11 Struggles of Being a Deep Thinker in the Modern World

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Being a deep thinker is a great gift as it allows you to delve into the very essence of things and be more conscious.

Still, in modern society with its materialistic values, this constant inquiry and a profound awareness that accompany being a deep thinker can be quite challenging. Our consumerist society is killing deep thinking and is cultivating ignorance, and it makes sense why. Ignorant people who don’t question themselves and the world are the easiest targets for manipulation and mind control.

This is one of the reasons why deep thinking is not ‘in fashion’ in the modern world. Those of us who have this rare ability to look right into the depth of things often end up lonely, unhappy and unaccomplished. It’s all because being a deep thinker comes with a number of struggles and drawbacks most people are unaware of.

Here are some struggles that only deep thinkers can relate to:

1. Feeling of detachment

In a world ruled by greed, primitive desires and material interests, where people’s intellectual, moral and spiritual level is constantly going down, it’s no surprise that deep thinkers often feel like they don’t belong here.

One of the reasons why a deep thinker may struggle with relating to other people is a lack of meaningful communication. With all the ignorance and superficiality today, it’s not easy to find someone to talk about the things that truly matter. This is why deep thinkers often end up alone as they prefer loneliness to forced friendships.

This type of people is unlikely to tolerate shallow relationships and fake friendships. And no need to say that these are incredibly common nowadays. It’s becoming more and more difficult to make friends with genuine and deep people who don’t have hidden motives. Sadly, the consumer mindset has changed much more than just the way we see material objects. It has also altered the way we see each other.

With time, all this may make you feel alien to this society and world. Sometimes, you just can’t understand other people and their actions, which makes you wonder why you are such a misfit and feel like you come from another planet.

2. You have no interest in mainstream culture and popular activities

Similarly to the feeling of detachment, you don’t resonate with the interests and aspirations that are common to the majority of people and don’t enjoy things everyone loves. Those popular TV shows everyone talks about or usual activities like going for shopping with your friends and talking about clothes only irritate you.

You often wonder how it’s possible to waste so much of time on the things that don’t really matter. In general, you have little or no interest in the mundane and material side of being.

3. You have a profound frustration with modern society

Whether you follow what’s happening in the world or not, the only thing is clear – you are quite pessimistic about the future of humanity. It’s all because you deeply realize that humankind is constantly moving away from the true values and the things that really matter. All this ignorance and superficiality of modern people often make you think that the human race is doomed.

A deep thinker will often reflect on the world’s problems and will tend to take them to heart. No one will disagree that our current society has lots of issues to solve. From wars and social inequality to disrespect towards Mother Nature and other living beings on the planet.

Deep thinkers get genuinely concerned and disappointed with all this injustice, greed and violence we witness today. And the worst part is that one person can do very little to change the whole world. Thus, all a deep thinker is left with is worrying about the things they cannot influence.

4. Being indecisive and failing to take real actions

Deep thinkers are highly self-aware and reflective. However, no matter how good these qualities may be, they have one significant drawback. Those prone to deep thinking have a really hard time when it comes to taking real actions to change their life and the world. These dreamers with theoretical minds prefer to live in their own head, immersed in their thoughts and visions.

For this reason, turning ideas into a reality and putting plans into practice can be challenging for them. This indecisiveness and a lack of action often costs deep thinkers success and accomplishment.

It may not be a problem, however, as a deep thinker is rarely interested in becoming a success story. At the same time, when you realize that your life needs a change or you could make a real difference in the world, but you fail to act on it, this brings you deep disappointment with yourself.

5. Overthinking

It makes sense that deep thinking almost always equals overthinking. A deep thinker tends to overanalyze their actions and behavior. They find nonexistent mistakes, failures and flaws, and blame themselves for those. The truth is that a deep thinker can often be too hard on themselves. This makes them focus on the negative and worry too much about insignificant things.

Overthinking is another thing that can prevent deep thinkers from believing in themselves and succeeding in life. A person who is too hard on themselves tends to overlook their strengths and talents.

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Anna is the founder and lead editor of the website Learning-mind.com. She is passionate about learning new things and reflecting on thought-provoking ideas. She writes about science, psychology and other related topics. She is particularly interested in topics regarding introversion, consciousness and subconscious, perception, human mind's potential, as well as the nature of reality and the universe.

