Signs of mental abuse aren’t as easy to notice as you would think. They can be just as devious and twice as serious as other forms of abuse.
As I’ve mentioned many times before, I was the victim of various forms of abuse, one of which was mental abuse. For years, I was oblivious to what was happening to me. The signs of mental abuse, in this case, went right over my head, and thus I suffered through thinking everything was my own fault, but it wasn’t. After years of enduring such hardships, I finally discovered the truth of what was happening, and then I made steps to change my life.
Recognizing the signs of mental abuse
I did change my life, but it took decades to do so. Now, I can help others who may be living in the dark about their suffering. I want to share several signs of mental abuse that mostly get ignored. Here are the true indicators that someone is mistreating you.
Have you ever been in a relationship where it seemed like your feelings were always ignored? Yes, that can seem, to those who aren’t familiar with mental abuse, like your feelings really aren’t important in certain situations. The truth is, your feelings are important, and those who push your feelings aside practice belittling.
One of the sneakiest ways that someone emotionally abuses another is by telling cruel jokes, jokes that are designed to take a shot at the other’s self-esteem. Now, the twist with this maneuver is when the joke offends you, the teller will criticize you for being too sensitive or not able to take a joke.
Let me be honest with you. The so-called joke was no joke at all. It was a criticism disguised as a joke in case you were offended. You see how that works? Yeah, it took me a long time to figure this one out for myself.
Mental abusers, especially when they’re not getting their way, will use guilt trips to turn things around. They will be quite convincing when they attempt to make you feel guilty and you’ve probably not even done anything wrong at that! You have to be really strong to avoid giving in to the feelings of guilt.
There are a few forms of neglect, including the mental kind. One of the most important aspects of a healthy relationship is being able to meet each other’s emotional needs, and abusers purposely neglect these needs to gain power.
Pay attention to how much they listen and seem to care about your problems. Abusers will always discount your feelings in exchange for putting the spotlight on their own.
Mental abuse can be seen in the form of manipulation. Manipulation can be seen when one partner convinces the other that they cannot be happy unless the relationship is going well. They also use trigger words to control the mood and direction of the relationship as well.
Manipulation can be subtle or it can also be blatant, depending on whether one partner is starting to notice the abuse or not.
Lack of communication
Communication is the backbone of all relationships. The lack of communication will either kill all feelings or it will firmly place all control in the hands of one or the other partner in the union.
Those who resort to mental abuse will never have the desire to communicate because talking things through often reveals the tactics of the abuser.
Abusers often display rapid changes in mood. This could be a form of a disorder, but in other cases, it can be used to throw the partner off topic.
Have you ever noticed your partner’s mood worsening after you suggest you have a problem with them? Sudden anger is a common way that abusers intimidate the submissive partner in a relationship.
Abusers will also attempt to isolate you from your family and loved ones. The reason they do this is that they don’t want family or loved ones giving their opinions on your relationship.
Keeping you away from other people eliminates an outside support system and leave you vulnerable and dependent upon them.
One remarkable way that abusers work their nasty tactics is by denying things that they previously said. For instance, you may remind your partner that they agreed to go somewhere with you and they could deny they ever made such a promise.
Abusers do this all the time in order to get out of things they don’t want to do or to break promises. Oftentimes, if you press the issue, they will retaliate by calling you sensitive and petty.
Never ignore the signs
If you’ve experienced any of these signs of mental abuse, please consider talking with someone. If your partner or friend is willing to talk about this, then give it a shot! Whatever you feel is important, you must follow through. After all, this is your life and you only get one! Take care of yourself!
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