Sociopaths move through society in the shadows. In terms of danger, female sociopath is the most powerful.

With so many mental and personality disorders, it’s no wonder it’s hard for us to differentiate between them. I know I sometimes have a difficult time with this as well. When studying narcissism, I sometimes get lost in the complicated indicators and characteristics.

With sociopaths, it can be even harder to understand. For instance, the female sociopath, being one of the most conniving personalities, can confound and confuse the best of us, even being worse than their male counterparts.

Who is the female sociopath?

Did you know that gender can influence the kind and severity of sociopathic behavior? It’s simple, really. Different genders possess different hormones which act in…well, different ways.

While the male sociopath has traits like lack of empathy, inability to understand emotion and the use of manipulation, they are fairly easy to spot for someone who has done their fair share of study on the subject.

Female sociopaths, on the other hand, are harder to recognize because of their feminine wiles and ability to blend into society. Females are able to use their cunning and sweet demeanor to weave their way into the lives of unsuspecting victims.

That’s why it’s so important to learn the traits and behaviors of the female sociopath in order to stay free from their snares. Let me reveal their secrets.

1. Mirroring

The female does something that I have often joked about with various people. I have often talked about females who pretend to like the same activities and hobbies of certain men just to get their attention. Well, all jokes aside, this seems to be a real trait of a female sociopath.

Say, for instance, you like a certain football team or you’re a die-hard fan of a series, well a sociopath will mirror this in order to get closer.

She will even go as far as to research the things you like in order to prove she has the same interests. I guess it depends on how well she does her research as to how long she can keep this going. If you’re smart enough, you’ll be able to see through the veneer.

2. Love bombing

A female sociopath has many attributes and characteristics that can catch and hold a man’s attention for a long time. She will use her feminine wiles while “love bombing” you, or rather placing you on a pedestal.

If you’re none the wiser, you will think you’ve found the perfect mate. She will pour on the attention and then pull back in a well-rehearsed dance of sorts. This ensures that she keeps your interests perfectly focused on her and her alone.

3. An unnerving calm

Unlike the normal anger expressed during an argument, the female sociopath will stay calm. When there should be a certain level of anxiety or stress present, she will keep her voice soft and soothing, exuding an atmosphere of sanity around her.

The angrier you get, the calmer she becomes until you look as though you are the monstrous one in the room. Although it is a good thing to remain calm during disagreements, there are times when every normal person becomes angry.

The female sociopath works this to her advantage and utilizes her unnerving demeanor to make you look like the enemy.

4. Quiet destruction

Here’s a tactic that is absolutely one of the most distasteful maneuvers of all. The female sociopath will plant seeds of doubt in anyone associated with her target. Her mate’s family will see her as a good person and every time trouble brews, she will make it look like it’s all in the imagination of her mate.

I’ve seen this happen, and I’ve also lived through it as well. I am thankful that there were people who were smart enough to see the cracks in my sociopath’s plans. Of course, it was a male sociopath in my case.

Anyway, if the female sociopath is successful in planting seeds and seeing them grow, she can watch the total destruction of her mate as family and friends take her side. It’s despicable and sad.

5. There is no remorse

When it comes to the female sociopath, there is little to no remorse for things she does. If she sees something she wants, even if it belongs to another, she will take it anyway. This is especially true in the case of stealing boyfriends, husbands, girlfriends or wives.

This is because of a lack of empathy. The female sociopath cannot feel others’ emotions or either doesn’t care to. Be careful, she will get what she wants or she will fight ruthlessly trying.

6. Expert liars and deceivers

The female sociopath is an expert liar. I am not sure if they actually believe their lies, or if they just enjoy telling them. They will say anything just to get what they want, that’s for sure. And there is no limit as to what they will lie about either.

When they’re not lying, their hiding things yet to be discovered. Sociopaths of this nature, especially females, are good at hiding things and keeping secrets. It is extremely hard to discover the truth…and when you do, they will go into fits of rage deflecting the blame somehow on you.

Please be careful in your relationships

Although there are many types of mental and personality disorders, this is one of the most dangerous. Women are beautiful creatures, but unfortunately, they can use this beauty in a negative way. There are many beautiful people in the world, it’s just important to understand who you’re dealing with beforehand.

Speaking as a woman myself, whenever I see any of these traits or anything remotely similar, I take the time to analyze myself. Believe it or not, it’s easier than you think to crave this sort of power.

I wish you well and hope you cultivate healthy and productive relationships.

References:

  1. https://blogs.psychcentral.com
  2. https://pairedlife.com
Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

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    Jenna

    Interesting. I have a “friend” who is exactly like this with men AND women,,,,I keep her at arms length.

    1. Sherrie Hurd
      Sherrie Hurd

      Jenna,

      You would be surprised by how many people really act this way. It’s always smart to pay attention to who you meet on a daily basis. Sociopaths will drop little clues for you.

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    Dawn Mello

    Sounds like my daughter.

    1. Sherrie Hurd
      Sherrie Hurd

      If this is your daughter, she needs to seek professional help as soon as possible. There is always hope for change.

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    Marylou Cruz

    I have a co-worker who is fits the female sociopath description perfectly. I was one of her victim. I had her kicked out of my department. She made me look so bad in the office using her pretty face and act like the victim.

    1. Sherrie Hurd
      Sherrie Hurd

      Marylou,

      Be careful when retaliating against the sociopath. They have ways of vindication. Just stay safe.

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    Lyla

    I wish I could get my ex to read this. It fits his gf to a t. I find it amusing, since he’s also a Sociopath. I’m glad they found each other but I’m really curious about what his reaction would be. I think he believes he could never get taken in. Interesting.