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  1. Suleman Narsindhani October 8, 2017 at 11:25 pm - Reply

    Its a curse of curiosity! It never ends, which keeps us detached from our fellow beings. We partially believe there is an answer to everything and keep searching with one eye blind. We are not special on this land and we cannot affirmatively blame, judge or discard the ways of connecting and interactions of other beings no matter how stupid or materialistic they may seem. We maybe more vulnerable but we have to endure that and practise more compassion towards our own self and towards our friends and families.

    • Justin November 13, 2017 at 12:57 am - Reply

      This is all so true.
      Everyone says that I am a ‘normal’ friendly and talkative guy. But under the surface theres such a disconnect with things on a deep level with my friends.
      Like I can talk about games, movies, etc etc but I crave talking existentialism with people, or talking life goals.
      I have tried fitting in to geeks, gamers, travellers, entrepreneurs, philosophers / intellectuals, digital nomads, but I just never fit in to any of them.

      Does anyone know where us deep thinkers hang out? Cause it certainly isn’t the football stadium…

      • Jack November 15, 2017 at 1:04 am - Reply

        I feel the same way.

        All my life I’ve been jumping from group to group trying to find one that understands me truly and with people that I can connect with deeply. All the while not even realising that I was a deep thinker to begin with, and thus wondering why these friendships never worked out.

        If only there was some sort of group where deep thinkers congregate, or some sort of sign to differentiate them from the rest of the world, because I’ll tell you it’s the vast minority of us that are deep thinkers, and unfortunately that reflects on the productiveness of our entire generation.

        • Ravneet May 2, 2018 at 4:45 pm - Reply

          Why, I feel exactly the same, that’s why I’ve never been able to get truly connected to anyone. I feel as if there are people who are similar to me but I never have found them. A group of deep thinkers brought together is what we need so that we can work collectively to do something we consider as meaningful.

      • dani April 29, 2018 at 3:02 am - Reply

        we hang out in acceptance ..lol. I am with you, my friends and family say I’m outgoing, a free spirit! But inside all I want is to be surrounded by people that want to dive into what its all about mode until there is nothing left to talk about or feel about and then do something fun.

      • kaila May 10, 2018 at 4:32 am - Reply

        ^ all of this.

      • PJS May 20, 2018 at 8:52 am - Reply

        This is so true. You are the only one who does not like to watch or talk about your national game. Your friends are surprised that you do not know the names of all players in the national team. By the time you reach 50s and if your profession matches your interest you are way ahead of your pears in terms of knowledge but you still lack skills in small talk. You can mentally work out complex solutions. Basically you are well taken care by your boss and the company fears you leaving. You will very often hear the comments ” oh since you are working on it, the problem will be solved now” , “why you can solve it, can you train your team”. After spending a few week on various solution that are rejected by end user, you still tell your boss on Friday “do not worry i have Saturday and Sunday to think about it, I will come on Monday with something new”…..and Monday you are with something totally new that resolves all concerns of end user. You will be so overloaded that you will have to reject request of more projects coming to you. You are the only one who know in details about a system designed 10years back. You are also one of those for whom solving the issue is the biggest reward, monetary benefits are secondary. But finally…. the thinking process is really taxing but you cannot do without it.

    • Gary December 15, 2017 at 6:59 am - Reply

      I am a deep thinker but I don’t articulate well sometimes I have trouble finding vocabulary so therefore I make a lot of small talk

      • Chris December 24, 2017 at 2:49 am - Reply

        Gary, I’m the same. I can ponder things with such adulterated elegance and complexity, but I am completely terrible – useless, almost – at actually expressing them via physical speech.

  2. Julia October 11, 2017 at 4:46 am - Reply

    How do they stop thinking so deep?

  3. Keitra October 31, 2017 at 8:49 pm - Reply

    I honestly think it’s impossible to stop thinking deeply. Your mind will constantly work harder; whether you want it to or not. I stopped trying to shut it down because I’m a full blown deep thinker. Often times, I sit in silence and let my mind wonder off. Usually in a dark room setting or whatever suits my mood.

