11 Struggles of Being a Deep Thinker in the Modern World

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Being a deep thinker is a great gift as it allows you to delve into the very essence of things and be more conscious.

Still, in modern society with its materialistic values, this constant inquiry and a profound awareness that accompany being a deep thinker can be quite challenging. Our consumerist society is killing deep thinking and is cultivating ignorance, and it makes sense why. Ignorant people who don’t question themselves and the world are the easiest targets for manipulation and mind control.

This is one of the reasons why deep thinking is not ‘in fashion’ in the modern world. Those of us who have this rare ability to look right into the depth of things often end up lonely, unhappy and unaccomplished. It’s all because being a deep thinker comes with a number of struggles and drawbacks most people are unaware of.

Here are some struggles that only deep thinkers can relate to:

1. Feeling of detachment

In a world ruled by greed, primitive desires and material interests, where people’s intellectual, moral and spiritual level is constantly going down, it’s no surprise that deep thinkers often feel like they don’t belong here.

One of the reasons why a deep thinker may struggle with relating to other people is a lack of meaningful communication. With all the ignorance and superficiality today, it’s not easy to find someone to talk about the things that truly matter. This is why deep thinkers often end up alone as they prefer loneliness to forced friendships.

This type of people is unlikely to tolerate shallow relationships and fake friendships. And no need to say that these are incredibly common nowadays. It’s becoming more and more difficult to make friends with genuine and deep people who don’t have hidden motives. Sadly, the consumer mindset has changed much more than just the way we see material objects. It has also altered the way we see each other.

With time, all this may make you feel alien to this society and world. Sometimes, you just can’t understand other people and their actions, which makes you wonder why you are such a misfit and feel like you come from another planet.

2. You have no interest in mainstream culture and popular activities

Similarly to the feeling of detachment, you don’t resonate with the interests and aspirations that are common to the majority of people and don’t enjoy things everyone loves. Those popular TV shows everyone talks about or usual activities like going for shopping with your friends and talking about clothes only irritate you.

You often wonder how it’s possible to waste so much of time on the things that don’t really matter. In general, you have little or no interest in the mundane and material side of being.

3. You have a profound frustration with modern society

Whether you follow what’s happening in the world or not, the only thing is clear – you are quite pessimistic about the future of humanity. It’s all because you deeply realize that humankind is constantly moving away from the true values and the things that really matter. All this ignorance and superficiality of modern people often make you think that the human race is doomed.

A deep thinker will often reflect on the world’s problems and will tend to take them to heart. No one will disagree that our current society has lots of issues to solve. From wars and social inequality to disrespect towards Mother Nature and other living beings on the planet.

Deep thinkers get genuinely concerned and disappointed with all this injustice, greed and violence we witness today. And the worst part is that one person can do very little to change the whole world. Thus, all a deep thinker is left with is worrying about the things they cannot influence.

4. Being indecisive and failing to take real actions

Deep thinkers are highly self-aware and reflective. However, no matter how good these qualities may be, they have one significant drawback. Those prone to deep thinking have a really hard time when it comes to taking real actions to change their life and the world. These dreamers with theoretical minds prefer to live in their own head, immersed in their thoughts and visions.

For this reason, turning ideas into a reality and putting plans into practice can be challenging for them. This indecisiveness and a lack of action often costs deep thinkers success and accomplishment.

It may not be a problem, however, as a deep thinker is rarely interested in becoming a success story. At the same time, when you realize that your life needs a change or you could make a real difference in the world, but you fail to act on it, this brings you deep disappointment with yourself.

5. Overthinking

It makes sense that deep thinking almost always equals overthinking. A deep thinker tends to overanalyze their actions and behavior. They find nonexistent mistakes, failures and flaws, and blame themselves for those. The truth is that a deep thinker can often be too hard on themselves. This makes them focus on the negative and worry too much about insignificant things.

