It is vital to recognize and support an empath child if they are to be happy and grow up able to make the most of their gift.

Empathy is not always an easy gift to have. Many adult empaths remember being labeled as needy, over-sensitive and emotional when they were children.

When we are not understood as children, it can affect us psychologically as adults. This is why it is so important to recognize an empath child and provide the love and support they need to grow up loving their gift rather than resenting it.

Empathic children often need help and support in dealing with overwhelming emotions and it can be very easy to make them feel worse rather than better if we don’t treat their needs sensitively.

Every child is an individual, but if your kid exhibits the following signs, they are probably an empath child:

1. Extreme sensitivity to the emotions around them

Empath children will pick up on every emotion in their environments. Don’t think you can hide your anger or worry from them – they will pick up on it. Also, don’t think that just because you don’t row in front of them they won’t know there is tension in the family – they will.

Empath children can pick up on subtle clues such as body language, energy, and atmosphere. They also feel the emotions of others directly and so this can be very distressing to them.

Try to be as open with your child as you can in an age-appropriate way. It’s never worth trying to hide problems from them. They will know something is wrong and is being hidden from them, and they will fear the worst. They may also blame themselves.

It is much better to talk about any problems while reassuring them that you can handle it and that it is nothing for them to be concerned about.

2. Physical symptoms

Many empath children suffer from headaches, stomach aches and other physical symptoms. This is probably a way for them to express the feelings they have inside of them and ask for help.

Never dismiss a child’s physical symptoms, but show them sympathy and support. They are probably just seeking comfort and reassurance. Usually, some kind words and a hug can make the symptoms disappear.

3. Being very responsible

While you might think it is a good thing if a child is always helpful and responsible, it isn’t necessarily so. An empath child might take on responsibilities and worries that they are too young to bear.

They may feel responsible for other people’s happiness and dedicate their little lives to helping, healing, fixing and trying to make others happy. They may also worry about things that they cannot solve, such as paying bills.

Try to encourage your empathic child to relax, let go and have fun. Reassure them that they are not responsible for making others happy. When there are problems, make sure they are clear that it is not their responsibility to fix them and that you have it all in hand. This can be hugely beneficial to empath child allowing them to relax and enjoy their childhood.

4. Reacting badly to certain people or situations

If you are not an empath yourself, you might be embarrassed if your child is not loving and kind to a member of your family or one of your friends. But it may be that your child is picking up on an energy that you are just not aware of. Never force your child to spend time with people they don’t like or fear, especially alone.

You must trust your child’s instinct on this one. If you have a relationship in your life that is negative or abusive, then you need to sort it out for your own sake, but also for the sake of your child who will find it extremely damaging.

Always take your child’s fears seriously. They may not always tell you if a person or situation makes them uncomfortable because they fear to upset you. But you will notice it from their behavior.

They may become withdrawn and unhappy or show physical symptoms such as stomach aches or feeling sick. Talk to your child whenever they seem unhappy to get to the root cause of the problem.

Closing thoughts

The most important way to help an empath child is to be as open and honest with them as possible. They will always know when you are lying, so there is no point in trying to hide things from them.

This doesn’t mean pouring out all your problems to your child. Acknowledge any problems appropriately, but explain that you able to handle them and the child doesn’t need to be concerned.

You have to judge each child on an individual basis to work our how much to tell them and what reassurance to give. But you will know when you have got it right because your child will relax, smile more and be more eager to play and have fun.

Remember that your empath child is dealing with overwhelming emotions that they are just not mature enough to cope with. But listening to their fears, reassuring them and giving them plenty of love and hugs will go a long way to helping them cope with these emotions. It will also make sure they grow up knowing how to handle their gift and use it effectively as adults.

Kirstie Pursey

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    kerri warner

    As a child I was alot like this. I often had migraine headaches, was sick to my stomach, at times i even vomited blood. I sometimes would run high fevers for no reason. I kept to myself most times played by myself most of the time. I often would burst out in tears for no reason, my mom would ask what was wrong but I couldn’t tell her because I didn’t know. After awhile mom would get angry about my crying and I took it as I was being bad so I began hiding in closets or in my room. I can remember often having feelings of guilt, worry, anxiety, loneliness, stress, being sad and overwhelmed, often all at the same time. I was so young when all this started and I remember feeling like I had no one to turn to because my family didn’t know how to deal anymore then I did, or they would poke fun at me for ways that I found to deal with all the emotion, such as talking to myself or playing alone with barbies, but the funny thing is those characters that I had created were the emotions that I felt and were as real to me as my siblings and parents. Needless to say, I never learned to except being different or how to deal with what I was feeling. Today I am almost 40 and I have many mental and emotion issues. I have suffered for years and caused a lot of pain and damage to others which I will hate myself and blame myself for constantly and then ultimately hurt myself over. I believe I was an empath child and I am empath still today but for me, I see no gift in the ability only a curse. I would love to be able to use the ability and see it as a good thing but I do not know how or where to turn for help. I feel desperate and lost and hopeless. If you have any suggestions for me on how to cope or deal with what I am going through or where to start to get peace and use my empath abilities more effectively I would be so greatful. Thank You