    • ado kapidzic May 16, 2018 at 11:29 pm - Reply

      u CAN learn to meditate. like transcedent meditation or other forms.

  4. KESAV November 5, 2017 at 2:19 pm - Reply

    so true dude….i feel that this world is too boring…being surrounded by people who do not want change…this society we live in is so stupid….people fear of things they dont understand and make principles and laws to outcast those things instead of spending time to realise how unique those things might be….how wonderful they are….but all this fucking society can do is get afraid….not wanting a change…sticking to their dumb rules,doing same things over and over again,not realising how boring it is.everybody follwing the same pattern:birth,school,college,job,family,setllement,death.thats boring as fuck and pathetic

  5. Shing November 10, 2017 at 8:13 am - Reply

    Reading this makes me feels a lot better. Super stuck in deep thinking right now. Looking for answers I know I cannot find. I’m happy I found 1 answer.. which is, I’m not alone.

    Currently wanna crawl under a rock and be alone. Currently “feel” like going somewhere I’ve never been to just release what ever it is I feel right now.

    There’s something about nature, that make me feel better.

  6. Randi November 13, 2017 at 2:28 pm - Reply

    I am a deep thinker, and also found it hard to connect with those who seem superficial. I was able to find connection with people after I finally gave my life to Jesus. He made me feel completely loved. I was able to know myself better, and as a result, I was able to love other people more. Especially those who are VERY different than me. (I never thought I could ever have relationships with people who seemed superficial.) If I have prolonged times where I cannot connect with Him/myself (I consider it all the same now, because He is in me), I find myself not feeling connected. It’s amazing how He has helped me to be at ease with myself. This post was helpful. Thanks.

  7. Evert-Jan November 18, 2017 at 12:40 pm - Reply

    Warning: This comment is not encouraging but gives my perspective on things as a 19 year old boy.

    Over the almost 20 years I’ve been on this planet, I’ve come to realize that even if you don’t really like it, you have to participate in small talk, and casual activities. The society we live in today does simply not allow otherwise. If you do otherwise, you are immideately labelled as some sort of freak and you will not be taken seriously.

    As for the constant thinking, this will go on forever. These ‘sessions’ (more like constant in my case) will keep occuring. *Why? Because in our lifetimes we will never have full information about everything.* I guess that is why I lean towards games so much: You have (almost) full information and a clear objective with simple rules; The Goal Is Clear. Same goes for Deep thinkers who join other groups or relegious groups; *it takes their mind off things and most importantly, simplifies things*. The truth I found thus far in life is this: Deep thinkers think best alone. Thinking in groups or searching for long term relation/friendships with likeminded people where you see each other frequently does not work out. This is because you will be disconnected from reality for too long. Occcasionally speaking with likeminded people or people who understand you is, however, a great outlet, but no matter what, the thoughts will keep on coming.

    In the short term you can get rid of these thoughts by doing a certain thing that requires both full attention and has a clear,simple goal in mind (in my case, playing some tactical shooting game online). As for the long term, :I am still figuring things out. I’d love to talk more about this but hey, who’s going to read this anyway.

    • Joy December 3, 2017 at 1:19 pm - Reply

      Hi Evert-Jan
      I read what you wrote and it really resonated with me to help me understand some of my male friends who are deep thinkers too – especially the part where you said you like games so much because the objectives and rules are clear and you have almost perfect information. I turned 21 this year but will always be a child at heart. If you’d like to chat further would be keen to hear more of your story and thoughts…

    • Simon May 2, 2018 at 1:45 am - Reply

      rather than trying to escape from your deep thoughts, as i used to and practicly abused my entire soul and body. until my fiancee left and i thought of many things. embraced them, and they went, if you embrace the deep emotional thinking and get it out in the open. write it down, it puts it at rest. its a gift and one that sets us apart from the rest. thinking of every possible outcome and possibility. only ready’s you for the inevitable :). plus we got a much better connection with situations and can deal with them if you allow it.

  8. Chris December 23, 2017 at 1:44 am - Reply

    Thank you for describing this. This is me exactly.

    What compounded it, or amplified it for me, though, was getting addicted to heroin at quite a young age.

