1. I would have been happier if I worked less.
Our minds often tend to come up with this argument, when we think that we would be happier if we did not have to work. We imagine in our heads a life full of pleasures and start falsely assuming that this would make us happier. However, the reality is that idleness is often the main cause of boredom and depression. We are hardworking and creative by nature. We have to solve problems and improve ourselves in order to be happy. Get up and put your heart and soul into something meaningful to you and you will see your own happiness greatly improve!
2. It’s not me, it’s them.
Our mind is trying to make us believe that our unhappiness is caused by people around us, our spouses, parents, etc. We are quick to throw accusations and complaints left to right, like a kid throwing toys in kindergarten. Of course, it takes two to tango, and just as often as we blame others, we feel guilty for the misfortune of other people. We need to take responsibility for our life and do everything possible to improve the situation. The moment we take the responsibility for our lives, we will provide a solid foundation of our true happiness.
3. In order to be happy, I need to know the secret of happiness.
Most likely, there are no secrets to happiness or success. No matter how strongly books, authors and our own mind try to convince us, there is no secret key to open the door to our own happiness. Instead, you can create a vision of your perfect future, shape your own strategy, and then persistently and diligently work on achieving it. There are no shortcuts or secrets to the goals you are trying to achieve. By admitting this, you will advance much further along the path to happiness than trying anything else.
4. If only I had …
Our mind is trying to make us believe that we would be happier if we had the right job, the right house, the right car, or something like that. There is nothing wrong with wanting the best of things and circumstances, but it does not automatically make us happy. These things can make you feel good for some time, but they quickly fade away. Anyone who wants lasting happiness must realize that the ‘vessel’ of wants and desires is bottomless, and it can never be filled to the top.
5. I love what I have and do not want any changes.
By allowing ourselves think this way, we create conditions for a quick failure. Life is a journey with constant changes. Some of them we can control, some of them we cannot. Resistance to change or attempts to take control over everything are doomed to failure. Change is inevitable. You have to accept it and learn to navigate through a continuous stream of changes. The ability to adapt is very important for overall happiness.
6. If something did not happen to me, it never will.
Our mind often falls into despair and frustration when we are only a few steps away from success. Perseverance is very important to achieve happiness. Never let your mind trick you and take defeat. You do not know what tomorrow will bring you.
7. I can just avoid those things that I hate doing.
Typically, this applies to complex tasks, when our mind is trying to convince us to behave this way. Unfortunately, this can often be something that can bring the greatest reward for us. What are the things you put off? Why? Procrastination and avoidance of important things you need to accomplish only delay the moment of happiness entering your life. Do something about your goals and you will add more fuel into the fire of your happiness.
8. The world is dangerous and something awful can happen to me.
Our intelligence tells us that there are many things that are beyond our control. For example, natural disasters, crime and economic crisis. Fear is a powerful emotion, which is used by our mind when it is trying to take control over our actions.
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