Do You Feel Like You Don’t Belong Here? 4 Reasons Why It May Be a Good Thing

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Do you feel like you don’t belong here, in this world and society? You will be surprised to know that it may actually be a good thing.

We grow up believing that in order to be happy, we need to belong somewhere – a society, a country, a social circle and finally, a family.

The desire to be a part of something bigger than ourselves seems to be our innate need, which probably has evolutionary roots (remember the well-known notion that human is a social animal?). As Wikipedia states, “belongingness is the human emotional need to be an accepted member of a group.”

But what happens in the case of people who don’t only lack this need but also feel that they don’t really fit in this world? Some individuals don’t simply consider themselves different from the rest – they actually have different tastes, way of thinking and priorities in life. They don’t like popular things and activities and don’t go after the goals most people pursue.

They may seem a sort of weirdos to those around them, but the truth is that there is a bright side of being a “misfit.”

Today, we will discuss four categories of people who are very likely to have a sense of detachment from the world because of their emotional and mental makeup. Moreover, it’s not a bad thing at all and is, in fact, an indication of an increased awareness and sensitivity.

1. Deep thinkers

Sadly, the society we live in is giving more and more importance to the primitive instincts and material needs. So it makes sense why individuals capable of deep thought may feel like they don’t belong here.

If you are a deep thinker, then you probably know what truly matters in life. That’s why seeing people around you chasing ephemeral goals and being interested in meaningless stuff is so disappointing. It’s not only disappointing – sometimes, it makes you wonder what you are doing here, among these people, and feel like you come from another world.

2. Old souls

Old souls often feel like they don’t belong here, especially when growing up. Being passionate about unpopular things may make others pick up on your differences and tease you for it. And this can be painful in your awkward childhood and teenage years, making you feel like a misfit who doesn’t have a place in this world.

In your adult years, this gap separating you from other people only becomes bigger. However, you find your path in life and don’t care the same about what they think about you.

3. Empaths

Empaths are so sensitive to the emotions and energy of other people that they may find it uncomfortable to be around them. If you are an empath, you know that every time you watch a news broadcast or learn something sad about someone you know, you get truly upset.

All these side effects of being an empath can also provoke a sense of detachment. And it’s no surprise – there is so much greed, cruelty and violence in today’s world that an empath may suffer, being a part of it.

4. People who experience a spiritual awakening

A spiritual awakening is a great experience that elevates you to a higher level of consciousness and turns you into a spiritually evolved being. However, it is also paired with painful feelings and experiences because fundamental changes are never easy.

Not only do you start to wonder about the existence, reconsidering your life decisions and relationships, but you may also feel detached from those around you and the world in general. It’s all because you are becoming more aware and understand things you previously turned a blind eye to.

If you feel like you don’t belong here, remember that there is nothing wrong with you. Instead of worrying about what others think and seeking their approval, try to find your passion and life purpose. And it’s fine if it doesn’t seem attractive or “cool” to most people. The point is that it should fill your life with meaning and happiness.

Did any of the above-described things ring true for you? We would love to hear your thoughts on this.


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  1. Ben July 23, 2018 at 11:31 pm - Reply

    I often feel like an alien on this planet. At 36 have never really fitted in and getting to the point now where i am burnt out trying.

    • Monica October 15, 2018 at 10:20 pm - Reply

      Sorry you feel that you are “burnt out,” don’t be… you are special and have found the fundamental part of being you… you know who you are, most people don’t get that, so that makes people like us…special. I don’t feel like I belong and think too much…lol, I really like this article and found all of the items listed belong to me… I don’t feel “burnt” out, I feel special… sounds sort of funny but what I am trying to say is, I have decided to look within and have found peace. I look in the mirror and say I love me quite often and have found peace within… and I love that place, no one can take it, I won’t allow it. I hope you find it too and you can, I don’t know what will work for you but I meditate…which I absolutely love. I have found this free app called Calm, and I loved it so much I purchased it for about $5.00/month…It’s truly amazing and it hits on the button every time I need a lift. Takeaway, I am happy with me and that is all that matters and I am good to people, I don’t use the word “hate” and I don’t wish ill will on anyone, Karma will usually take care of those who deserve it. As a complete stranger to you, I only with you the best and know, you are truly unique and special… like we all are, you just have to now accept it… :))))))) BE HAPPY AND FIND PEACE!!! Namaste!

  2. Pramod solas July 26, 2018 at 6:50 am - Reply

    yes i always feel like pepole are just living meaningless life.they are just surviving.