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        Levon Stokes

        I understand you perfectly. I am an empath too. I tried to kill myself when I was 8 years old. I thought my parents would be happy if not for me. Don’t expect others not like us to understand. I began a therapy years ago, I read about I think it was Gestalt, not sure. I gave to myself what I couldn’t get from others. I was so lonely and never fit in. I was taken in by users and manipulators. I got a note book and called it little me and big me, for example Little me asked? Do you love me (I had a picture of me at six years of age) I visualized her sitting beside me, and I put my arm around her and said, “Yes, I love you and I always will”. I am on facebook, feel free to ask to be friended.

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    Nicole

    Wow, this describes my 9 year old exactly! The stomach aches, headaches and crying for no reason other than feeling overwhelming emotion of which he can’t explain…and so much more. Thank you for the article!

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    Karen

    Your story is about as close to how I se my daughters story that I have ever read..thank you so much for sharing this with us..it helps me to really know she is a true empath now. God bless you.

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    Amanda

    I’ve recently discovered, after thinking I was crazy for my whole life, that I’m an empath. Its been intensely exciting, finally being able to explain some of things I do, but never understood why. My 5 year old daughter, who I’ve always called my mini me lol, I’m pretty sure is one to. I hope to educate myself as much as possible on the subject of being an empath, so as to better understand the gift, and in turn, help my daughter have an easier life than I have had. And books or articles to help, that you could suggest, would be greatly appreciated, and put to good use. Thanks.

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    Anne Pemberton

    Dr Judith Orloff The Empath survival guide is a fantastic tool if you put the tools into practice. Life changing in fact.

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    U.C.

    Thank you so much.

    Now everything got clear. Hard to know, such a “gift” strikes to myself and also my sons.
    I’m heavily struggling to handle this, knowing, that some person in our household can’t do anything with.
    I’ve given up to explain our emotions, because she can’t even understand, and at least: To feel it.
    But I couldn’t speak her guilty. ‘Cause she isn’t.

    One thing I always ask myself: Why didn’t I feel it, as all began?
    Only explanation: Love is blind.

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    C

    I feel like the physical symptoms are not so much just the emotions they are trying to express to you, but it’s actually a biproduct of feeling the negative vibes which effect the child’s own energy centres like in the solar plexus soul centre area causing nausea for example…the dense negative energy reaks havoc on a sensitive body that can feel It…

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    Sara

    I am a 14 year old girl and I have recently done tests and quizzes and I believe I am an empath. I have all of the symptoms about headaches and crying randomly and mostly everything that is considered being an empath but I don’t know what I should do and am scared. I know that this is a gift and not a curse but my parent don’t take me seriously and I’m an only child so I have no siblings to talk to and my friends and school will only think I’m going crazy if I tell them and they will think I am lying to get attention. My parents don’t smoke or drink, but I don’t know whether they would understand or take me seriously. I’ve tried calming myself down but there’s not much time for that. I get up for school early, come back, do homework until late and go to sleep. The cycle repeats every day. If anyone can help me with a suggestion please reply quickly, I am urgent for help. Thank you for taking the one to read this.

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      Trisha

      Sara, Don’t be afraid of what you are, just try to learn as much about it as you can. Embrace nature as much as possible, walk barefoot and lean against trees or hug them 🙂 Learn what you can about energy. I would suggest listening to youtube videos by Dr. Judith Orloff and Christina Lopes. Journaling will likely help you a lot, especially as you get older and can look back and learn from your thoughts. When you feel overwhelmed by your emotions, use water if possible, by showering or bathing, swimming.. this will help release some of the energy you have absorbed from others. I am a mom… I would hope my daughter would tell me about something this important. I encourage you to share it with your parents. Learning about vulnerability is also going to be important for you. Probably a good place to practice is with your family. Best Wishes! Let us know how it goes with your parents.

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