    Drugs, of course, open your mind; so that, combined with being a deep thinker in any case, has left me an tormented abnormality of life. I am no longer on that stuff, but it has left me with the probably better-off-not-known knowledge that certain drugs can marginally, temporarily alleviate the toll and brain-stretch that comes with being a deep thinker.

    Mine is also exacerbated by the fact I’m Northern working class (English), and I live in a working class area. I am entirely alone. My mum and dad, and brothers, live not very far away, but I am unable to build a proper relationship with them. My father is a good man who has worked hard all his life. He’s a simple man, and we are utterly alien to each other. Though I love him.

  9. Matthew Watson January 1, 2018 at 7:20 pm - Reply

    Hiya, I too am a deep thinker. I think so much about things other people are just not interested in. Some people just don’t have the capacity to understand. I do get frustrated why people do such things. When talking about being isolated from the rest, that is true I do feel that. The world is blind and ruled by greed and power and only think about what is there and not what could be. I think about the things like why do certain things exist. How do constructions of experiments collaborate so remarkably, what I mean is how does the world start. There are theories in relativity but are bewildering, if 2 people started on the earth like Adam and Eve, how come some of us speak different lanaguages. Did they create life and when the child is born did it get lost along the way of lanaguage development and end up speaking for say Chinese? We don’t know? I think about the deep facts, because was there a Big Bang?. So many theories written online but are any really the correct reasoning. Are we all really just living on a theoretical interface where the only answer is a theory and justification of what matters. I could go on and on about this type of stuff. I would love to group up with people and just learn about the world in a vast formality, understanding its beginning and development to the full but it’s not something you can learn on the internet. It’s something that should be spoken, not written and read. My name is matt I live in Ipswich if anyone knows a place in which people like myself belong, then let me know. This is a great page for people like us, I’m glad I found it.

  10. Tom January 11, 2018 at 6:42 pm - Reply

    Here is a ninth challenge. Take the words wit, witty, smart, funny, and quick. See how wit refers to intelligence, witty means (smart)funny, and quick is associated with both. But quick is really a false equivalence. Nevertheless in our society, slow is associated with lower intelligence. However, speed of wit is only one aspect of intelligence. It ignores that deep thinkers think (of many angles, filters, their audience, potential repercussions etc.) before they speak more than most people. A considered response simply arrives later than a reflexive one. There is no inherent superiority of speed vs. considered, but social interactions heavily favor quick.

    • Leroy January 29, 2018 at 3:12 pm - Reply

      i just deleted my long over thought initial thoughts by accident but you demonstrated with your comment exactly how my brain works. so crucial to think deeper when dealing with new sensitive friends who have misunderstood anything i’ve said prior to them due to me feeling comfortable and clever around them. they can’t keep up with me because they still are learning who i am. and sometimes they go into defense mode late into the night with passive aggression and that’s when you learn that there are many ways to go about helping them figure things out about this or that. thank you for articulating that what’s goes on internally.

  11. Sandra Castle January 19, 2018 at 12:22 am - Reply

    I too am a deep thinker. Have often been labeled weird, self-involved, etc. etc. Only one person in my life, my sister, sees me as a deep thinker. She also realizes this is what makes me different from most. That being said, I wouldn’t trade being a deep thinker for the alternative. I am astounded when I state a researched fact to someone and get the answer, “I don’t care,” or I never really thought about it. It makes me wonder what people like that think about. Are their minds so devoid of thinking of deep matters? This makes no sense to me. Where would we be without the deep thinkers of our world? I admit, I avoid talking of anything with people like this since small talk of the weather, what’s for dinner, etc. makes no difference to me. The weather will be. When I am hungry, I will find something to eat. Until then, just leave me alone and let me figure things out that I’m thinking about. Is it any wonder we are introverts who long for deep conversations on something other than clothes, gossip, and whatever they think about. Boring. Where’s the interest in such mundane matters? None for this deep thinker.