Overthinking is another thing that can prevent deep thinkers from believing in themselves and succeeding in life. A person who is too hard on themselves tends to overlook their strengths and talents.

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  1. Norman Holanda June 6, 2018 at 12:49 am - Reply

    This is totally me

    • Satyanarayana Donepudi August 12, 2018 at 9:22 am - Reply

      me too

  2. Kamryn June 14, 2018 at 8:48 pm - Reply

    I thought i was suffering from a mental illness or something losing touch with reality. I get so deep into questioning how i am here and where are we that i feel like a stranger to myself even. seriously i need somone in my life who understands this my kik is kamrynkings hit me up someone!

    • Steve Jackson June 17, 2018 at 7:23 pm - Reply

      You (and we) are not alone. I finally realized that. We were taught to be like everyone else, I disagree with that. You need to be who you are, comfortable living your life the way you want, as long as it does not affect others harmfully, of course, Just be yourself. The world would be a very boring place if it did not have those who live, act, and be a little different than others, no matter what they think. Don’t you agree? Be happy. Think about the things you enjoy in life, whether its a sunset or just the view out of a window. There is a lot more going on there than “normal” people realize. Deep thinkers know that. Good luck.

  3. Trevor June 17, 2018 at 5:06 am - Reply

    My favorite section is number 10 about lack of understanding. If there is anything that truly bothers me is when people, especially ones who know I’m a thinker see me in a state of thought and ask, “are you okay?” YES, YES I AM OKAY. ARE YOU?

  4. Emilia June 17, 2018 at 6:34 pm - Reply

    Guys, who ever is reading this.. please answer to my comment. I am looking for deep thinkers and we are so hard to find in every day life. My soul just feels this uncompromising need to connect with other like-minded people. There is really no other way, I need to connect with people who can understand. I feel so alone on this planet.. it’s so frustrating. Someone said all the deep thinkers should unite and try to improve the world together.. honestly, that’s really what I feel as well. Alone we are just people, who either isolate themselves or pretend to be different and are wearing masks.. however, together.. there is such a strength. I am so convinced about this. We need to somehow connect! Please, be with me on this. 🙂

    • Jorge Duran June 22, 2018 at 7:24 am - Reply

      I am also like u Emilia. Reply so we may connect

    • anuj June 23, 2018 at 6:16 pm - Reply

      hi Emilia iam also a deep thinker


    • Will Jackson July 11, 2018 at 12:43 am - Reply

      I’m just the same, A true deep thinker

    • Maaiz July 22, 2018 at 6:01 pm - Reply

      Not a bad idea…lets all deep thinkers come together and improve the world

    • Yv July 25, 2018 at 10:20 am - Reply

      Hi Emilia…I randomly typed into the net, “Why am I so deep and how do I learn to connect with shallow people.” Today was the day I just can’t do it anymore. Trying to blend in to the shallowness of society is so hard for Me.

    • Satya August 12, 2018 at 9:26 am - Reply

      I did think the same while reading this; we should have a platform to connect together.

    • Baron September 7, 2018 at 5:15 am - Reply

      I know what you mean emilia, i feel alone and alienated all of the time even though I have friends I’ve known for 20 years and I’m 26.. It’s hard for me to deal with most people for too long and when i do i feel like i have to be by myself and recharge for a few days.

    • christopher yu September 8, 2018 at 8:15 pm - Reply

      Would something like a wechat / whatsapp/ facebook/ group be something we want to start up?

    • Kevin September 10, 2018 at 11:15 pm - Reply

      me to. I like the Idea.

      I’m working and getting purposes but is very dificult to me when I can’t talk or feel like the rest because when I feel alone always I do the first mistake.

      We can be very dynamics, I am searching for many years who can understand my feelings and vice versa.
      I don’t wanna feel alone. 🙂
      I’m 25 years old, I have friends, family like a “normal person” but I don’t find a persons to connect easily.
      I will put my instagram down for any person that wants talk with me and connect better.


      a lot of empathy and thanks. Kevin.

