and the way I feel. I rarely go out to restaurants or bars with friends or family as a result. It is during the times that I do, that I become most painfully aware that I am different and people seem brainwashed or corrupt. I fit in with the first 3 categories that were mentioned in this article, but I’m unsure about me being in the midst of a spiritual awakening right now. It’s possible, but I’d have to do more research about that before coming to that conclusion. Well, to all my fellow “don’t belong on this planet” friends…. remember there are more of us than we think. I know some of us can feel very lonely and awkward in our skin/body sometimes, but better days are coming for us.
This has always been me. as I have gotten older though these feelings of not belonging or fitting in have grown tremendously. Now honestly it is to the point where in everyday living I totally feel handicapped. Like I am an alien or something. I dont understand the world at all, or why people live the way they do. I do not fit in anywhere it seems, and I just cant seem to relate to 99.99% of what I see in everyday life. So much of the world and what I see in people is just scary to me and just honestly doesnt make sense at all. I feel like being more aware and empathetic is a terrible curse. This has left me a very broken person and now I live my life virtually completely alone with just my dog for companionship. I live each day just hoping to find just one friend who is not on drugs, crazy or living a trendy worldly life. I actually took comfort in finding just this blog and knowing that there are atleast a handful of other people who feel aleast similar to the way I do. I am the type of person who tries to make sense of everything, and when I look at the world I feel like I should have never of been born because I am so different. If you feel the same way and would like a real friend to talk to please email me. I could use a “real” friend and I also know how to be one. [email protected]
I also feel like people make such a big deal about things or make things so difficult when it’s completely unnecessary. I feel like I can stop , and detach myself from most things and look at the not only the bigger picture but the actual way things play out when done certain ways if that makes sense and/or can see things realistically there for showing me what needs to happen now, to be _____ later. And like the world as a whole, the ways of the people, how government and higher ups call the shots or influence people. I can see the so called “rat race” and just take it in. How we are all just puppets to our cell phones, to spending money. People are so fake it just disgusts me. Like what are you, why do u pretend to like it not like something? What good is ever going to come to you if your so easily influenced. It’s sad.
And the mention of “feeling the vibrations” of others, that’s trippy. I was just trying to explain to my roommate how I can literally feel the citations of living things. The strong old trees, the strong force of water and it’s wholeness, the power of wind I can feel this Earth anc how beautiful and amazing it is. The colors of flowers and sunsets, the over all oneness with nature when I’m camping or hiking, it’s incredible. She thinks I’m weird too but I can seriously feel trees especially when they’re old and if and strong. I can connect with animals sometimes.
I just don’t think there is anything here for me. I feel left out and forgotten. When I see someone beautiful or someplace beautiful I think – that’s not for me. I think it’s just another “thing” I will never get to do or see. I feel numb like someone’s been hitting me with a rubber mallet. I realize too much, I think how cruel the world is and I do long to escape to another plane of existence. I just feel like the World is an amazingly beautiful place but that there is no place for me.
I was born fully aware. I never wanted to be here and spent years of my life (child years) crying and begging to go home, even though I couldn’t say where that was. It all got too much when i hit 15 and I ran away from home. I was on a really destructive path and tried ending my life multiple times, once successfully and during my Near Death experience, I’d never felt so whole so it just confirmed that I wasn’t supposed to be here but for some reason I came back….
The older I get, the more I see humans as one massive, self destructive plague I want nothing to do with. We fool ourselves into believing things will get better but they never do. I am not living, I don’t think I ever have… I survive. Ps, born 3/3/83 and a highly sensitive psychic empath…. just the icing on the s***cake really.
Hello everyone
Let me join too 🙂
…and because of everything mentioned, sometimes I feel like an observer – I witness life passing me by and people living their lives, and somehow it’s not for me. It’s beautiful to be able to think deep & to feel deep, but in the same time it’s soo painful. This planet is beautiful and how is it possible that it’s inhabited with the people who destroy it – why put helpless animals here to be tortured. It’s easy to question yourself when all the time you come across people with corrupted mentality, and it’s so rare or impossible to meet someone who vibes like you. A person who stands for Truth, Love, Moral Values, Honesty, Loyalty. When I talk about what True Love should be like, I just get weird looks: it’s when a soul loves a soul and they go together through life in order to create something beautiful…they are not interested in other people (they don’t even think about other people cause it would feel like a betrayal to them), they don’t have primitive needs, they love and respect each other, they are loyal, they’re friends – what is so weird in that? I feel like many people confuse liking someone with love. And I can’t believe how rare love actually is. Being happy while the world is in chaos and so many people suffering is hard, it’s like your personal burden to carry. I feel like I have to hide a part of my personality the entire time. So, yes, I do go away from people cause I can’t handle those energies, and always sensing something hidden and dirty behind their masks, seeing through them. There’s one nice quote which goes something like this: “It’s beautiful to meet someone who wears a soul on their sleeve”.
