Our society is very unambiguous in the expectation of what makes a man or a woman attractive.
A woman has to be beautiful, just like man has to be strong physically and financially. No doubt that this is true in many cases. But how many times have you seen a handsome alpha male happily married to an average (in terms of physical appearance) woman?
Clearly there’s something else. And this something else is your interior: the way you walk, look at yourself in the window, the mood you go to work with, the attitude you approach your life with, your mindset and personal journey.
The list of qualities that highly successful among men the women must have is pretty basic: kind, friendly, confident, adventurous and so on. But everybody interprets them in their own way.
So, what personality type combines all these qualities and plays the role of a powerful trigger that makes a woman very attractive? This has nothing to do with your hair color or size; it’s like an invisible thread that pulls men into your passionate hands.
1. Staying Busy and Engaged
No, not with a man. With your occupation. May it be your work, volunteering project, art hobby or untamed desire to go to the gym at least 3 times per week. A woman who knows what she likes doing and is actively involved with it always attracts attention and admiration. Not to mention the spark in your eyes you have after a productive meeting/successful charity project realization.
Define what you are into in your life and follow a simple recipe: “take action – develop new ideas – improve – take action – improve – enjoy the process.”
2. Having a Purpose in Life
This is a hidden biological trigger. Did you know that scientists from Rush University Medical Center in Chicago proved that people who feel a strong sense of purpose live longer?
For a man, it’s important to feel that his woman realizes what she is after, what she likes/dislikes and what she feels passionate about. Your life goal might not bring you coffee to bed when you are sick, but it will definitely motivate you to constantly develop yourself and keep on moving.
3. Being Happy Here and Now
Nobody wants to be involved with an always unhappy, constantly complaining, desperately upset person. Would you want to see your partner like this? No? Then forbid yourself to be unhappy. There’s nothing more attractive than a lady who lives her life to the fullest, finds comfort in moment’s pleasures and knows how to enjoy magical moments. Take your time to focus on a sweetness of first strawberries, the smell of freshly brewed coffee, the feeling of warm summer rays.
After 20 years of research, Harvard scientists proved that emotions, particularly happiness, and joy, are contagious. Maybe that’s why it’s so attractive? So surround yourself with happy people -at the very least this guarantees you a happy partner!
4. Nurturing Healthy Relationships
Love is a two-way street: you get what you give. Don’t wait for that one and only man to give all your love to him. Invest in your relationships now. Only having arranged our relationships with parents, ex-partners and friends can we be open for new healthy interactions.
There’s a special kind of harmony we radiate when being surrounded by kind, loving, understanding people.No wonder men are always instinctively attracted to it. A woman who is kind with strangers, generous with those in need, amiable with kids, tolerant with her parents and co-workers sends out irresistible vibes.
5. Developing Yourself
Being a part of a like-minded organization, regular meditation, sports and exercise, signing up to online courses and learning to paint – all this enhances your self-esteem and adds a couple of more conversation topics to your dates. Also, the social support of belonging to a wide network of people gives you confidence and eliminated the risk of feeling lonely and needing somebody.
6. Relaxed Upper Body, Tight Lower Body
How do you seat during a romantic dinner? Do you stay composed or relaxingly lean against the chair? Attractiveness comes from a subconscious level.
Here is the secret body language that attracts a man and is used by belly dancers and geisha girls: keep your upper body (back, chest, shoulders, face) soft and calm, while keeping your lower body (hips, legs) tight. This sends a powerful biological signal about lady’s fertility and thus makes her desired and wanted.
The conclusion of the day: the hidden attractiveness secrets are not that hidden after all, but they are not that easy to follow also. There’s no “one size fits it all” and only those who are committed to growing and developing their personalities (first of all for themselves, then for the opposite sex) are able to master them.
The most important thing is not to do it with a goal of becoming more attractive to men, but to make it our lifestyle choice and daily habits: simply because it makes your life fuller, richer and more self-conscious.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Kelly J. Harris is working as a professional writer. She loves her job because it gives her the opportunity to inspire others and share your thoughts with like-minded people.