  12. Irene February 11, 2018 at 1:43 am - Reply

    I typed into my browser ” I don’t belong anywhere” and came across this site.. Thank you all for making me feel reasonably normal! I’m 75 now but quite clearly remember feeling that I must have been adopted as a child as I certainly did’nt belong in the family I grew up in 🙂

  13. Irina Koleva February 23, 2018 at 7:07 pm - Reply

    I really recognize myself (especially with 8), but not with 3 and 6, because I’m too young for them. Deep thinking will save our world, but it has one big problem – such people don’t live in the present. For example, I have some gathered money. The only reason not to give them to a pauper in the street is that they can’t help them in perspective. Deep thinkers see the bigger picture so they can’t concentrate on a current problem.

  14. Ali March 23, 2018 at 4:03 pm - Reply

    I do feel alone in this world and feel I have out-stayed my welcome. I am an idealist and have very small circle of friends. The modern world does not sit well with me. Most people think I’m a nice guy but a loner. The only thing that keeps me going everyday is my faith and knowing one day I will return to my Creator. Most of my close family have already left this earthly plane and I await my turn to be with them once again. Life is beautiful and God’s grace is everywhere. God bless all in existence.

  15. JABINVA April 1, 2018 at 1:38 am - Reply

    It is really nice to read an article like this and the comments to realize that there are other people in the world that are like you. It does help. Like Justin said, I just cannot find a group to fit in with. Many educated people who think quickly and appear, (or in their way are) intelligent are not deep thinkers and can be condescending and arrogant when you try to relate to them. Deep thinking, as I experience it, is not quick thinking typically, unless it is stored or collected thought over time that comes out in a burst or mental outpouring. Which in my experience is typically not received well. Society is not very open to deep thinking currently even though I believe it is in desperate need of it. So many people from different circles seem to scoff you off at any discussion outside acceptable topics and many times act like superior know it alls in response. Deep thinking in my opinion is not being or feeling like a know it all. It is the opposite really and I would consider it more of a “question it all” mentality. Including my own thoughts and opinions.
    Long winded, sorry. Great article. Thanks.

  16. A nonymus my April 16, 2018 at 8:42 am - Reply

    Just reading this made me feel better. It was like you were describing me. Even though I know there are people out there who can relate and understand, none of my friends or family or coworkers really do which adds to the feeling of not belonging. Why am I bothered that I don’t belong when I don’t want to belong?

    • Simon May 2, 2018 at 1:49 am - Reply

      Being alone has a power very few can handle. same with feeling like you dont belong. you feel like you dont belong because your destined for bigger things you just havnt spent quality Me time to realise your path. instead you spent your time wondering why why why. feel blessed embrace it and shoot for the stars!.

  17. Emack April 26, 2018 at 10:35 pm - Reply

    I am a deep thinker. I do not like the same things (e.g. fantasy sports or so-called comedy TV shows) many people do. I would rather go my own way instead of following the crowd to path of misery and regret.

    Deep thinkers including myself are meant to be different. We are not supposed to follow the crowd or do what everyone else is doing. God has called us to make a positive difference in this world. The reason is that many people are doing ungodly things.

    So, do not let other people especially family and friends stop you from doing your purposes.

    If so, you would regret it majorily.

  18. Tammy May 9, 2018 at 1:51 am - Reply

    Deep thinking has paved a path of life for me that I travel mostly alone. Others have walked with me for a short time only to fade away for I am “too serious, no fun, think too much, miserable”, or they just get bored. I have never felt I belong anywhere I have been. Like a nagging 2 year old, I am always wondering why or how about everything. This picking things apart has only one benefit I have found up to this point: I do enjoy my job as a small engine mechanic and am pretty good at troubleshooting 🙂

    I have accepted the fact I do not fit into any of societies boxes they have laid out for us. I am grateful to know there are others like me. Being alone with my deep thinking and finding more benefits to my oddballness has become my new goal. Doing this alone and accepting how lonely this world can make me feel is a rock in my path I will overcome.

    This post is reassuring in the fact that it tells me there are people out there deeper than a kiddy pool. Nice to know

  19. Justus May 18, 2018 at 12:00 pm - Reply

    Can be a very lonely place but well worth it… we seek more out of ourselves and others, have so much to offer others who decide to join in or accept us. We are never bored and usually higher conscious beings…but huge drawback is being paralyzed to take actions in life…oh the struggle…knowing something and actually doing it….two different beasts.

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