Do You Feel Like You Don’t Belong Here? 4 Reasons Why It May Be a Good Thing

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Do you feel like you don’t belong here, in this world and society? You will be surprised to know that it may actually be a good thing.

We grow up believing that in order to be happy, we need to belong somewhere – a society, a country, a social circle and finally, a family.

The desire to be a part of something bigger than ourselves seems to be our innate need, which probably has evolutionary roots (remember the well-known notion that human is a social animal?). As Wikipedia states, “belongingness is the human emotional need to be an accepted member of a group.”

But what happens in the case of people who don’t only lack this need but also feel that they don’t really fit in this world? Some individuals don’t simply consider themselves different from the rest – they actually have different tastes, way of thinking and priorities in life. They don’t like popular things and activities and don’t go after the goals most people pursue.

They may seem a sort of weirdos to those around them, but the truth is that there is a bright side of being a “misfit.”

Today, we will discuss four categories of people who are very likely to have a sense of detachment from the world because of their emotional and mental makeup. Moreover, it’s not a bad thing at all and is, in fact, an indication of an increased awareness and sensitivity.

1. Deep thinkers

Sadly, the society we live in is giving more and more importance to the primitive instincts and material needs. So it makes sense why individuals capable of deep thought may feel like they don’t belong here.

If you are a deep thinker, then you probably know what truly matters in life. That’s why seeing people around you chasing ephemeral goals and being interested in meaningless stuff is so disappointing. It’s not only disappointing – sometimes, it makes you wonder what you are doing here, among these people, and feel like you come from another world.

2. Old souls

Old souls often feel like they don’t belong here, especially when growing up. Being passionate about unpopular things may make others pick up on your differences and tease you for it. And this can be painful in your awkward childhood and teenage years, making you feel like a misfit who doesn’t have a place in this world.

In your adult years, this gap separating you from other people only becomes bigger. However, you find your path in life and don’t care the same about what they think about you.

3. Empaths

Empaths are so sensitive to the emotions and energy of other people that they may find it uncomfortable to be around them. If you are an empath, you know that every time you watch a news broadcast or learn something sad about someone you know, you get truly upset.

All these side effects of being an empath can also provoke a sense of detachment. And it’s no surprise – there is so much greed, cruelty and violence in today’s world that an empath may suffer, being a part of it.

4. People who experience a spiritual awakening

A spiritual awakening is a great experience that elevates you to a higher level of consciousness and turns you into a spiritually evolved being. However, it is also paired with painful feelings and experiences because fundamental changes are never easy.

Not only do you start to wonder about the existence, reconsidering your life decisions and relationships, but you may also feel detached from those around you and the world in general. It’s all because you are becoming more aware and understand things you previously turned a blind eye to.

If you feel like you don’t belong here, remember that there is nothing wrong with you. Instead of worrying about what others think and seeking their approval, try to find your passion and life purpose. And it’s fine if it doesn’t seem attractive or “cool” to most people. The point is that it should fill your life with meaning and happiness.

Did any of the above-described things ring true for you? We would love to hear your thoughts on this.

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Anna LeMind

Anna is the founder and lead editor of the website She is passionate about learning new things and reflecting on thought-provoking ideas. She writes about science, psychology and other related topics. She is particularly interested in topics regarding introversion, consciousness and subconscious, perception, human mind's potential, as well as the nature of reality and the universe.

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  1. Ben July 23, 2018 at 11:31 pm - Reply

    I often feel like an alien on this planet. At 36 have never really fitted in and getting to the point now where i am burnt out trying.

  2. Pramod solas July 26, 2018 at 6:50 am - Reply

    yes i always feel like pepole are just living meaningless life.they are just surviving.

  3. Hrvoje July 28, 2018 at 7:53 pm - Reply

    This article is mindblowing and perfectly true! I also do not belong to this world, i see how people are living one dimensional lifes…

    • HoboFosho July 30, 2018 at 6:19 am - Reply

      Mind blowing? Really?

  4. Ed C August 3, 2018 at 5:32 pm - Reply

    If you are a spiritual person, you will indeed feel like an alien,.
    The world is full of greed, consumerism and worldly attachments.

    I do know why I feel like I do not fit. God has set me apart from the world,
    as He has many others. All of the great spiritual people have spent that
    lonely walk in soul-land on a narrow road, alone, with God directing their steps..

    If people separate themselves from you, know God may have taken this person
    out of your like for a good reason. A saints walk is often a lonely walk with him/her
    and God. It is because God wants to know you. Jesus said on that day many people will say Lord, Lord, did we not cast demons out in your Name? Lord, Lord, did we not do marvelous works in your name? Jesus will say to them, depart from me ye who do iniquity, I never knew you.

    If you feel set apart, lonely, isolated, count it as a blessing. You hve been chosen..

    • cjm August 11, 2018 at 3:52 am - Reply

      Ed, you have no idea how much i needed to hear your words tonight. I just can’t stop crying with sadness of not wanting to be here, yet loving my friends and family and not wanting to hurt them. I am lonely. I am a loner. I don’t think this will change, nor my view on others who can truly just be cruel and selfish natured. I still see love in the world, however, on nights like tonight, everything seems dark. Thank you for your time and thoughts you’ve posted. You have no idea how many people you’ve touched that don’t comment. (((hugs))))

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