And one more thing: it’s good to know that there are more of you, somewhere… Thank you all for sharing 🙂
Hello all,
It is a wonderful thing to find a community of people like you who are like me. I don’t belong here on this earth. I’m not interested in TV, fashion or the rat race. Listening to your comments is healing for me and I thank you.
Thank you Anna.
I keep wanting to just go up into space. I have this feeling like I am missing something. Not like missing a puzzle piece but like missing a place or person that’s not here. I feel people’s pains here more than I care to. I am married and have 4 grown kids. My thoughts are deeper, my want for being off this planet grows fast. Why?
It’s like a world of evil shadow people. I don’t want to engage with it. I don’t understand them and their hierarchy and I don’t need to be a part of it.
Yes I am the 4 above. I just don’t understand the world we live in, we have so much to offer yet it seems we sell our selves out, feels like there is a power in this world that has likely had it’s grasp for 1000s of years passing on generation to generation, rather than making the best of this world we are educated to believe matiral items are key to life, to be better than others, to be separate which only makes us weaker, it feels like we are slaves in the world to a power many are just blind to see. I wish sometimes I did not see it this way and I always apply balance to life which is necessary and accurate, it’s more I don’t have a vail blocking my view and I have awareness in my life, I feel emotions, I see the magic in all things and understand and understand nothing, very different to how I use to think and see the world.
Finding this article made me feel so much better about who I am. I have always been a deep thinker and I have had to leave places quickly because I feel I am picking up bad vibes or something I could never put words too but number 4 really got me as I have been in a very toxic work environment for the past five years and left four months ago and couldn’t understand why I was feeling so lost instead of happiness. Over the years meditation has helped me heal and this time it helped me get through this time and finally leave. I felt connected to this article and some of the comments. However I want to accept I’m different without judgement of others. AND without Judging others and saw a lot of judgement in these comments. So many people felt they had found people like them but I didn’t. I just want to be happy, healthy and at peace with myself. I want to travel the world (which I have been doing) but mostly I want to have wonderful in-depth conversation. Most people don’t want to analyze the world or even situations in there own lives. Now that I have become perhaps more awaken that’s what I need, want for me. I also want to stop judging others because they think different then me. They are not better or worse then me, they are people who exist around me. Some are good people and some are not.
I agree with 1,2&3 I’m not sure about 4,could be, just not sure. I know I’m an introvert and an empathy. I am not comfortable anywhere but in my home. I live alone, just me and my two cats. Animals are ok but people are a lost concept on me. I want to belong somewhere but I don’t. I find that my emotions are so much stronger than anyone else’s.. What I feel as love is so strong that the word love is an understatement. When I love a girl my feelings are so intense that love just isn’t a good enough word. I can’t explain what I feel and the problem is that no one can ever reciprocate that back to me. While I love so hard and so deep, others can’t even come anywhere close to feeling the same for me. I feel like the emotion being given back is like a weak signal. This tells me that there’s no one here for me and I want to go home, where I might find that love from others that I’m looking for. Anytime I hear someone dies, whether I know them or not, I may cry. Not just because they died but also because I feel like they are going on to a better place, a place I can’t go, I have to stay here. The silly shit we deal with here hurts me, like racism and hatred towards one another. It’s the stupidest problems that bother me the most. I love everyone and can’t wrap my mind around why we are headed into 2020and having the problems of 1920. We are advanced in so many ways and so impeded in others. We so are advanced technologically but socially restricted. Until now I thought I was dealing with depression because my emotions are always just under the surface. I have such strong emotions, my passion is readily accessible, all of my emotions are really. There is so much more I can say on this topic but would rather find another or even others who can discuss this with me. If there is anyone that can relate to anything I’ve said here, please contact me, comment on my comment.
To anyone who cares to read this. I too feel like I just want to go HOME> I have been extremely sensitive since birth. Finding my way in the world has been hard, always feeling like I belonged to a different place and time. I have succeeded with advanced college degrees, yet always felt out of place no matter where I worked. In this world I just want everyone to look out for each other, care about each other, see that everyone is fed, educated, and helped to live a safe, decent, life. Everyone needs clean air, water, and access to medicines as needed. Yet it seems selfishness and indifference is on the rise. Look out on the interstate, it’s every man for himself! If you want to pollute the air, you can’t find a city that bans backyard burning where smoke can affect hundreds of your neighbors and towns-people. We are here for a purpose, and I believe that purpose is to learn how to love, care, and look out for one another and eradicate disease, war, hunger, ignorance, addictions, abuse and neglect, and create a world where people want to be and truly feel at home.