  3. Hrvoje July 28, 2018 at 7:53 pm - Reply

    This article is mindblowing and perfectly true! I also do not belong to this world, i see how people are living one dimensional lifes…

    • HoboFosho July 30, 2018 at 6:19 am - Reply

      Mind blowing? Really?

    • MONICA RUBIO October 15, 2018 at 10:22 pm - Reply

      To sum it up, I agree… it’s probably “mind blowing” because you can relate to each item, as I can… deep thinking… without having to explain, is truly beautiful… Peace!

  4. Ed C August 3, 2018 at 5:32 pm - Reply

    If you are a spiritual person, you will indeed feel like an alien,.
    The world is full of greed, consumerism and worldly attachments.

    I do know why I feel like I do not fit. God has set me apart from the world,
    as He has many others. All of the great spiritual people have spent that
    lonely walk in soul-land on a narrow road, alone, with God directing their steps..

    If people separate themselves from you, know God may have taken this person
    out of your like for a good reason. A saints walk is often a lonely walk with him/her
    and God. It is because God wants to know you. Jesus said on that day many people will say Lord, Lord, did we not cast demons out in your Name? Lord, Lord, did we not do marvelous works in your name? Jesus will say to them, depart from me ye who do iniquity, I never knew you.

    If you feel set apart, lonely, isolated, count it as a blessing. You hve been chosen..

    • cjm August 11, 2018 at 3:52 am - Reply

      Ed, you have no idea how much i needed to hear your words tonight. I just can’t stop crying with sadness of not wanting to be here, yet loving my friends and family and not wanting to hurt them. I am lonely. I am a loner. I don’t think this will change, nor my view on others who can truly just be cruel and selfish natured. I still see love in the world, however, on nights like tonight, everything seems dark. Thank you for your time and thoughts you’ve posted. You have no idea how many people you’ve touched that don’t comment. (((hugs))))

      • MONICA RUBIO October 15, 2018 at 10:27 pm - Reply

        CJM, you are not alone… just think, there are soooo many people like us… deep thinking is special and we are… what would this world be like if there weren’t people like us to balance the rest out? That is why we are here… find inner peace, it’s truly a beautiful place… I love me and know who I am, be good but first love yourself… dance, smile and close your eyes to see the world… Wow! You are definitely not alone…


    • TheUniverse September 12, 2018 at 1:56 am - Reply

      thank you from the bottom of my heart
      the awakening path can be tough sometimes but at the end I am happy I have taken the matrix red pill because most of the time I experience immense bliss and gratitude
      to everybody who feels this way
      do not worry its just a beginning phase of the awakening
      next step is generally the realization that all of this really is a miracle to enjoy
      sure you will have some moments when you feel sad of the blindness of many and no one you can truly share your experince with
      but be joyful cause you will get to a point when you will experince g
      God in the unity of existence and will cry for the immense love you will fell

  5. C August 22, 2018 at 9:27 am - Reply

    All of these hit home. A lot of these articles suggest to find your purpose but how? For [email protected]*k sake. How? Everything “job” seems pointless.

    • TheUniverse September 12, 2018 at 1:45 am - Reply

      when you are awaken you know the word purpose doesnt really have a meaning
      the only thing you can do is try to enjoy this drama reality
      to live peacefully without being part of the meaningless rat race
      i suggest you just sit down meditating till you decide what you want to do as if money where no object and once you know what makes you happy and how you want to live this life then go for it and forget about the money because as the great alan watts would say
      if you said that getting the money is the most important thing you will spend your time completely wasting your time
      you will do things you dont like doing in order to go on living which is to do things you dont like doing
      which is stupid!!
      I want to travel and see as much beauty in this world as possible and nothing can stop this burning desire to experince this weird dream that we all share that we call existence and i wanna experience as much of it as i possibly can
      I much rather become a monk then living most people lifes with jobs they hate and family they dont really love with the only hope to get home to relax in front of a box
      go out and breath in some good prana brother
      God is within you helping you playing this life
      happy life to everybody and much love from the universe

    • Sunny September 21, 2018 at 6:15 pm - Reply

      Job is definitely meaningless ! Fled twice and resigned once from my last 3 jobs. Materialism gets in the way of becoming truly happy.
      I wish I had a little island on the South Atlantic Ocean and a nice, kind, beautiful girlfriend, both of us living there, eating from the nature, gazing at stars, swimming in the beach – with no one else around. Also, we would have all the skills needed to survive.

