Have you been feeling like a failure lately? Well, there are several things you must remember.
I must admit, sometimes I do feel this way. I think back on the past decisions I’ve made in the past and realize some of them were probably far from my best. The thing is, those things are done, those times are over, and there’s nothing I can do about it now. It doesn’t mean I’m not still feeling like a failure every now and then. I guess feeling like this happens to everyone eventually.
So, what can we do about feeling like a failure?
If you feel like you’ve failed in life, it’s okay. Life was never meant to be sunshine and flowers all the time, right? Well, the good part is, there are things you can think on that will alleviate a bit of that negativity from time to time. Just utilizing some positive thoughts will help you regain a bit of your self-worth. Before you know it, you will be feeling like a success again.
Just remember these things:
1. The past is gone
The first thing I want to make sure you understand is that you cannot change anything about the past. What you’ve done or what has been done to you cannot be taken away, no matter how hard you wish, pray or ask. Every decision you’ve made in life is gone into the archives of your life and cannot be removed unless you forget. So, in order to stop feeling like a failure, maybe forgetting a few things would help.
2. Failures are lessons
Failing at things doesn’t only prove that you aren’t perfect, they also teach you things. If you’ve been in unhealthy relationships, you may learn what sort of person you should avoid. You might learn a few things about yourself as well, like things you shouldn’t have done in the relationship. If you committed a crime, fines or jail time will teach you lessons that what you did was wrong.
Instead of feeling like you’re not worth anything, you should be proud you learned what not to do the next time.
3. You’re not alone
Just because you’re feeling like your life is a failure doesn’t mean others aren’t feeling the same. When you’re in your darkest moment, remember that someone somewhere is suffering too. They could have an even worse situation than yours.
When you realize these negative feelings are common, then they don’t seem to be so powerful anymore. It’s best to tell yourself that life is what it is, and all you can do is go from here and do better.
4. Nothing’s flawless
Did you know that even the most successful people in the world have had moments of failure? I bet some of them even wanted to give up, I’m even sure of it. I’ve heard stories of homeless people with beautiful singing voices being discovered and becoming successful in a singing career.
Now, that’s talking about going from rags to riches. Just like your life now, they suffered. But just as they persevered, you will too. After all, nothing is perfect in life, and feeling everything you do is a failure sometimes happens before a great change.
5. You can change
Before you throw a pity party, think about this: You are not helpless. You can change anything you need to, within reason, if you don’t like the place you’re in or the person you’re with. You’re not a tree, so you can move, but like a tree, which loses its leaves, you can let go of things.
So, unless you have no resources at all, you can improve your life if you feel like you’ve failed in the past and still feel that way. If you need help ask, if you need support, there are always outlets to help you. Always remember this.
6. Share the blame
If you’re feeling bad due to a failure that happened in the past, you probably aren’t the only one to blame in the situation. Most of the time, there are, at least, two or more people involved. So, remember, only take responsibility for your part, and let the rest go. After making amends with what you’ve done, then let that go too!
7. This won’t be the last
Not to sound depressing or anything, but this probably won’t be the last time you fail at something. There will be many times in the future that times don’t go exactly as planned. So if you’re feeling like a failure, you better leave some room for later…meaning, just let it go if you can.
8. Think long and hard
If you’re feeling like you’ve failed yourself, then you will soon be making a move to change things. At least, I hope you do. The last thing you should do is get stuck in your failure. But before you make this move, think about your options long and hard.
Never make a rash decision, because truth be told, that may be one of the reasons for past failures. Weigh your goods and bads, your options and opportunities. Also, think of others you care about before making decisions. Now that you’ve failed before, you should have learned this.
It’s not the end of the world
I made a decision a few years back that may not have been a good one. I cannot go back, and I cannot make the past disappear. And I am in the place I am because of my own choices. I wouldn’t say it’s much better or worse than where I was then.
Although now, I feel less in control of my life than before. There are good things about my present and there are bad, just like it was then. But at times, it gets almost unbearable to think of certain aspects of things I lost. I do sometimes feel like a failure.
The good news is, it’s not the end of the world. I can make a different decision at any time if I feel I need to. I am not helpless, no, not even a little bit. I get confused and angry, but I try to keep my head above the water and see the best in my present life.
So, I encourage you to dig yourself out of the pit of failure and move forward. Yes, it might be difficult, but if you remember who you really are, you will fight for every bit of happiness you can get.
And you will win in the end. Good luck and be blessed.
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