Although the majority of people marry or live with their partner, there are those who stay single forever. A great number of these singles are that way by choice.
It doesn’t really matter if you have an intimate partner or if you stay single forever. It’s your choice. However, there are sad reasons why so many wonderful people choose to go through life on their own. Whether it’s indeed by choice or circumstances, that just happens that way.
Why do great people stay single?
Remaining single is not always because you just can’t find a partner. Oh no, sometimes, you just don’t want one. Can you believe it? There are actually people who prefer being alone because their own company is hard to beat. But for now, let’s look at a few sad reasons why so many great people stay single forever.
1. You crave being alone
Being alone isn’t a bad thing. Taking time for yourself is healthy and helps you re-energize before your next social engagement. But, if you find yourself always preferring alone time to socializing, it can become addictive.
If you’re single now, and you spend all your time alone, it’s possible that you could remain this way forever. I mean, if you’re always alone, then how can you meet someone? In some cases, too much alone time can cause depression as well.
2. Your standards are really high
Have you noticed that every person you’ve dated seems to have something you hate? Well, it could be that you’re just having a string of bad luck in the dating area. Or, it could be that your standards are way too high. Maybe you’re seeking someone who is perfect. Maybe you’re seeking yourself in another person. You may remain single for a long time if your standards are set too high.
3. There’s a fear of commitment
One sad reason great people stay single is that they fear commitment. The responsibility of trying to form a relationship and create a bond may be terrifying. This is especially true for those who still think partners are supposed to cultivate each other’s happiness. Although happiness comes from within, there are many couples who constantly work to make each other happy. For those who fear commitment, this is just too much pressure.
4. Your trust has been damaged
If a past relationship caused severe emotional trauma, then it could be difficult to trust others. Relationships require trust to be healthy, and if there is a lack of trust, there is a lot of work involved to repair this. So, many great people who’ve been betrayed prefer to stay single… sometimes forever.
5. You value friendships more
Many great people stay single forever because they simply value their friends more than intimate relationships. This can be sad, but it can also just be a personal choice. And it could be that you’re just not willing to put an intimate partner before your friends. If this is the case, being single may feel like your only option.
6. Low self-esteem
Some really good people want to be in a relationship but just have no “luck”. You may feel like no one wants you. It’s because of low self-worth and can prevent you from reaching out, socializing, and doing other things to meet new people.
Also, while you may be engaging in social activities, your negative vibes could be sending signals telling others to stay away. While there may be someone who is attracted to you, your body language and lack of eye contact will keep you from pursuing a relationship or even getting to know them.
7. You’re afraid of being vulnerable
Some truly great people stay single forever because they do not want to be vulnerable. This includes having a fear of intimacy and rejecting the love they wanted in the first place. You see, if you keep pushing intimacy away, a relationship will not form, or an existing relationship will die. It’s sad, but sometimes these great people end up alone permanently.
8. Continuous poor relationships
Unfortunately, in our quest to find love, we sometimes keep turning to toxic situations. Evaluate yourself. Have all your relationships ended up in turmoil, fighting, and discontent?
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of dating people that just don’t match your personality, standards, and morals. Yes, you could be settling and then realizing later that you’re not happy. This pattern can consume your life until you give up. Then you may decide to remain single for this reason.
9. You’re bitter and angry
Truly great people can become angry and bitter over time. Negative life experiences that seem to happen over and over again make some people calloused and harsh. Living a single life, to them, may seem like the best thing to do. Many great people stay single forever just because they’re holding onto anger and hurt and will not practice forgiveness.
10. You cannot move on
If a past relationship is haunting you, and you cannot let go, this is a problem. And if you cannot rekindle the relationship, for whatever reason, you’ll find yourself stuck, even living in the past. It’s possible that you will never really partake in another relationship, at least not a serious one. And so, by choice, you may stay single forever.
Being single is not a bad thing
Do not let this post discourage you. If you’re single, there’s nothing wrong with that, as long as you’re healthy. If you’re in a relationship, that’s fine too. But you must consider the reason for either situation. Are you in a relationship because you’re scared of being alone? That’s not healthy. And likewise, are you single because you’re afraid of getting hurt? Maybe that’s not the best reason either.
So, consider this: Many great people stay single forever, but they do not have to.
I still believe in love. What about you?
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