If you think mind control is a term bandied about by crazed conspiracy theorists and best viewed in old spy films, think again.

Mind control is as relevant today as it was back in the 1950s when it was called brainwashing and used against American troops in Chinese prison camps during the Korean War.

So what exactly is mind control and how can we prevent someone from using it against us?

Mind control is the concept by which a subject’s thoughts and actions can be controlled by an external force. This can be via psychological or physical means and often involves breaking the subject down so that complete control can be achieved.

If you are thinking that this all sounds very far-fetched and implausible, it is worth remembering that mind control is used in our everyday lives, from advertising products to media bias in politics.

Here are five ways someone is using mind control on you:

1. Isolation

If you find yourself slowly being isolated from your friends and family, then this is a probable sign someone is trying to control your mind. Your nearest and dearest will no doubt tell you what is wrong with your new friend and that is exactly what they don’t want. They need you alone and vulnerable in order to break your spirit.

2. Moody behaviour

Does your partner sulk if he or she doesn’t get their own way? Do you tend to change your behaviour to stop or prevent an argument? This is the start of mind control, where your actions are changing because of what another person is doing. It is a tell-tale sign that they are trying to control your mind and are quite successful in it.

3. Metacommunication

This is a technique whereby a person gives subtle clues and hints using nonverbal cues. For instance, if a husband asks his wife if she is ok and she replies ‘Yes’ with a sigh and a shrug of her shoulders, this is clearly indicating she is not ok, but her verbal answer is positive. Some people use metacommunication to implant subliminal thoughts.

4. Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP is a technique of layering certain thoughts using language into a person’s unconscious mind without them knowing what you’re doing.

NLP looks at many different aspects of a person and uses language to plant suggestions. For instance, if a person is visually orientated, they will be spoken to using language using visual clues such as ‘Can you see what I mean?’ A person used to auditory cues will have hearing language used on them like ‘I hear you completely.’

5. Uncompromising Rules

Does your partner place unreasonable rules on your lifestyle? If you are expected to meet impossible deadlines, have strictly regulated mealtimes and bathroom breaks, no access to your own money or friends, then this is mind control.

What they are doing is taking all your decisions away from you so that you follow a strict set of behaviours. This, in turn, stops you thinking for yourself and makes it easier for them to implant their own agenda.

How to Prevent Mind Control

If you recognise any of the above examples, then it is time to break free from this person and their attempts to control your mind.

  • Stay in close contact with friends and family.

Do not allow your new partner or friend to get in the way of your seeing any of your old friends or family members. Insist on seeing them and if the answer is still no – walk away.

  • Do not put up with moody or sulky behaviour.

Treat it with the disdain it deserves, and make sure you tell the person exhibiting it that it is immature and childish and you won’t tolerate it.

  • Nonverbal clues

Watch carefully for nonverbal clues that do not tally with what a person is saying. Question them if their answers do not match their body language or actions.

  • NLP

NLP is a little harder to spot as anyone using it is likely to be a professional. Signs to look out for are initial feelings that you have found your soul mate, or that the person you have just met is perfectly matched to you. Watch out for someone that keeps mirroring your body language or uses vague phrases that don’t make sense.

  • Uncompromising rules

As for someone that imposes uncompromising rules, take advice from close friends and family when it comes to this situation. By the time it gets to this point, you will have probably been worn down with low self-esteem. By telling your friends and family, their instant reaction to what is happening to you should be enough to shake you out of this awful trap.


  1. https://en.wikipedia.org
  2. https://psychcentral.com

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