There are conditions and states of being often neglected by society. We often overlook the depressed narcissist, sometimes out of fear.
Many of us are familiar with narcissism or narcissistic personality disorder, but how much do we know about the depressed narcissist?
Well, you might be flippant about it and choose to turn the other cheek out of fear. But even though the narcissist has caused us a great deal of damage and hurt, we cannot forget the truth of how this personality disfigurement works.
What is the depressed narcissist?
Most of us know and understand the basic definition of narcissism, right? Well, unfortunately, we’ve neglected to understand the depressed narcissist, which in many ways, can be worse. In fact, things like bipolar disorder and depression can make narcissistic personality disorder even worse. Here are a few facts about the depressed narcissist to help you understand.
There’s something about narcissists that you may not know. They are plagued with dysphoria, feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness. You might not be able to see these symptoms, but they are there. In fact, narcissists try so hard to convince others of their superiority, that sometimes their inadequacies show through. When this happens, they notice and this dysphoria leads them to depression.
It’s extremely hard for those with a narcissistic personality disorder to accept that others can see their imperfections. When it happens, they may lash out and even try harder to downgrade others. When you notice their faults, it’s sometimes best to not let on that you saw the truth. Otherwise, you will deal with a harsher grade of narcissism.
2. Loss of Narcissistic supply
The narcissist feeds off praise and attention, as you may already know. They see themselves as superior to others, although this is only a façade. When people begin to realize the true colors of the narcissistic personality, they tend to leave or limit their time with the narcissist, and it’s noticed right away.
When the narcissist loses their supply of attention and praise, they can spiral into a depression. This is because it is incredibly hard for them to feel self-worth and fulfillment on their own. This goes back to their issues with dysphoria.
3. Self-directed aggression
When a narcissist suffers a loss of supply, as mentioned above, they will sometimes become angry before falling into depression. This is because they are really angry with themselves for not being able to fulfill things on their own.
Their anger will be directed at self but will be deflected out toward anyone who goes against them. It’s actually used as a survival tactic. The narcissist literally feels as if they are dying from lack of attention or praise, and this makes them desperate as well.
In truth, narcissists do not hate anyone more than themselves. Although it seems like all their anger and abuse is directed toward loved ones and friends, it is not. The narcissist hates that they need constant attention and praise, they hate that they are empty, and they long to feel normal like everyone else.
The problem is, their pride is alive and well, and will not let them admit how desolate they have become. This is one reason why so many narcissists resort to substance abuse and suicide. They become so depressed that they are trapped within their own emptiness.
Strangely, although it’s attention and praise they seek when depressed, they resort to isolation before daring to ask for help.
The journey from euphoria to dysphoria
A narcissist begins as an elevated individual. To others, they are most attractive, excelling in their work and relationships alike. To someone who knows nothing of narcissism, they may even seem superhuman or godlike. For a long time, unsuspecting victims of the narcissist will be wined and dined and treated like royalty.
Eventually, cracks will start to show in the otherwise perfect exterior. By the time that faults start to show, the object of the narcissist’s affections will be deeply involved. Every negativity that develops will cause severe damage to the mentality of the “victim”. Over time, most of these “victims” will escape, leaving the narcissist without a supply for their needs.
Sometimes, the narcissist leaves, and in this case, they may not suffer the consequences of being a depressed narcissist. If not, when the “victim” escapes the web of the narcissist, the loss of supply will do its damage. This is how the depressed narcissist is born, and the journey from euphoria to dysphoria is complete.
Narcissism and the depressed narcissist
With this knowledge, whether you have been the “victim” or if you are suffering from narcissism, you should educate yourself. Then, as you begin to understand the facts about these disorders, share your knowledge.
We can never know enough about these toxic disorders and how they affect our lives today. Please share and educate as much as possible, and by all means, continue learning.
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