Happy people distinguish because of their attitude to life. What exactly makes them special?

At this time of the year, we are more prone to depression, a bad mood, and sometimes, we feel particularly unhappy. But maybe it has to do with the habit of complaining and shifting the blame to the bad weather?

A much better strategy is to replace bad words and habits with good ones, just like happy people do. This will allow you to keep a positive attitude and feel happy even in gloomy weather.

Here are a few habits that are attributed to happy people.

1. They don’t worry about what others think of them

A happy person never lets negative people affect their happiness. Whatever they hear from others, they don’t place importance on it. So a good idea would be to treat people in a friendly and respectful manner but avoid trying to please everyone. Do not let others influence your mood and self-esteem.

2. They use positive language

Give up negative phrases, if you still use them (“I have the worst of luck,” “I can’t do it”, “It is not for me”). Also, get rid of the conditional statements, for example, “I will fall in love, if …”

Instead of being a slave to your self-limiting beliefs, say to yourself positive affirmations for success and repeat them daily. For example, “I am successful”, “I am worthy”, “I’m happy.”

3. They always see the positive side of things

Even bad things and events have a positive side. If happy people cannot see a situation in a positive way, they create it themselves. The more positive you are, the more good things you notice around you.

In everyone’s life, there are disappointments and difficulties. But optimists do not focus on the things they lack but give more importance to what they have nad always seek new perspectives.

4. They are accepting

Happy people do not care what you look like or where you come from. All they want is that a person next to them is happy and kind. That is why they attract other people.

5. They don’t envy others or hold grudges

Anger and envy are the most devastating feelings that are typical for people who are not confident in themselves and lack self-love. Anger can undermine your mental and physical health, and happy people know this very well.

Envy also will not add happiness to your life. If you cannot enjoy the successes of others, then at least treat them without negative emotions. Appreciate what you have because many do not have even that.

6. They are grateful

Thank God, the Universe, fate, or whatever you believe in for your life, health, opportunities, and family. There is always something to thank your parents, teachers, friends, lovers, and children for. You can even thank your enemies and critics for the given life lessons.

The more gratitude you have in your heart, the happier person you become.

7. They smile

Smile and laughter are the best friends of a happy person. It is understandable that you want to smile when you feel happy, but it works the other way round too. Try to look in the mirror and smile at yourself and you will see that your mood will change.

Smile at your family members at breakfast. Smile to your neighbor in the elevator. Smile at the saleswoman in the store. And then the smile will become your habit. This is one of the easiest happy habits one could master and yet, one of the most powerful ones!

8. They live in the present moment

They are happy with what they have and try to enjoy every minute and every day. Happy people are not waiting for fun, they create it right now.

Live today and now. Rejoice every detail: a sunny day, beautiful scenery, an interesting book, a smiling stranger. Think of someone that cannot see, hear, or feel… But you are lucky, so appreciate this.

9. They don’t make a mountain out of a molehill

Happy people never let hardships ruin their lives. They just forget about them and move on because they understand that this is only temporary. And of course, they don’t dwell on trivial issues and never make a mountain out of a molehill.

Do not worry too much about minor problems and remember that life can’t be all about joy and victory. The more often you think about failures, the more negative energy you attract into your life.

10. They don’t strive to be perfect and are just being themselves

Happy people are uninterested in imitating someone else or living according to social expectations. Do not try to be perfect in everything, it is impossible. Improve yourself, but enjoy the process itself instead of tormenting yourself with unattainable goals and too high expectations.

11. They do what they like

Happy individuals avoid things and people that take their happiness away. They won’t settle for unfulfilling jobs, fake friends, or the wrong life partners.

Everyday stress not only prevents you from living fully but also damages your health. Find a way to give up things and people that prevent you to be happy and enjoy life. Do not waste your energy on something that does not bring you joy or somebody who does not deserve you.

12. They dream, change, and move forward

Dreaming is the first step on the road to success and happiness. When you don’t dream about anything and don’t set new goals, this leads to the stagnation of thoughts, feelings, and life. Happiness is not about stability and peace. It is all about growth, change, and aspiration for new experiences.

Do not regret saying goodbye to the past. Do not focus on yesterday’s problems. What has already happened cannot be changed. Your past failures made you wiser and should not be an obstacle to new achievements.

These are just some of the habits happy people have. You can adopt them too and change your life for the better!

Anna LeMind, B.A.

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    increase happiness

    Very true!! These are best steps to increase happiness. But I think positivity plays a main role to stay happy. If you are positive you can overcome from any situation in life and that give you happiness.

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    Rebecca L Danis

    It is very hard for me to be happy when I am in bad pain from fibromyalgia. It is survival then. I usually am not happy when I am tired, so maybe the answer is for people to get rest when they are grumpy. I think we need to take a nap like they say for toddlers to take when they are grumpy. Most times people feel better when they rest and eat. If the body isn’t happy then its much harder for the brain (which is part of the body) to be happy. Resting, stretching, sleeping, meditating, and eating nutritious food can help a lot to having a good mood. I am happy now, just because I am not in pain. I was in pain all day and I was not in a good mood. Now my pain finally went away and I am happy. I think doing some yoga stretches helped me out of the pain and then that made me happy. I now am happy whenever I am not in pain, because I am grateful that I am not in pain.

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