Have you ever asked yourself, “Why am I so unhappy“? I think we all have. You could be unhappy and never notice.
Are you happy? Are you sure? Take a moment and genuinely experience your emotions. Try and remember the last time you smiled or laughed. Maybe it wasn’t too long ago, and maybe it was even today.
But that doesn’t matter when it comes to reality. You can laugh, you can smile, and you can say a few kind words, but you can actually be dying inside. Can you feel it now? There could be signs you’ve overlooked that scream that you’re unhappy.
Why am I so unhappy?
Everything can look almost perfect, and life may seem likes it’s going your way, when in truth, you’re unhappy. Why are you so unhappy? Hey, why does anyone feel this way?
You may not have a clue why you have this darkness in the pit of your stomach that keeps nagging at you. Why is this happening? Well, there are subtle reasons that could lead you to the answer.
1. You’re lazy
Did you know that being lazy could be a cover for something deeper? Oh yes, watching television all day or laying around doing nothing could mean you’re actually unhappy. When you start losing that bursting joy you used to have, you’ll notice you also become more sedentary.
This doesn’t mean enjoying downtime is bad. It just means your happiness could be drowning in potato chips and pajamas. You’ve probably not even noticed just how comfortable in this state you’ve become.
2. No social life
There’s nothing wrong with introverts, but even introverts have a certain type of social life. It just happens to be with a couple of friends or only one.
If your social life is completely non-existent, then it’s possible that you’re really unhappy and haven’t noticed your circle getting smaller and smaller. Eventually, you’ll notice your not even going out at all anymore. Yes, unhappiness could be the culprit.
3. Focused on perfection
One subtle sign of unhappiness is when you’re too focused on getting everything done perfectly. You know, it’s okay to accomplish some ‘good enough’ things. That is more than fine.
There will always be imperfections, and if you try to make everything turn up perfect, you will end up extremely unhappy, and never even know the weight of your feelings.
4. You’re over-thinking
Are you still asking, “why am I so happy?” If so, then you could be thinking a bit too much about the same things. Over and over you could be ruminating, trying to figure out things that could fix themselves, or even things that cannot be changed.
Many people overthink and never realize just how unhappy they are. Is this you? Are you over-analyzing some situations in your life?
5. You’re negative
You would think it’s obvious that a negative person isn’t happy, but some think they are. However, you cannot be truly happy if you’re negative most of the time. While it’s quite okay to speak negatively about some things and even have negative thoughts, it’s not okay to dwell in this dark place too long.
It’s a subtle lie that tells you everything is okay when you’re not happy at all. In fact, there is little you truly enjoy if negativity rules your life.
6. You’re materialistic
I might be smiling in my new dress, but deep down inside, I may also be wondering why I’m so unhappy. Material goods do not spell happiness, and it’s taking me a while to understand this.
Listen, there’s nothing wrong with buying things, oh no, but when you invest your emotions into material things, you sell yourself cheap. One almost hidden sign that you’re unhappy is making money just to spend it on things, while the true happiness of human connection is being neglected.
7. A captive of the past
Living in the past, although it feels cozy and warm at times can halt your true happiness. Have you ever taken out old letters, read them, and ended up in tears? Truth be told, some of those tears could have come from happy moments in those letters.
The sad part is many times, those letters are written by someone in your family who is no longer in your life. We read letters, we look at old photographs and we sometimes get stuck there.
This is definitely a reason we’re not happy. Unfortunately, we have to leave some things behind and live in the here and now.
Check your happiness level
“Why am I so unhappy?”, you ask. Well, it’s probably because you’re doing many things that contradict what cultivates happiness. To be happy is to be okay with yourself and others, to spend time with loved ones, and not always get lost in what used to be.
Happiness is also a stark contradiction to negativity and laziness. And happiness cannot be found in a pair of shoes or a bottle of perfume. Neither can it be found in a brand new car.
The truth is that happiness is a state of mind despite anything else in the world. So if you’re wondering why you’re not happy, pay attention to the signals. When you understand why then work on making a change. It’s okay, I often lose my happiness as well, so we can work on this together.
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