  6. Fydron September 8, 2018 at 7:43 am - Reply

    I have always felt this way other people just seem like drones to me doing same boring routines all day every day i just cannot relate to anyone except the one friend i have who also thinks this way.

  7. T W September 11, 2018 at 6:48 pm - Reply

    I’ve lived this way since I was a child. My family didn’t like or want me. I grew up thinking they were like animals. They were mean spirited, abusive brutes. My relationships have always been superficial and I have no close friends. I always thought they were shallow and incapable of any deep thinking or feeling. I have to pretend to care. Romance has been even worse. I attract abusive sociopaths so I don’t date any more. To this day I feel isolated, an outcast. Even in a room full of people I feel awkward and alone. I’ve pretty much given up on any long term relationships. The issue that bothers me the most is being unable to fit in at work. Most people don’t like anyone who’s different so, sooner or later, I end up being a target for some workplace bully or thrown under the bus for something someone else did or didn’t do. It doesn’t matter how hard I work or how helpful or nice I am to coworkers. Really hard to make a living when I’m spending more time looking for work than actually working. Of course it’s extremely difficult to explain why I have so much education but so many short term positions. My resume is a disaster so I end up working pointless, low paying jobs with no future.

    • TheUniverse September 12, 2018 at 2:09 am - Reply

      dont give up long relationships only because you have had bad experiences
      we are few but we are out there
      thare are people like you that dont fit in this society and that only desire is to see a smile on your face
      I do care about you and wish I could reassure you that everything is ok
      you will find a good job and lovely coworkers and a partner that understands you and loves you for what you are
      maybe you just need to take a big change like moving to another country where people are more happy and you can start again doing something you really like
      Ill pray and ask the universe so that it brings you happiness and love for the rest of your life
      stay well T W

    • The END October 2, 2018 at 10:46 am - Reply

      TW, I can’t believe that what you described sounds exactly like me!! I know exactly what you mean. It would be nice to meet most of the people searching on this site. If us “misfits” could all get together, we’d have a tribe of supportive and loving friends.

  8. TheThinker September 20, 2018 at 3:41 am - Reply

    This made me cry, in a good way i think, and i never cry but i feel so strongly about this, all this time i have felt so strange and alone in this world full of “machines/people” that just go with the flow like everything is about fitting in and having the latest thing or being all that even tho they hate what they do or just dislike why they do it, but they do it so they mean something in the world. Everything is about “me.. me.. me” these days and i don’t want anything to do with it. I have never meet a person i could really talk to when i talked to them, that properly doesn’t make any sense, its like i’m disconnected to some bond others share or connect to and i feel lost, but free at the same time. Every job seems pointless, it does not help anything it just make things go, but does not make a difference in the world, we still don’t help the poor, the helpless, the lost and who ever needs help for any reason. i feel like we should be as one and stop producing and start being together and live. Of course not all jobs are like this but i feel like the vast majority is and if every one just made what we needed instead of all that could be needed, we all would feel like we had a purpose, or not feel.. we would really have a real purpose to be here, to enjoy our living by living one day at the time with no time used on worries of what tomorrow brings or if we would get that high payed crap job to secure our family’s future, if we could pay the bill or if we would ever find those things that could like really make you happy in life? because we simply wouldn’t need to. I feel like the internet was the biggest mistake of human history, We are loosing our Humanity to tech, or maybe we lost it allrdy?

  9. Jean Kirkwood September 22, 2018 at 8:40 pm - Reply

    I’m one of those people, like I feel like I’m not wanted to be around them, I get hurt, not them talking to me like I was a Aliens from far away like a Lyran, Palidian or something… I look at the sun all time and watch the star at night like I belong there..the question is am I a special person that people don’t see…!

  10. Anon September 24, 2018 at 1:19 am - Reply

    The harsh reality is realising that all of those around you, have no idea of their insignificance, of the insignificance of those things they think important. That the rules they consciously and subconsciously live by are fabricated, and that you are trapped by their beliefs, their ideas, their simple thoughts. Knowing you are on a different level, but not knowing what that difference really is. THAT is feeling like you don’t belong, even this basic article above, is all still part of the basic underlining of human averageness. It doesn’t matter if you are different, it doesn’t matter if you are better, you will never understand what you are here for, because there is no reason. None of us asked to be here, none of us know what we are doing.

  11. AussieT October 1, 2018 at 4:58 pm - Reply

    Comments posted by The Universe and The Thinker has really resonated with me. These two posts have almost entirely described how I feel and see the world.

    I have been struggling with being part of the world that people have created. As much as I try to fit in, the more I get disappointed.

