When you’re afraid, your instinct is to run away. However, the healthy thing to do is face your fears and overcome the obstacles that hold you back.
I have learned how you need to face your fears. Yes, I am afraid of things, although I like to think I’m fearless at times. I am imperfect like everyone else.
Honestly, to be afraid of something is to be human, and it’s part of what molds our character. Fear also protects us when our instincts start to shout alarms about certain situations. So, we can’t knock fear altogether now, can we?
Unfortunately, fear keeps us from doing things that could possibly improve our lives, and this is why we must face our fears. Facing our fears can improve our self-esteem and self-worth as well.
Looking fear square in the eyes
So, we must face our fears. Now that we’ve established that fact, we need to understand how to do this. There are many ways in which we can face the thing which frightens us. These tips are practical and easy. All it takes is a little determination in order to reach our goal. Come on, let’s learn how to face our fears.
1. Educate yourself about your fears
Some fears come from logical reasons, while others make little sense at all. For instance, if you are afraid of flying, then you should read more about the statistics on the negative outcomes of flying. The truth is, more deaths happen in automobile accidents than on airplanes. In fact, your chances of meeting your doom on a plane ride are 1 in 7 million. More people die from smoking cigarettes.
When it comes to other fears, you just have to understand about the worst possible outcome involved. What is the worst that could happen if you stand up in front of a large crowd and give a speech? Think about these things, learn the facts and then face your fears.
2. Take your time and push slowly
When you decide to face your fears, don’t jump in head first. This could cause you to panic and then become even more afraid of what you are afraid of. Lol
So, when you decide to get better with this bondage, take one step at a time. Slowly push yourself to endure more and more of what makes you cringe. It will not be easy at first, but it will get easier the more steps that you take.
3. Talk to your fears
I know it may seem silly, but you should confront your fears verbally. I don’t mean get aggressive, I just mean talk to your fears as if they are people.
Ask your fears why you are so afraid of them, and then allow yourself to give the answer as if your fears were speaking with you. As you learn things from yourself, you will realize that you have created your phobia and these things are not as frightening as they seem.
4. Share your fears with someone you trust
While you shouldn’t share your fears with just anybody, you can talk to a good friend about them. Sharing too much will make others use your fears against you, and yes, some people really do act like this. But to share with a friend that you trust gives you a support system.
You don’t necessarily share your fears for a solution, rather, you share in order to have a sounding board. Again, you get to hear yourself talk about your fears, and you get to see just how unfounded they really are. If your trustworthy friend does offer solutions, then this is an added bonus.
5. Accept the truth
If you can simply accept that you are afraid of something, then that’s one step closer to conquering that thing. You cannot get anywhere if you constantly deny your fears to other people.
Sometimes, you even deny your fears to yourself, thus denying any form of healing in this area. It’s almost as if you keep the fear hidden or protected. When you accept that fear has a grip on you, then you can learn how to pull those talons free and live a better life.
6. Focus on the positive
Another way to face our fears is to starve them of attention. The more you dwell on what frightens you, the more you will feed the fear. So, in order to embark upon the road to healing, you must learn to focus all your energies on your goals and dreams.
As these things grow stronger and as you get closer to attaining them, the fears will shrink in the background. Most people, when getting close to reaching a goal, will forget about any fears they once had.
Face your fears and Improve your life
Oh, the exhilaration of facing your fears. It is truly a wonderful feeling. I have faced many fears in my life, and still, have a few to face in the future. In a way, I am looking forward to facing those fears and reaching an even higher level of fulfillment. Paired with a healthy self-image, a great support system, and a loving family, facing fears will do unbelievable things for your life.
If these tips aren’t enough to help you face your fears, then please, by all means, seek professional help or support. There is no shame in wanting to better yourself. Come on, let’s face those fears together. What’s stopping you?
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