Many of the unique gifts of empaths are misunderstood by others. An empath and other people may see these traits as flaws, but they are actually great gifts.
Empathy is the experience of fully understanding what someone else is experiencing. An empath can put themselves in another’s shoes and feel what they are feeling.
Empaths absorb other people’s emotions and even physical symptoms. They filter the world through their intuition and often just ‘know’ things without understanding how. Sometimes this skill is voluntary and other times they have little control over it, especially if they are a natural empath. Unfortunately, these traits of empaths can sometimes be misunderstood.
There are many positives to being an empath as well as a few downsides. However, other people, as well as the empath themselves, sometimes see these traits as flaws.
There are 7 common empath traits that are often seen as character flaws but which are actually great gifts.
1. Being emotional or moody
Because empaths pick up on the emotions and moods of others and take them on as their own, others sometimes think we are over-emotional or moody. People often see this as a character flaw.
However, without this trait, we empaths would be less able to help and understand others. Empaths use this skill to tune in to others’ feelings and this makes us great people to go to for help and support. We will really listen and understand things from your point of view.
When we are overwhelmed by emotions, we usually just need a bit of time to process these strong emotions. We can also benefit from some extra support when we are experiencing distress or low moods.
2. Being highly sensitivity
Many people claim that empaths are overly sensitive. It is true that we empaths can easily feel hurt because we feel things so deeply. At the same time, it is this trait that makes us able to respond to others in pain. It might be annoying when an empath takes offence at something you say.
However, all we need is a little reassurance that we are valued and we will soon be fine again.
3. Needing to be alone
Empaths are often described as loners or even aloof and anti-social. This is simply not true. Empaths love people. We thrive on deep meaningful interactions with others. We love to understand others and to be understood in turn.
It’s just that our sensitivity to others needs and desire to help can drain us. All we need is a little alone time to recharge and restore ourselves. Then we will ready to help the next time we are needed.
4. Being perceived as boring
Many empaths are physically very jumpy. We are often easily startled by innocent things such as an unexpected hand on the shoulder or the popping of a balloon. Many of us also hate to watch scary movies or violence on TV. Some people think our lack of adventurousness makes us boring.
But I think we have much of interest to offer. We are very reflective, thoughtful and self-aware. We might not ever choose to go abseiling or scuba-diving, but we will delve deep into our psyches and are happy to attempt to scale intellectual and spiritual heights.
5. Worrying too much
Empaths often worry a lot and this can be annoying to others. I think many people wish I could lighten up, take life less seriously and chill out. But my worrying is part of what makes me the person I am.
Even I get annoyed with how much I worry, but I try to reassure myself that worrying about others is a natural part of being an empath. I can often provide help and support to others because I think about their problems and needs so deeply.
6. Being drawn to underdogs
Empaths often find themselves drawn to those who are suffering because we want to help relieve them of their pain. We look out for those who are grieving or unhappy.
Sometimes, our closest family and friends may think that we are neglecting them in order to take care of other people’s needs. But rest assured that we will be there for you when we need us. That’s what we do.
7. Being perceived as lazy
Empaths can’t bear to do something if their heart and soul aren’t in it. I once worked in a shop that sold junk food and alcohol and I loathed it. The people were really nice, but the job I was doing was hurting people and not benefiting the world. So, I had to give up the job.
Some people might interpret this reluctance to do certain jobs as laziness. Luckily, I found more suitable work that makes me feel like I am benefitting the world.
If you are an empath and are sometimes criticised for having some of these empath traits, take heart. These are the things that make you who you are and you should not be ashamed of them.
Of course, it’s always a good idea to be aware of the effect we are having on those around us and try to correct any flaws that harm ourselves and others. However, this must come from a place of accepting ourselves and a genuine desire to improve ourselves rather than from fear of what others think of us or trying to please everyone else.
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