  5. Steve Jackson June 17, 2018 at 7:08 pm - Reply

    This was one of those mornings where I was sitting in a quiet room. What started out as me thinking about what I will do for my day off today ended up with deep thoughts going through my mind. The “what if’s” about my past, and now. I’ve always been a deep thinker, didn’t realize it, and thought it was normal. I’ve always been a quiet guy, shy at times and kept to myself. I have always wondered why I felt more comfortable alone, and that I didn’t “fit in” with people that I deal with everyday also. Just thought it was meant to be. I grew up from my childhood to an adult with Epilepsy, having uncontrollable seizures many days a week. At 47, I was given a gift of an operation, brain surgery, that stopped the seizures that was an everyday thing to me. By doctors, I was told to start my life over, live a normal life. Here’s the part I’m trying to explain. Though the seizures stopped and I now had more freedom in my life, I found myself living the same way, alone. I even went into a deep depression, got help for that, but could never find myself even wanting to change things. Somehow I came across this “list” of being a deep thinker and felt like I was reading about myself. I even had a “wow” moment. Why couldn’t doctors explain these things to me in the past? Now it made some sense to me. I am a 52 year old man, single, no children and never had a really serious relationship. I always thought it was because of how I had to live my life having Epilepsy, seizures and being very limited on everyday things. It’s all I knew about. Now I believe it has more to do with being a deep thinker, part of a smaller group of people in this world. It just makes more sense. I’m comfortable with my life now, but it never hurts to have friends, or be with someone who truly understands why I am who I am.

  6. Tzu Kit Chan June 17, 2018 at 10:57 pm - Reply


  7. alim iradohd July 3, 2018 at 2:46 pm - Reply

    yes,i feel to but so many i try to control..disadvantage but also it is hard

  8. Tara Farrow July 6, 2018 at 1:02 am - Reply

    So WTH are we supposed to do? Idk about you guys but I’m a deep thinker so I’ve thought long and hard enough to know that I already knew all this stuff. Why would you post the the 11 struggles of a deep thinker without posting the 11 solutions?