    I have predominantly been a very giving person with very simple ideas of how to treat others. Unfortunately, in my experiences, people have either taken advantage or take my good will as a weakness to exploit.

    Sooner or later, everyone has a breaking point and my breaking point has turned into depression.

    As much as I want to see the good in people, most often I’m left disappointed with how selfish humans can be. Many people I have encountered either at work or social setting seem to be in competition with each other or have personal agendas. I’ve often wondered if those perceptions are just paranoid thoughts. But the older I get, the more I realize that there is really nothing wrong with my perception.

    Evolution has cultivated a world of survival of the fittest. I don’t want buy into that idea, as that idea seems to be cold, not loving and forceful.

    It’s been great reading posts on this forum as it reinforces that I’m not going mad.

    Thanks to everyone for having the courage to share their experiences.

  12. The END October 2, 2018 at 11:06 am - Reply

    Aussie T, I couldn’t have said it better…and to everyone else’s posts, I concur! And to Ms. Anna LeMind, your article touched me on many different levels! I actually never comment…but I can’t believe how close to home it feels here, so I just had to.

    May the Universe and Beyond conspire for all of us and lead us in the right direction(s). May we be blessed with wisdom and understanding. May we all find our place on this planet, not to fit in but to fulfill our life’s work. May we be granted happiness, love, and prosperity!! Much love to all you GOOD, but disconnected and lonely souls!!!

  13. Beto October 4, 2018 at 12:52 am - Reply

    I feel exactly the same ways as described above and more, I guess… I feel as if I were not from this place or from this time… I sometimes seem to have déjà vu and I feel a mix of exhilaration and sadness all together… I even feel my throat choking and feel like crying… I know I cannot quit, I won’t give up my life or do anything against myself but how I wish I could find a way to get away from it all and go to where I belong… I am stuck here down south and I am sure I belong to opposite side of the planet… And I feel this since I was a kid and now I am pushing sixty… Fifty-seven years of relentless effort to feel fit in this place… so far I’ve got to say I don’t get it, I don’t belong in here in this place!
    Guess I need help, I need to find people who feel the same way and share what I feel… But I guess I’d be a pain in the neck to this poor creature, haha!

  14. Left for Dead October 5, 2018 at 11:30 pm - Reply

    I am the unwanted, the obsolescence. the doddering bound to wake up and shimmy though an empty husk of existence that never blossoms. The tapestry of the Earth is woven around me, providing negative space for which I have spent many nights staring at its lights and colors and fabrics mingling together in stitched timing. To feel like the world left me so long ago is to feel like I should leave myself. Nothing has value that does not appreciate what I given, freely, into this theater. A dry cough in the audience. Static on an otherwise unoccupied radio wave. There is nothing for me here; I do not belong here. I never did.

    • The End October 6, 2018 at 11:14 am - Reply

      Left for Dead, you are not alone in this feeling of insipid existence! It so often feels this way because we are not around the right people, or the people who feel the same way. All of us who feel left out behave in a similar manner, and most of us probably keep to ourselves simply because we feel alien to this planet. But there are so many other beautiful things to our existence here on earth…the earth alone abounds with a vast array of miracles that we can connect to everyday. Earth, Sun, Moon, Water, Air, Nature as a whole. These are all things that can bring us back to a feeling of connectedness. You’re words are profound and pierce to the depths. Trust me, you are not alone. I am here; I read your words. You are here and you belong here so that people like me can also realize that we’re not alone. Stay for now.

  15. Lily October 7, 2018 at 4:42 pm - Reply

    The very end you have it wrong. People who feel like they don’t belong here don’t feel the need to fit in or be cool or worry about seeking anyone’s approval. We’re worried what life is going to bring us. Why are we here? What is the meaning of all of this?

    • The END October 10, 2018 at 10:35 pm - Reply

      Hi Lily, was your response to my comment? If so, I don’t think you understood what I meant to say. I don’t fit in and neither am I trying to fit in anywhere, or trying to be cool, or worried about others’ approval. But we all are human and do need a supportive atmosphere filled with like-minded people. Otherwise, we would not be on this site, reading these comments, and trying to connect with other people who feel the same way.

  16. Rochelle October 10, 2018 at 4:04 pm - Reply

    I don’t belong here, in this century/modern life. Can’t live, can’t die…feeling trapped in this miserable fast paced life !

  17. Riya October 12, 2018 at 11:31 am - Reply

    I don’t know why I feel so but I cannot see people in problems. Sometimes I think why cannot there can be another world where no one is selfish

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