Do You Feel Like You Don’t Belong Here? 4 Reasons Why It May Be a Good Thing

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Do you feel like you don’t belong here, in this world and society? You will be surprised to know that it may actually be a good thing.

We grow up believing that in order to be happy, we need to belong somewhere – a society, a country, a social circle and finally, a family.

The desire to be a part of something bigger than ourselves seems to be our innate need, which probably has evolutionary roots (remember the well-known notion that human is a social animal?). As Wikipedia states, “belongingness is the human emotional need to be an accepted member of a group.”

But what happens in the case of people who don’t only lack this need but also feel that they don’t really fit in this world? Some individuals don’t simply consider themselves different from the rest – they actually have different tastes, way of thinking and priorities in life. They don’t like popular things and activities and don’t go after the goals most people pursue.

They may seem a sort of weirdos to those around them, but the truth is that there is a bright side of being a “misfit.”

Today, we will discuss four categories of people who are very likely to have a sense of detachment from the world because of their emotional and mental makeup. Moreover, it’s not a bad thing at all and is, in fact, an indication of an increased awareness and sensitivity.

1. Deep thinkers

Sadly, the society we live in is giving more and more importance to the primitive instincts and material needs. So it makes sense why individuals capable of deep thought may feel like they don’t belong here.

If you are a deep thinker, then you probably know what truly matters in life. That’s why seeing people around you chasing ephemeral goals and being interested in meaningless stuff is so disappointing. It’s not only disappointing – sometimes, it makes you wonder what you are doing here, among these people, and feel like you come from another world.

2. Old souls

Old souls often feel like they don’t belong here, especially when growing up. Being passionate about unpopular things may make others pick up on your differences and tease you for it. And this can be painful in your awkward childhood and teenage years, making you feel like a misfit who doesn’t have a place in this world.

In your adult years, this gap separating you from other people only becomes bigger. However, you find your path in life and don’t care the same about what they think about you.

3. Empaths

Empaths are so sensitive to the emotions and energy of other people that they may find it uncomfortable to be around them. If you are an empath, you know that every time you watch a news broadcast or learn something sad about someone you know, you get truly upset.

All these side effects of being an empath can also provoke a sense of detachment. And it’s no surprise – there is so much greed, cruelty and violence in today’s world that an empath may suffer, being a part of it.

4. People who experience a spiritual awakening

A spiritual awakening is a great experience that elevates you to a higher level of consciousness and turns you into a spiritually evolved being. However, it is also paired with painful feelings and experiences because fundamental changes are never easy.

Not only do you start to wonder about the existence, reconsidering your life decisions and relationships, but you may also feel detached from those around you and the world in general. It’s all because you are becoming more aware and understand things you previously turned a blind eye to.

If you feel like you don’t belong here, remember that there is nothing wrong with you. Instead of worrying about what others think and seeking their approval, try to find your passion and life purpose. And it’s fine if it doesn’t seem attractive or “cool” to most people. The point is that it should fill your life with meaning and happiness.

Did any of the above-described things ring true for you? We would love to hear your thoughts on this.


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Anna is the founder and lead editor of the website She is passionate about learning new things and reflecting on thought-provoking ideas. She writes about science, psychology and other related topics. She is particularly interested in topics regarding introversion, consciousness and subconscious, perception, human mind's potential, as well as the nature of reality and the universe.


  1. nitin November 2, 2018 at 6:29 am - Reply

    I am at age of 14 and feeling all the things u mentioned inthis site .i want to go to a journey where i i ll know about me,life everything with peace . Idont want to live this life wher no one does anything new in this world.i want to leave my house.

    • dontmindme December 11, 2018 at 10:42 pm - Reply

      i also kind feel the same.