    • A3 July 11, 2018 at 7:16 am - Reply

      Yes! I’m on the same page…11 out of 11…where are the solutions

  9. Little bird July 11, 2018 at 4:36 pm - Reply

    I’m a deep thinker

  10. LYDIA SMEEK July 14, 2018 at 2:47 am - Reply

    All of this is me too, but what is the answer to the negative side of it? I’m going to psychiatric services now, but is it right to do that? Is there anyone of any trustworthy and learned medical knowledge of the mind and body with sympathetic open mind and ears to the esoteric, occult, existential, conspiritorial, spiritual or extraterrestrial??! And with the answers I need? Or am I just deep thinking, lonely? But on the whole ok?? After blocking my thoughts and questions about existence and turning to find logic and fact for the explanation, for the past twenty odd years, having experienced too many traumas, ridicule, abuse and shame, having reacted by staunchly ignoring my own psychological need, to save that of others, being empathic that was my cross to bear, also to save myself from focus and further controversy, feeling weakened, stupid, I forced metamorphosis. Finding joy in having a social life was an epiphany. I had the times of my life, raved nights away enthused with well named party drugs ecstacy and speed, feeling belonging on the dance floor, the tribal stomp, rapture, love for all and oneness and each other, strangers again the next day… and I could again be alone not really needing to have any contact with anybody, suited me. Friends I did have were coming down too, had kids and jobs, I could disassociate and nobody would notice anyway, I worked and slept for 5 days and started again. All friends let me down in the end. Those friends and good times came at the cost of obscuring myself, trying to be another person, trying to fit into the wrong places, but never mind it was in the name of having fun. And forgetting. Don’t get me wrong I was never considered as mainstream in my attitudes or opinions and I stiIl don’t like superficiality and manufactured entertainment, not drawn to sheep-like-closed-minded people, still different from the majority. Further pitfalls and traumas and disillusionment has bombarded me in life since I quietened down. Now I find myself quite without a single kindred soul, friendless, misunderstood, alone and worse, getting bitter. Relationship in crisis. Him my opposite. We dont match. Depression ever lurking has taken me over with a skin condition I have reason to suspect as Morgellons but am being blamed for picking and refused help for it, no tests or even examination, the scepticism on the subject stopping me from daring to research it myself in any depth or mentioning it at all to the doctors, typical for me since depressive disorder is plain in my medical records, that this has been hailed as a disorder of the mind! So Doc says its my 30 year acne. 30 years and its never had these symptoms nor have I ever even seen a doctor for it as it didnt concern me enough to ask for treatment when doctors are so busy. By my second visit to dermatology it had spiralled my mental well being having it for 2 years and i found out discrimination and arrogance seems to be the norm to doctors. Wonder if when they get their degree do they firmly shut the doors of thier mind to any info they did not learn? I find ignorance in medicine irresponsible..I was dismissed without any time to ask anything or give my symptoms……what is it they say? one step ahead you’re a genius but two steps ahead and you’re insane? As is proven in history..In medicine. Morgellons is physically symptomatic but doctors know everything now and any disease they do not know or sounds odd is obviously mental issues? I find myself in a place of mental distress, my memories of childhood and youth returning in stark relief, realisations I had not connected in my mind as significant before, the amount of paranormal occurrences around me never again acknowledged or explained, and in my adulthood I buried it, I remembered everything yeah, but I have been seeing my life all areas with closed eyes. I agree solitude is bliss.. yet I am lonely. I lack balance of perspective and grounding when before I was too grounded by too little solitude, with people who didn’t and don’t fit me, the lonliness article also resonates strongly… therefore I conclude that I suffer from deep thought unfortunately it leaves me marginalised in society since I am not understood or given credibility, I like not being in company mostly because of anxieties and alternative thinking, I like what I like and being alone is good for processing and quiet and reading and MY music! but like minded company would be so beneficial enjoyable and appreciated and I do crave that now I find myself not able to work which is killing me and is distressing my ego which had only one pride, that of being good at my job which I loved, caring for vulnerable people so rewarding, plus it distracted me. I am too negative to impose myself on others besides too depressed to have the wherewithal to search out the rare people who have similar thinking and tastes and character as me and even then would lack capacity to trust anyone anyway. I was stronger in ignorance and now I am awake but in distess and alone and too many of these deep thoughts I can’t make sense of have undone me. So yeah now, 2 and a half years since these things began ravaging my skin, having not inspired any doctors notice or concern and given inefficient remedies and advice, I have now began picking the sores on my face, digging. Stabbing. Cutting
    Self surgery. Ineffective but better than nothing, justified by the material I have taken out of them. But I cant stop now, at 40 I am the proud owner of obsessive behaviours, self harming self hatred body dismorphic possibly borderline personality disorder or bi-polar.. oh and the most contraversial disease to baffle the experts of recent times too, possibilities and theories flying around wildly. I wish I could find peace and harmony in myself and the universe, a purpose, or a certainty in one belief, and strength to stand up for my convictions, sometimes other people can give you confidence and it’s a chance to bounce ideas if you’ve got similar thinking. But alone? I wish life wasn’t such a catch 22 a mystery full of closed, narrow minds, uncertainty, ignorance..and me.

  11. srgwriter July 17, 2018 at 10:58 pm - Reply

    Yes, and it’s often difficult to go through this world. Feel so apart from the mainstream world. There was kind of a process with me. First, self doubt. Then, bitterness and anger at the world thinking it’s so screwed up. Then acceptance of what it is, personality difference, and it has always existed. And since I’ve gotten into history I know that shallow thinking is not just of these times. It is what it is.

