A narcissistic sociopath is someone who has a combination of a narcissistic personality and sociopathic traits. Could there be one in your life?
Once upon a time, people were either mad or bad, and that was the level to which we distinguished between the two. Nowadays, there are all kinds of labels on all kinds of different personalities, particularly the deviant ones, as we try to work out why people act in a certain way. One of the most worrying personality types is the narcissistic sociopath.
Sociopaths can be identified if they display any of the following characteristics:
- Superficial charm. They are glib and superficial, smooth talkers who engage an audience easily.
- Overinflated self-worth. They possess a grandiose opinion of themselves which leaves them self-assured and arrogant.
- Easily bored. There is a constant need for risky behaviour which leads them to take chances that others would not.
- Pathological liars. Lying comes as naturally to a sociopath as breathing. They can manipulate and use deceit in order to achieve their goals.
- Con artists. The goal of a sociopath is to get absolute power over their victim so they will defraud or con someone for their personal gain.
- No remorse. A complete lack of concern or pity for their victims with a tendency to be unmoved, cold-hearted and dispassionate.
- Shallow affect. Sociopaths have a very low range of feelings and are unable to empathise with others as they cannot understand these emotions.
- Callousness. This lack of feeling towards other people allows them to act in a callous and cold way.
- Parasitic lifestyle. Many sociopaths live off other people in a parasitic form, by ways of manipulation or exploitation.
- Failure to accept responsibility for own actions. A sociopath will always blame others for their predicament, and responsibility.
These are just a few of the behavioural characteristics associated with a sociopath. So what happens if you add a narcissistic personality onto a typical sociopath?
Narcissists can be identified if they exhibit any of the following characteristics:
- Feeling a grandiose sense of self-important. The narcissist will exaggerate any small achievement, lie or deceive to make themselves look like they are superior beings.
- Has fantasies where they are famous. Overriding everything in a narcissist’s world will be their fantasies of success, power or fame, whether this be due to their minds or bodies.
- Convinced they are unique and special. Only other people of equal standing to the narcissist can ever understand them thanks to their high status in life.
- Require absolute devotion and admiration. Narcissists need a constant supply of compliments, adulation and attention otherwise they will soon become bored with you and discard you.
- A sense of entitlement. A narcissist doesn’t have to do anything to feel that they are entitled to have it. They demand special treatment simply because of who they are.
- Cannot show empathy. Is completely unable to understand the feelings of others.
How can you identify a narcissistic sociopath?
A narcissistic sociopath will have a combination of a narcissistic personality and sociopathic behavioural traits.
Typically, a narcissistic sociopath will have a highly grandiose opinion of themselves and think that they are above any of society’s rules. They are not bound by normal regulations that apply to the rest of us, as they are superior beings.
The narcissist in the sociopath will believe that they are better than everyone else. The sociopath in the narcissist, in turn, will have a total lack of regard for others and will tend to violate these rights with no compassion for their victims.
One worrying consequence of a sociopath that has narcissist tendencies is that generally, sociopaths do not care if they are criticised by others, as they are not interested in the opinions of other people.
The narcissistic sociopath, however, will react aggressively to negative criticism as the narcissist cannot tolerate any judgement on their behaviour.
This, coupled with the callousness and lack of remorse from a sociopath, makes this combination particularly worrying.
Here are ten other traits of a narcissistic sociopath to watch out for:
- They move your relationship on really quickly
- They compliment you over and over again
- They flatter you by putting down others
- Your sex life is out of this world
- They have a lot of broken relationships behind them
- The conversation is always about them
- They use impressive words that don’t make sense
- They are charitable if it favours them
- They will sulk for days and weeks
- They will often mimic your behaviour in order to get close to you
If you recognise any of the above traits and think that you might be involved in a narcissist sociopath, there are ways to free yourself from their influences:
- You have a choice whether to stay or leave
- Being fooled was not your fault, they have done it before and will do it again
- You have a future which can be filled with love and happiness, they do not
As Jill Blakeway explains:
Give – but don’t allow yourself to be used.
Love – but don’t allow your heart to be abused.
Trust – but don’t be naïve.
Listen – but don’t lose your voice.