Narcissistic Personality Disorder can stand in the way of a person’s growth.
Everyone understands the effects of feeling too superior. But having Narcissistic Personality Disorder isn’t all bad. Though you should always keep your ego in check, it can help you in some cases.
So what is the bright side of having NPD, if there’s any? Besides these, you’ll have to understand its signs and features.
What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is one in which a person has great feelings of superiority. He or she often spends time thinking of gaining power or success.
Those who have this condition have a great need for admiration. Narcissists often try to control the people around them. NPD begins in adulthood. It is a feature of romantic relationships when one partner tries to exercise control over the other. You may also meet people with NPD at the workplace.
How would you know if someone has Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
You may have prideful people around you, but you’re not sure if they’re narcissists. Perhaps they haven’t received a diagnosis, but they’re likely to have Narcissistic Personality Disorder if they have the following traits.
First of all, they would have an overdeveloped ego. These people would think of themselves as being better off than others. They believe that they should connect with people of high social standing, and have the right to do so.
Also, you probably know a few workaholics. You’ll probably find a narcissist or two among them. These people are too focused on power and success. If they have manipulated you at some point, they are probably narcissists.
Finally, those with NPD are rude, sometimes to the extreme. They are arrogant and show no consideration for the feelings of others.
You Understand the Negative Effects of NPD
Like others, you may perceive NPD in a negative light. That comes as no surprise, owing to its undesired consequences.
First of all, narcissists may have suicidal tendencies which come about because they fail to reach their goals. They may become anxious or depressed.
Furthermore, those with NPD may have difficulty dealing with criticism. They lack social skills and struggle with their relationships as a result. Consequently, they may withdraw from their loved ones. Meaningful connections are, at times, missing from their lives.
Does Narcissistic Personality Disorder have a bright side?
So, is there any merit to NPD? Having an ego can help you in some ways, provided you don’t leave it unchecked. How is healthy narcissism helpful?
1. NPD helps people progress in their careers
First of all, being narcissistic is handy when it comes to career development. Burt Willie et al. from Ghent University studied how personality types affected financial success. They used the Five Factor Personality Theory, or Neo Pi R, on college students and tracked them for 15 years. They found that those with narcissistic personalities advanced further in their careers than others.
2. Narcissists make good leaders
Also, it’s easy for narcissists to become leaders. Palouse explored how leadership worked in groups. He discovered that narcissists became leaders quickly. However, they were also high-handed, according to their teammates. So with social and ethical skills, narcissists can lead.
3. Develops Adults
Furthermore, healthy narcissism helps adults. A study shows that it helps them become more independent and able to handle failure.
4. You’ll take better care of yourself
Moreover, some concern about yourself doesn’t hurt. A study reveals that narcissists had less social anxiety. Besides having a reduced risk of depression, it will prompt you to present a healthy self-image.
5. Builds relationship
Yes, NPD can destroy relationships. But that’s narcissism at an unhealthy level.
A wholesome degree of narcissism, with the right amount of self-esteem, will help you form connections. A healthy relationship is one in which you do not always have to ask for pats on the back.
How would you develop healthy narcissism, not Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
You would want narcissism without letting it get out of hand. How would you nurture it and keep it in check?
First of all, build up your self-confidence. Love yourself without being too preoccupied with you. Dress well without being too fussy about your appearance. Keep to a regular diet and exercise routine.
Also, if you’re in a leadership position at work, find a balance between narcissism and assertiveness. Don’t disregard others’ opinions and learn when to let go of your control.
Finally, put yourself in others’ shoes. Bear their feelings in mind. Remind yourself to consider their needs.
In all, narcissism, without the disorder, can be helpful in certain aspects of life.
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