I just don’t know what to do or think anymore, I want to leave this universe. I have nothing left. I am always alone, I feel like I am stuck on a planet and the whole world just disappears and I am left to battle the world for myself. I have no home here, no family, no one… I just want to know what is on the other side, where do people go, everything just vanish and I am always left here whyyyy… Please take me home or to the place I belong.
Hi just read your blog if that’s what it’s called.i feel like I don’t belong on this planet, waiting to be picked up.ive felt like this for years. Im here but don’t fit in I would like to meet people in the same situation. The average human just doesn’t seem to understand.my friends think I’m nuts Hope we all find our way good luck everyone
I feel like I’m just a ball of energy that wants to be free of this constrictive body. I feel claustrophobic and I see weird stuff I can’t find any relation to anywhere in my dreams…I belong somewhere else but not here and can’t stand people anymore I hate practically everyone… I’m never understood or misunderstood nobody understands my ideas. It just goes over their heads. I feel there it’s no good in people anymore and because I’m empathetic I get constantly screwed over… I’m a sentient being with a fragile heart and I’m breaking into a trillion pieces… This is not my home. I’m not meant to live like this. I want to rip out my eyes so I can’t see. Stab my ears to not hear and cut out my tongue to not speak. What is the use of senses if you can’t communicate and be understood. It’s better if you can’t even try then the pain is filled. I’m always alone and it’s killing me.
I feel the excat same way as you ,Ever since I was a kid I always thought that someday id discover the truth that I didn’t belong here and infact I was someone very important from a completely new world, Somone would come along ,As if predestined,find me and bring me to the place I am supposed to be, Where I actually feel important and I also feel like I am being listened to for once in my life.But I know that stuff only happens in story books,But real life is acc so depressing.Is it wrong that I don’t feel like I have a purpose anymore? I Just want a bit of excitement in my life,A circle of friends that make me feel loved and valued and….and that I matter .But unfortunately…that’s not gonna happen,People ask me why I don’t seek out friends or try to socialise,My answer is not only do I feel so detached and lonely,Its also because I know for a fact when I meet people I get attached too fast,They stick by me for a couple of weeks,Months and then….When it matters most
they leave…without a simple word or explanation. That’s why I don’t seek friends out, Some people see me as being too sensitive….are they right? or are they just saying that because they want to deny the fact that sometimes I care more about certain people and things then they do?
don’t feel bad. I feel the same way, kind of.
I’ve always been ‘different’. while I’m sure some can be attributed to my abusive, isolated childhood and the rough time I’ve had in my adult years, I honestly don’t think these are the sole reasons.
I just feel like my soul is from, or belongs to, another realm/world.
I think a lot of the reason its so bad for me is that, and no I can’t explain how I know this or why I know this, people of this world just…. they suck! Greedy, materialistic, self-centered, with little to no respect for anyone or anything else.
I know not all are like this. Just far too many. More now than I ever remember there being. And its only getting worse.
Is this a spiritual awakening? idk. Am I empathic? Yeah.. I think so. Deep thinker? Ohh yeah. You’ve no idea. Old Soul? I don’t think so. I feel like my soul is relatively young compared to some I’ve met. (yes, I’ve met Old Souls.)
And I have to admit I feel like the world I belong to isn’t so far out of my reach, and yet, it might as well be on the other side of the Universe.
Its strange. Idk. I just don’t belong here. At all. Not in ‘earlier times’, or ‘in a different generation’, but an entirely different world. Like, This isn’t my real body (what I mean is, this isn’t what I look like on the inside, or should I say, what my soul says my real self looks like), and the life I’m living seems to be merely an existence. I exist. But I’m not truly LIVING.
I don’t know how else to say it. Its depressing as hell though, I’ll tell you that.
you’ve describe my situation and being completely. thank god there is someone else out there who understands
Lately a lot has been happening in my country. I hear about the Indian army raping women in Kashmir. I hear about the Indian police causing chaos in Muslim University in Delhi. I am away from all of this physically ,but I can’t ignore it. I see people hurt animals online , it’s so common. I see that women and girls have always been the oppressed ones in society forever. I don’t belong here. This is a place of lies, betrayal, greed and all evils a human body could contain. I don’t want to be a part of this system where my money goes into funding terrorists and the destruction of this planet. I am lucky to have been born in a family where I am safe and privileged ,but I don’t belong here. This world and it’s demonic people aren’t for me.