  12. Laz July 29, 2018 at 3:49 am - Reply

    I am also a “deep thinker”, feeling so alone in the world and no one understands or feels the way I do. When I respond to someone who asks me questions it seems my passion is aroused in such a way that I can’t control it which in turn causes people to just dismiss any answer I may offer.
    I find myself content to just spend time alone with my thoughts disconnected, disengaged, and ALWAYS asking, “what am I doing here?” Is this my reason for existing on this planet? I can’t believe this is what my life has come to!
    Even family and friends don’t understand or should I say truly desire to understand. People seem so fake, insincere. Never desiring deeper conversation and so many are medicated to begin with even though they look you right in the eyes you can tell they didn’t hear one word you said! Sad really…
    Most don’t understand how difficult it is to be in this reality. Even though I’ve tried to reach out people still look at you like you are from another planet. Honesty, integrity, sincerity are lacking in so many ways today, seems you can’t take anyone for their word anymore. I always said there are two kinds of people in the world, those who have something to say, and those who just want to say something!

  13. Tammy July 31, 2018 at 5:12 pm - Reply

    I am also a deep thinker and this has left me feeling alone and frustrated. While others continually gossip, condemn, judge, primp themselves, and complain, I long for intellectual conversation and peace. While others chase material and money and can never have enough, I look for a more simple life with less crap to surround myself with. I have traveled down some dark, dead end roads with others in the hopes of having companionship, only to be left at the end questioning why I am not accepted for who and what I am. Why must I always explain myself, my actions, my silence, my ways? Why can’t I just be accepted for me, and my differences? Why can’t I be trusted with my own thoughts and my own mind? Why is my silence such a threat? Why can’t I meet another like minded soul?

    I am on the path to recovery from my addiction, my desire, to be respected, understood, and trusted for who and what I am. From this path will be another that leads to respecting myself, understanding myself, and trusting myself. This is a familiar path, for I have been on it before. Before I followed another who promised what I was looking for in a companion. My self confidence has been battered for my indiscretion.

    In this realm I find myself in, surrounded by such shallow people, I feel as if I do not belong. I have never had the pleasure to meet another like me and often wonder if I ever will. I tire of small talk, gossip, and empty words. I tire of talk of material gain, gadgets, and money. I found the only thing that speaks my language is nature, where everything serves a purpose and there is no judgement; everything has reason. If only I could transform into a bear, an eagle, a wolf, or some other creature of nature outside this human, insane, realm of existence. This feeling of not belonging wears me down at times, and I have not found another who understands.

    This article, and others like it on this site, help me to feel I am not alone. Other’s comments show me there are others out there with the same struggles. It’s like a good book, in that when I close it and step back into reality, there is no one in this physical realm who understands, there are no deep thinkers with whom I can interact. We live in a very lonely world, surrounded by hundreds, if not thousands of people daily. The irony. Thank you again for great post, and comments

    • Deborah Powell August 6, 2018 at 10:54 am - Reply

      Not sure if this thinking is deep enough or thought provocating enough for y’all, but for me it is……..Where have the Days GONE of Commons Decency and Compassion Towards YOUR Fellow HUMANS and CO~WORKER’S
      Especially when they are really going through NOT the norm situations….their NOT ALONE by actual cards, call, making time for you, taking it a little easier for a bit, flowers, food, etc

  14. CapsuKid August 14, 2018 at 8:07 pm - Reply

    We’ll it really is true. But most of the problems you wrote are problems with teenager thinkers who is still knowing their surroundings. And is on going on to developed themselves. But when deep thinkers reach adulthood those problems can be coped. Because they already know who they are and know how to handle those situation. Deep thinkers accept opinions of others for why they think like that and are emphatitic. So it’s not really a problem in adulthood

  15. Tisha August 19, 2018 at 6:46 am - Reply

    Wow. I don’t remember how I came across this blog, but I feel so liberated that what I thought was crazy about me, is a thing! Has a title (deep-thinker), and explained my whole mind to a T adding reasoning to myself!! Thank you so much for this. I literally felt myself relax and breathe at the words in #9 when you said the answer is no to the questions I always have in my mind when it comes to living life. I’m always searching for a purpose or a connection, and in reality, there’s no true answer that can be told. Wow, I’ve been spending these past months venting and trying to figure out my life, and this is a starting point for why I feel the way I feel and think the way I do! Thank you so much!

