Learning how not to be boring takes practice. I bet you never realized that falling into a rut makes you seem uninteresting to others.

Do you feel like a boring person? If you do, then take a minute to do a little self-analyzation. What you think is boring might not be considered dull at all. In fact, you might be surprised by the true understanding of being uninteresting.

On the other hand, you may think you’re one of the most exciting people around, but sadly, friends may feel otherwise. But not to worry, you don’t have to keep living in this assumption. Everyone can embrace change.

How not to be boring

If you do realize that, in fact, you are boring, then don’t panic, and please, don’t get depressed.

We all have misconceptions about who we are and how we affect people. While the things you think are boring may actually be intriguing, the things we think are exciting might not be all that fun after all, as I said before.

So, let’s take a look at what truly makes a boring person, and learn about what we need to change to become more magnetic.

1. Talking too much

Just because you talk a lot, this doesn’t make you an interesting person. In fact, sometimes it’s a sign of nervousness or insecurity.

In certain circumstances, it could be a sign of anxiety. If you don’t fall into any of these categories, then, unfortunately, you could be a rather dull person, fishing for interesting topics to talk about.

Instead of listening and being a sounding board, you find yourself scrambling for words to say. Notice if your conversation partner is starting to look disinterested (eyes glazing over or gaze wandering to other areas of the room). This is a sure sign you’re losing their attention.

If you’re boring, you’re babbling on, and others aren’t paying attention.

2. You don’t read

Intelligent people read books. I’m sorry to just be blunt about it, but it’s true. This is also a fact when it comes to exciting people, and people with the substance that interests others.

You might be a boring person if you aren’t cracking open a few books and learning something new. After all, without learning, you’re only recycling what you already know, and this can definitely get old.

3. Can’t make people laugh

People are drawn to those who can make them laugh. I know I am. My middle son can just make a funny face and make me laugh so hard my stomach aches. He is truly an interesting person, in my opinion.

But have you ever noticed having trouble getting others to laugh at your jokes? Does the atmosphere grow awkward? If so, you haven’t learned how to effectively cause others to find humor in your presence. Unfortunately, you need to learn how to make people laugh so that you aren’t considered a boring person.

4. You’re in a rut

If you want to know how not to be boring, then ask a few of your friends. I bet, they’re going to tell you about how you’re living life in a rut.

Do you always do the same things every weekend? Maybe every Saturday, you go to the movies, and every Sunday, you stay at home and watch television. Well, there’s the truth of it, that’s where your dullness comes from.

If you want a little variety in your life, why not go hiking on Saturday for a change, and maybe fishing on Sunday. But please, don’t get stuck doing these things all the time either.

Learn to change activities up a bit, add spice, add friends. Just get out of the rut, it’s slowly killing you, not only physically, but mentally as well. It can go beyond just being boring.

5. You’re negative all the time

how to deal with negative people

While it might not seem like this is necessarily a boring attribute, negativity can be mind-dulling. If you have that one friend who is never happy, always talking about how life is worse than the last time you talked, you have a boring friend. They are stuck in this negativity too.

If this is you, and you’re stuck in negative patterns, then you are the boring one. It’s obvious what you need to do. Practice positivity, even when you don’t feel like doing so. After a while, it grows on you, and you will find that people start to gravitate around you, finding interest in what you say.

6. Care too much about opinions

Learning how not to be a boring person includes not taking too many outside opinions seriously. Yes, you do have to appreciate what others think, but you should never let opinions frame who you are. If you let the criticisms of others mold you, then you definitely stand a chance of being one of the dullest people around.

Why is this? Because you are living a false life governed by the constructs of everyone but yourself. Resisting a boring personality means knowing your self-worth by appreciating who you really are.

7. Complaining all the time

You’re going to have to stop complaining so much if you don’t want to be a person who sends off boring vibes. Look, no one wants to be around a complainer all the time. It’s irritating, and it’s draining. What’s another word that makes you think of draining, dulling, and uninteresting vibes? Yes, that would be boring.

If you don’t improve in this area, people will see you coming from a mile away, and they will run from you. Your complaints are a form of being negative, and it’s another way of always seeing life as being against you all the time.

Truth is, life isn’t always fair to anyone. So, stop complaining and start appreciating.

You can stop being a boring person

Yes, I said it, raw and uncensored. If you want to know how not to be boring, you just have to stop.

And I know you’re tired of hearing people say, “Just stop”, but hey, it’s a long-term goal you can try and reach eventually, right? But honestly, the first step is to expand your lifestyle. Do new things and learn to listen twice as much as you talk. Be a good friend, find humor in life instead of always seeing the dark parts.

I mean, even the most depressed and hopeless situations have good in them somewhere. Yes, maybe you’ve become boring because you’re scared of the world today, and you have good reason to be. But there comes a time when you have to decide to do things in a different way and drop those habits of boring people.

Do you really want to be labeled, ‘that boring guy‘? I didn’t think so.

So, let’s get to work on that. What can you do today to spice up your life with intelligence and meaning? Feel free to share your thoughts.


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This Post Has 4 Comments

  1. alex

    good article, good valid points. Hard to alter after years of boringness, but there is hope for improvement. Keep up the good articles regards mr boring😀

    1. Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

      Hey, we all have room for improvement. Like Jess, I talk too much too. I babble quite a bit. I also do some of the other things in my own blog post. We all learn more and more each day. That’s what makes a truly intelligent person. Never let advice bring you down. I see you’re doing well with saying woohoo! I’m boring. That’s a good attitude too.

  2. jess quigley

    I,m 86 and when on a discussion group, I can,t shut up, even with a covi 19 mask on. Wish I could create a button inside my head to tell me to shut the Hell up.

    1. Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

      Hey, being boring isn’t so much that you always talk a lot. Sometimes it’s talking a lot about things that show your insecurity. You have to figure out what that is for you.
      Thank you for reading, Jess.

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