  2. ahimsa42 November 4, 2018 at 10:02 pm - Reply

    “I am ashamed of the race of beings to which I belong. It is so cruel and bigoted, so hypocritical, so soulless and insane. I would rather be an insect … a bee or a butterfly … and float in dim dreams among the wild-flowers of summer than be a man and feel the horrible and ghastly wrongs and sufferings of this wretched world.” -Professor J. Howard Moore

    “Aren’t humans amazing? They kill wildlife – birds, deer, all kinds of cats, coyotes, beavers, groundhogs, mice and foxes by the million in order to protect their domestic animals and their feed. Then they kill domestic animals by the billion and eat them. This in turn kills people by the million, because eating all those animals leads to degenerative – and fatal – health conditions like heart disease, stroke, kidney disease, and cancer. So then humans spend billions of dollars torturing and killing millions more animals to look for cures for these diseases. Elsewhere, millions of other human beings are being killed by hunger and malnutrition because food they could eat is being used to fatten domestic animals. Meanwhile, few people recognize the absurdity of humans, who kill so easily and violently, and once a year send out cards praying for “Peace on Earth.”~ David Coates

  3. Raqhel November 16, 2018 at 6:07 am - Reply

    I so feel like this i don’t have many friends but i feel so different from the ones I do have they all seem like there in a race to have more and the latest of material and to cherish the moments that we have wtith others feels more meaningful than materialistic I wish I could find one person that would sit and cherish the little things we have in life like moments

  4. Anirban November 17, 2018 at 7:49 pm - Reply

    I have friends in fact lot of friends .I’m doing Engineering but I don’t want lot of money I don’t want all kind of luxurious stuff sometimes I feel like why I am doing this I just want to be alone far from everyone. I am not hut or anything like that I just want to live alone, where I can stay the way I want,no one to judge me.I am a misfit because I don’t want anything from life,I am alive because I am scared of death.

  5. Yvette November 18, 2018 at 3:29 pm - Reply

    I resonate with every point you make above. I only feel like a weirdo when I ‘see’ or ‘hear’ or ‘sense’ things that others don’t. I feel privileged to have these abilities but I keep them quiet. I cannot be who I really am because so many people are afraid of all things different. I find that in life I help people get ahead because that is what they want. However as soon as they get there I’m no longer part of their life. I become invisible to them. I enjoy meditations either guided meditations or pure because I can just be me. It takes me to a different place where I’m not judged but I can just be. The noise of life stops and all that is left is me. The only noise I can’t seem to block out is that if the WiFi box! I can turn ours off but can still hear the piercing noise of the 8 other WiFi systems surrounding us. I just need to bide my time until I have learnt this life’s lessons before I can go home.

  6. Nicky November 28, 2018 at 10:53 am - Reply

    I feel the same as all you lovely people that have left comments on here, some days I’m crying in frustration because people just seem too materialistic and their ego’s get in the way of who they truly are in life. I will plod along in life and create my own happiness until i’m dead.

  7. Jim Hurd December 1, 2018 at 12:13 am - Reply

    but when you KNOW you dont belong is that differernt than a feeling? i send any b day and Christmas cards back to sender i KNOW im unworths of such stuff

  8. Lu December 2, 2018 at 5:32 am - Reply

    I’m really feeling this a lot. More by seeing the other ways of life people are living and realizing how my life is on a different plane. It confuses the heck out of me to see people hungering for power over others even if that means harming those they’ve gained power over. Or my old ex-friend getting married then writing an article about how she hid 5 bad things about herself from her husband till after they were married – and was conceited and proud of fleecing him.
    It’s like what happened to true, real, good love? Is it just about self pleasure and finding people or objects that can stimulate your need for pleasure? And calling that “love”?

    I want to share something that I’m aware of, not so much a religious argument, but something important to me. That I wish everyone knew for their benefit. I also know there are people who want nothing to do with religion for a million different valid reasons. I’ve been in a period of that myself. Mainly I want to share that Jesus – the guy from 2000 years ago – his heart is still present for whomever wishes Him to be there. In my personal experience, my heart knows 100% times one billion that He is the most loving person who exists in the universe. That He is not deceitful or proud or power hungry, or indifferent to suffering and torture. He is true and complete safety. You may have to guard yourself from people on earth who do evil to others and live for themselves regardless to the cost to others, but Jesus is a person who has 0% ill will in His heart. He would never lay a finger on a person. He would never hurt or torture.
    Other people representing “religions of Jesus” may have done evil to you or many others. They are wolves. They are not Jesus. I am sorry for anyone who has a negative understanding of Jesus because of those thieves.