This feeling is odd. I don’t drive. I’d rather walk or ride my bike. Go to the library than a mall. I get severe panic attacks at watching the news, going to the supermarket. Everyone says come join the conversation but I cant. I don’t like being around people. I don’t fit in this world. People pay tons of money for a gym when a walk is better. I’ve always felt like an outsider.
My thing is, I feel like I don’t belong where I am: I want to go to where I used to live as a child, but I know I don’t belong to the past anymore. I don’t feel like I don’t belong to the church where I live, but I believe in what it teaches. I was abused by my ex-Husband and so I moved away from this area. The people in my church thinks he is mister wonderful, and don’t believe me, even though I had witnesses. When I moved away no one knew him. But even then I felt like I didn’t belong. I feel lost. I’m not Happy where I am in life. I moved back and I moved in with my daughter. I want to go places (travel) but my budget is limited. And even then I don’t feel like I belong. I know there is a reason why things happen, and I know I have a purpose to fulfill, I just wish I knew what is is. I feel alone even though I am not alone. I am part of a family but not part of the family.
Patricia,
I think it’s ok to feel this way. You went through a lot. Give yourself time to heal and let go. Think about a friend who would “feel” good to have around… Even if you don’t know this person yet. Your answer is right around you… and it’s coming to you.
Have you tried listening to some positive messages on podcasts yet? Find something that sounds good and fitting to your current needs. Once you seek these, it will almost feel like they are finding you… you will bump into them everywhere.
Just know that you are not alone. We are all struggling in some areas of our life even if we don’t say it to anybody. At least you let it out… I love you for that. I hear you! You are awesome and unique! There is only one of you and we need everybody. I’m here for you.
I want to just vanish from this world , i m stuck here in this world i feel no no one understands me. I an Engineering student and see people around me just want to pass the exam or to get at the top rather not getting the point of harnessing the knowledge what they are getting . I don`t understand the education system which tries to memories the fact instead of expressing the importance of that knowledge why it grows in the first place . I m tried of this life in which people don`t think about other and do what they , don`t what to do understand and called themselves mature. I don`t the people having the same interest as me and I m just fulfilling the role which I have got till yet like becoming a good friend even if they don`t as a friend of me , a good son.
I just waiting the time when I will vanish from this world and become free of everything .
I can feel my existence , humans are stupid , I think I am not belong to this world , I imagine my home in ice Land , no humans only me and myself there , Lots of things I want to share , lots of answers I need to know , where is my actual home , who I am , Why I behave like human , I want to live alone or with someone who are also like me only 😔 if anyone here who want to talk with me so this is my Instagram account – ashraf_ansari_aesthetic please talk please and if you will messaged me so remember don’t say me hi say something about this topic cz I don’t reply everone
This world is not my home, I’m just a passing through. My treasure are laid up somewhere beyond the blue.
Looks like at the same time you all feel you dont belong you all have a lot of progressist thinking, that lead you to depression. Why not to have a warlike atitude against humans? In a world that is a prision, the only honorable exit if WAR! Even if you have no interest in mundane politics, there’s no existence without conflict. Even if there’s no hope, the pleasure is the struggle and conflict of everyday against all you find on street. I’m pro-gun person. Civil Armamentist!
Coming from someone who constantly fits in ALL 4 of these categories; helped me get a better insight on my life. I’ve already been realizing all of this. Most people think I’m just depressed, or just being different. But what is wrong with being different? I want to THANK YOU for the confirmation that what I’m doing and where I’m going is right. It’s MY path! It’s only for me to understand, not ANYONE else!
I so feel this way. Doctors label you as depressed or antisocial and want to dope you up on drugs to make you feel and act like society thinks you should. I refuse all drugs. I know who I am and they don’t. Some of us are just smart enough to know we do not have a place here. Just because we are here doesn’t mean we belong here. And it doesn’t mean that there is anything mentally wrong with us for feeling that way.
I agree with you Kimberly. I feel the exact same way. However, I am at that point where I’ve made the decision to end it. I’m tired of being in a universe where I don’t belong.
Everything Described is Me. I am evaluating All this. But understanding there is others, makes me understand more everyday. Very Painful life to live though. Physically & Mentally this All gets Ruff. So Much Pain Hard to see any Joy around. An Financially im Good. So many questions. Not enough understanding within me…