  16. Luis August 19, 2018 at 8:41 pm - Reply

    Yeah: WOW! I´m not alone after all. More or less like all other who have commented this great article.
    I´m almost 50 and only a few years ago have I started to come to realize, slowly and gradually (and also surely only partially and imperfectly) the kind of person I am (or rather, have been).
    And I believe I have started to change. One example of what I mean (or rather how it manifests): notice how I used the word “believe” in the previous statement instead of “think”? It may be subtle (or maybe not) but I believe now that it can make a huge qualitative difference.
    I am not religious (though I do not affirm God or something else does not exist). I’ve always had a very strong opinion about the value of critical thinking, logic, facts and science. But I have come recently to believe (again believe instead of think or know!) that thinking is like a double-edged sword.
    Additionally I have come to accept my human nature and associated limitations: I try to accept that I cannot know or understand everything (if anything at all) and that just as my body needs rest so does my mind. I would even say something stronger: I need rest from my mind!!!!
    So my perception of my relation to my life, emotionally, seems to have improved a lot due to this accompanied by regular exercise, forgiving myself for ALL my shortcomings, crying sometimes (but in a kind of relief manner), daily meditation and continuously trying to remember how to connect with my sensations and experience in the NOW (like, probably, when I was a very young boy).
    I’m still basically quite introverted and socially awkward and all the rest. BUT I feel much better about that than before! I even occasionally find myself having a “good time”, maybe smiling and enjoying some “little thing”, like some nice smell, comfortable seat or whatever.
    I believe and even think that, contrary maybe to most people who do it automatically, we have to want to take care of ourselves, help ourselves, for it to happen. Because our need or strong tendency to think and analyze everything and always overrides our other instinctive abilities or programs. Some of them are maybe related to what some call intuition, faith and hope and also BELIEVING!

  17. Nada August 30, 2018 at 6:40 am - Reply

    I think deep thinking is not enough and confusing if not taken to the second level silence the mind instead of over thinking ,or else we’ll be in a sick metal state if not controlled ,such as anxiety and depression at least ,silence the mind is not stop thinking ,it’s like acknowledge the thoughts ,accept them ,and accept the behavior and the emotions ,the change that happens in every stage ,I m not an expert on that subject but after all those years of over thinking and deep thoughts ,I read about silence of the mind and still learning .

  18. GlennSac September 10, 2018 at 9:18 am - Reply

    Love this page, so many interesting blogs every now and then.
    Being the only child i grew up alone, and yeah sure sometimes i feel like i have to socialize and somehow, in some way, i did.
    But a huge part of me screams “You really wanna be a part of this?”
    Reading the blog, i remembered a lot of happenings up until now.
    And now somehow i understand “that” part of me particularly #’s 1,2,3,5,7&10.
    Good thing my partner understands this part of me.
    It could have been better if there were solutions.
    Nevertheless, Thank you.

  19. Gail September 13, 2018 at 1:24 am - Reply

    I typed on the computer “i need a deep-thinker”. Thankfully this article came up. Emilia i too feel the need that you, and as i see from reading all the comments, surprisingly many others have. I feel better just knowing i’m not alone. I hope to connect with others here

  20. Lee September 18, 2018 at 7:16 pm - Reply

    If you could find a central meeting point, maybe you can get a small group together. Your first topic of course, would be ‘deep thinking’ and how it personally effects, like a support group, only you may find yourselves laughing at some points because you’ll all be able to relate. From there you can get a basket of topic contributions and vote on order of topic discussion. You may develop into something big on any level.

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