    I’m still on my own faith journey, and know many might not have known Jesus as a person connected and present to them. But if anyone who is interested in or curious about what I’ve written and wants to know how to know Jesus, then mainly, start finding time by yourself and start talking in your heart to the person named Jesus. Ask Him if He’s safe and trustworthy. Ask Him if He will stay near your heart. Ask Him whatever you wish. Whatever’s in your heart that’s important to you.

    We’re not made for this world – for cruelty, lack of compassion, tyranny, rape, torture. We belong to the other world where only true love for oneself and an other exists.

  9. G.F December 2, 2018 at 5:43 am - Reply

    I feel different in a way that i gave up on us, on humans on my species. We are a virus on this Planet.

  10. Helmut December 2, 2018 at 7:14 am - Reply

    I am so ashamed of the species called Homo sapien. Each day that passes reenforces the belief of how infantile we are. I have never felt like I belonged here, but the feeling is growing with each day that passes. We are an absurd, little species so full of hubris. Does anyone else feel trapped here? Except for my beloved Dogs and all the non- human animals, I have no true friends. With each day that passes I grow less interested in being a part of this society mankind has forged. I have no idea WHY THE HELL i chose to come back here. Yes, I obviously need to finish up my soul’s lessons….but isnt there another way to do this? I dont belong and Im highly aware of this. How does any one else out there who feels this way, cope with living among these dense, moronic, heavy energy species?

    • LadyBelle December 12, 2018 at 11:30 pm - Reply

      Hi Helmut

      I instantly replied cause that’s exactly how I feel from time to time. In those moments I ask myself similar questions… Why do I have to be here as a statue observer when there’s nothing I can do about it? Why would I choose to come here and hurt this way as well? If everything’s possible in spirit realm then some other way would be possible too? Where’s the sense in having high moral values, being empathic, wanting to create better society when I have no means to do it? Why do I have to witness life existence in low frequency level when I only want to contribute and create something beautiful?
      In other times I accept there’s a reason for my existence here, that my spirit family only wants good for me and that in some way I do contribute…but I’ll understand that better someday or when I’m no longer here but in spirit world. Love is the most beautiful and sincerest feeling one could possibly discover & feel on this planet. There is beauty on Earth. There could be paradise. We can discover all of these through people, animals, my beloved nature, art… The problem is in the end in loneliness, when you have no one to share your soul with in this short existence on Earth.

  11. J December 7, 2018 at 8:25 pm - Reply

    This hit home for me, and thank you. I thought I was becoming depressed, however do not feel depressed. I am questioning everything in my life for example: Why am I not like other mothers? Why do certain things resonate with me and nobody else? I am truly at the beginning of a crazy journey and this read really helped. Thank you for the knowledge. Much Love.

  12. Matthew Vickers December 8, 2018 at 4:40 am - Reply

    Everything mentioned here hits home. I have come to the conclusion that earth is a prison planet. The human race was sent here because we dont know how to live in a true civilization. My evidence …. 1. Humans dislike most naturally occurring food sources. 2. Humans are plagued with back problems due to the fact we originate from a lower gravity environment. 3. We are the only species with sustainable upright posture.

  13. dontmindme December 14, 2018 at 2:03 am - Reply

    whenever i think of some place it gives me some feeling and kinda feel sad

  14. P. Garabatto December 14, 2018 at 8:02 am - Reply

    Is it possible being the 4 things you described? Being an old soul, an empath and have been awaken? Also, i have the theory some people has more alien DNA than others, therefore those who have more, also have more troubles abput ‘fiting in’ and sruff. Literally, genes call them home. Am i talking nonsense?

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