All of us have the habit of using negative words. But you may not know that they program your subconscious mind for failure and attract unhappiness.
Using negative words is a reflex action and a way to cope with frustration. We deal with everyday hassles by expressing our stress. But doing so all the time is harmful to our spirit and health. It turns failure and unhappiness into a reality. What are these phrases, and how can we avoid saying them?
Negative Words and The Law of Attraction
Why is it that using negative words attracts negativity? The Law of Attraction is the answer to this question. Simply put, it’s our ability to attract what we think about into our lives. This law is universal and holds true regardless of race or religion. Many people don’t realize how powerful it is.
Some people believe that Buddha taught the law thousands of years ago. He expressed that we receive in our lives (anger, love, happiness) what we put into it. It follows that our thoughts become a reality if they remain in our minds long enough. Our words reflect them and can become real.
This study shows that ‘one biological system acts as an attraction for other units. We activate our magnetic fields when we think long and hard. And, what we say gives them strength.
6 Negative Words And Phrases That Attract Unhappiness
So, what we say shows how we think. The words we use tell others how focused we are on a subject. Consequently, if we use negative words often, we bring unwanted reality into our lives. Many studies show that negative words and attitudes affect our well-being. So, what are the things we shouldn’t say? Why shouldn’t we say them?
1. Self-Defeating Phrases/Words
First of all, we should avoid saying things that limit our confidence. These words show a defeatist attitude. They hinder our potential and ultimately, success.
Self-defeating words include:
- ‘I can’t…..’
- ‘I’m not good enough…’
- ‘I’ll fail.’
- I’m not up to the mark.’
- ‘I’m useless.’
- ‘It’s impossible.’
We put ourselves down if we keep repeating these words. The limiting beliefs behind these words will become a reality.
2. Making negative assumptions
Also, we tend to evaluate situations and assume the negative. We tend to say, ‘The traffic’s horrible,’ or ‘We’re going to have pouring rain.’ There’s no denying the truth behind those words. But they show cynicism. They also highlight that we’ve raised the white flag.
Tweaking the phrases we use changes our relationship with our circumstances immediately. It’s the “glass is half full or half empty” philosophy.
We could say “I will take another route to avoid the traffic’ instead of feeling defeated. That empowers us to find a way out of the situation and get to work on time.
We could also say ‘Bring umbrellas.’ Things aren’t going to stop because of a little rain.
3. Negative Comparisons
Furthermore, our desire to succeed in life leads us to compare ourselves with others. We tend to envy those who are more attractive or have more money. Therefore, we often use negative words such as ‘I’m not as good as she is,‘ or ‘He’s got so much money, he won’t know what to do with it.’
Affirm yourself by saying ‘I am beautiful,’ or ‘I will become financially free.’ Research shows that the negative comparisons cause stress.
4. Dwelling on the past
All of us have experienced unfortunate circumstances and personal setbacks, some of which are traumatic. These are haunting. Therefore, we tend to say ‘If my mum hadn’t neglected me…’ or “If I hadn’t failed that exam...’
Dwelling on the past and using these words stops us from looking for new opportunities. They hinder progress and attract further unhappiness.
5. Disempowering Beliefs About Difficult People
Such statements disempower us from dealing with them. We should say, ‘I will say/do X when I meet him/her.’ Give yourself the opportunity to address potential conflicts or misgivings.
6. Assigning Blame
Finally, we tend to hold others responsible for our misfortune. You must have heard ‘It’s all ______ fault.’ Habitual blaming only increases your bitterness and anger. People whom you are frustrated with don’t realize or bother that they’ve hurt you. While your anger’s justified, it doesn’t help you solve your problems.
Say, “Let’s solve this,’ instead. Empower yourself to move over the difficulties the person has caused, instead of dwelling on them and adding to your anger.
How to stop using negative phrases
How do we stop using negative words? We stop our endless train of negative thoughts. We won’t use phrases loaded with cynicism when we’re not cynical. These tips will help.
- First of all, when you have a negative thought, replace it another, gratifying one.
- Think of success when you visualize failure.
- Use positive words when you catch yourself using ungracious ones.
- Say ‘I can‘ instead of ‘I cannot.’
- Affirm yourself. Allow yourself to feel happy.
- Decide firmly to leave negativity behind.
In all, we won’t use negative words if we think positively.
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