    1. Sherrie Hurd
      Sherrie Hurd

      IF they are both sociopaths, they will destroy each other…in terms of having a healthy relationship. If so, this is not your battle anymore, Lyla.

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    Alesha

    I have dealt with male and female sociopaths. It seems like once you have encountered a person like that, you find several more. Even though I have researched this personality type, I have fall victim to female sociopaths again and again.

    1. Sherrie
      Sherrie

      Yes, Alesha, female sociopaths are common. Be careful, they are really convincing in the beginning.

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    Dennis Zamudio Flores

    Really touch a chord. So sad but this is exactly what my ex-wife was. There’s a lot of things I may add on this article but even you are a rational person, a female sociopath is so furious (with a tendency to be violent or schizophrenic) to those or to a person (to the point that she is willing to sacrifice everything and that in my experience, leaving our 4 children, all girls and all to my care, and so disheartening that I left my kids one of them is just 5 months old at that time all by themselves because of my job overseas) that may impede her plans or someone who outsmarts/outthink her that bar her from accomplishing her plans. What is exactly she wanted from you is to cover up and or accept her behavior that she thinks is just the norm (I suffered a lot as well as my children because she was hooked in a number game. Though she spent money unwisely or indiscriminately as you like, the good thing is that she knows my limitation and she is very good playing at it (as if the item number 3 and 5 are so interesting in this case – doing nasty business, lying after lying, without remorse) and doesn’t demand that much from me but the trouble comes from taking loans, selling valuables including our wedding ring and loan fraudulent activity. She is one if not the worst of its kind) This kind of behavior can be attributed from an unhappy childhood, downcast/poverty thus faking things or her status to enjoy life in the expense of others, or depression, bullying or rooted in family dysfunction, of the same kind, I mean a cyclic experience of the concerned personality – . A sociopath mother could bequeath her behavior to one or two of her children.

    1. Sherrie
      Sherrie

      Oh Dennis, seems like you have a lot on your plate right now. For starters, make sure those children come first considering you and your wife are not together to make a healthy marriage. There seem to be so many issues here and I think a counselor is needed in this case. You can ask her to see a counselor with you as friends. This is to ensure the best treatment for the children. If you do, you may be able to sort out many of these problems. Just remember, both of you have to work together to make a strong bond with your children even though you are not together anymore.

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    mike gurnow

    I had a woman live with me for 3 years, she left my home for a month saw she had miscalculated her expense cried her way back into my life for a year and left me for another man. the thing I hate myself for is that I let her destroy a 41 year marriage and now i’m alone and don’t have a clue what to do with the rest of my life. this woman fits your story to a tee. beauty and lies can destroy a man how well I know. she lied to me on a daily bases and I knew it but love is blind she always told me I was the liar,, lesson learned just to late.

    1. Sherrie
      Sherrie

      Mike,
      The most important thing you can do right now is to stay away from women for a while. Not forever, mind you, just until you have learned some things about who you are and what you will accept in a relationship. Learn about what you will tolerate and what makes you happy. It doesn’t matter if you are 41, you still deserve some time to figure yourself out first. It won’t be easy, but take a break from dating for a little bit. I am a woman, and I know…..females can be just as vicious as males, so work on YOU! The right one will find the right you.

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    Dirk Deigler

    I have been married for 27 years we split up for a year and I traveled across the country. When I came back it was to a women I did not know. She had changed so much..

    Stories of Sexual Escapades that were totally out of character for her. When I would catch her in a lie she would be
    so furious that on one occasion she hung up pieces of paper with saying’s like I wish you were dead, and I hate you.

    I was so stunned by this behavior that I took pics of all of them hanging around my home outside and the driveway.

    She has gas lighted me speaking very low and then insisting she had said nothing and that I was hearing things. I am sure she started my gang stalking because she was so angry and at the time having a affair with a man 20 years her junior.

    1. Sherrie Hurd, A.A.
      Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

      I cannot say why she is acting this way considering I have no clue why you split up the first time. She obviously has a problem, but I am unsure of what kind. She could be suffering from a personality disorder, she could be trying to run you away, or she could have multiple issues. The most important thing you need to do is take care of yourself and when you get enough, you will know what to do. You can, of course, try counseling first, if you want. I hope things work out for you.

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    Marie

    Can A marriage Of 7 years ,12 years total together (never broke up) With 3 children with a sociopathic women Work? I see too many recommendations for people to just up and leave a sociopath And it’s disheartening Considering (me) the wife thinks I could be one… I stupidly randomly lie about the smallest pointless things. And while I can show empathy for things it’s usually only shown if it’s ultimately affecting ME, Like I can cry all the time if it’s all about something that’s upsetting me and my feelings of feeling abandon ECT but when it comes to like death of a loved 1 I will feel If anything strong feeling of why I don’t feel sad like everybody else,,or cry.. every thing I have read seems to hit right on the nose with me 🙁 I’ve read that sociopaths can make Their loved ones Distance themselves from everyone An ultimately just not caring about anything anymore DepressionECT.. I feel my husband is felt that way lately and I feel like it might be my fault .. all ive read is they just say leave a sociopath Is there hope for a marriage in that situation Is therapy the answer Would work? At times it almost seems unnecessary but Going from the outside and looking in it almost seems like Something could be wrong And we’re just trying to overlook and push through … And I don’t know if it has any relevance but It may also not help the situation that the husband in this scenario could very well be a sex addict.not to where he cheats but to where he wants to bring in another man for Inter course on me.. Something he almost seems like needs and craves so it can be very confusing to me to keep committed to just him ECT,(but I do), And also though it is something that he wants it is not something that we do . except for 1 time

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