Being a deep thinker is a great gift as it allows you to delve into the very essence of things and be more conscious.

Still, in modern society with its materialistic values, this constant inquiry and a profound awareness that accompany being a deep thinker can be quite challenging. Our consumerist society is killing deep thinking and is cultivating ignorance, and it makes sense why. Ignorant people who don’t question themselves and the world are the easiest targets for manipulation and mind control.

This is one of the reasons why deep thinking is not ‘in fashion’ in the modern world. Those of us who have this rare ability to look right into the depth of things often end up lonely, unhappy, and unaccomplished. It’s all because being a deep thinker comes with a number of struggles and drawbacks most people are unaware of.

Here are some struggles that only deep thinkers can relate to:

1. Feeling of detachment

In a world ruled by greed, primitive desires, and material interests, where people’s intellectual, moral and spiritual level is constantly going down, it’s no surprise that deep thinkers often feel like they don’t belong here.

One of the reasons why a deep thinker may struggle with relating to other people is a lack of meaningful communication. With all the ignorance and superficiality today, it’s not easy to find someone to talk about the things that truly matter. This is why deep thinkers often end up alone as they prefer loneliness to forced friendships.

This type of person is unlikely to tolerate shallow relationships and fake friendships. And no need to say that these are incredibly common nowadays. It’s becoming more and more difficult to make friends with genuine and deep people who don’t have hidden motives. Sadly, the consumer mindset has changed much more than just the way we see material objects. It has also altered the way we see each other.

With time, all this may make you feel alien to this society and world. Sometimes, you just can’t understand other people and their actions, which makes you wonder why you are such a misfit and feel like you come from another planet.

2. You have no interest in mainstream culture and popular activities

Similarly to the feeling of detachment, you don’t resonate with the interests and aspirations that are common to the majority of people and don’t enjoy things everyone loves. Those popular TV shows everyone talks about or usual activities like going shopping with your friends and talking about clothes only irritate you.

You often wonder how it’s possible to waste so much time on the things that don’t really matter. In general, you have little or no interest in the mundane and material side of being.

3. You have a profound frustration with modern society

Whether you follow what’s happening in the world or not, the only thing is clear – you are quite pessimistic about the future of humanity. It’s all because you deeply realize that humankind is constantly moving away from the true values and the things that really matter. All this ignorance and superficiality of modern people often make you think that the human race is doomed.

A deep thinker will often reflect on the world’s problems and will tend to take them to heart. No one will disagree that our current society has lots of issues to solve. From wars and social inequality to disrespect towards Mother Nature and other living beings on the planet.

Deep thinkers get genuinely concerned and disappointed with all this injustice, greed, and violence we witness today. And the worst part is that one person can do very little to change the whole world. Thus, all a deep thinker is left with is worrying about the things they cannot influence.

4. Being indecisive and failing to take real actions

Deep thinkers are highly self-aware and reflective. However, no matter how good these traits may be, they have one significant drawback. Those prone to deep thinking have a really hard time when it comes to taking real actions to change their life and the world. These dreamers with theoretical minds prefer to live in their own heads, immersed in their thoughts and visions.

For this reason, turning ideas into a reality, and putting plans into practice can be challenging for them. This indecisiveness and a lack of action often cost deep thinkers success and accomplishment.

It may not be a problem, however, as a deep thinker is rarely interested in becoming a success story. At the same time, when you realize that your life needs a change or you could make a real difference in the world, but you fail to act on it, this brings you deep disappointment with yourself.

5. Overthinking

It makes sense that deep thinking almost always equals overthinking. One of the telltale traits of a deep thinker is the tendency to overanalyze their actions and behavior. They find nonexistent mistakes, failures, and flaws, and blame themselves for those.

The truth is that a deep thinker can often be too hard on themselves. This makes them focus on the negative and worry too much about insignificant things.

Overthinking is another thing that can prevent deep thinkers from believing in themselves and succeeding in life. A person who is too hard on themselves tends to overlook their strengths and talents.

6. Poor social skills and difficulty relating to others

Deep thinking often comes with social incompetence. Social skills are usually an innate quality, even though they can be developed.

Yet, social communication mainly relies on the practical, everyday side of life. And this is something deep thinkers are not really good at as they tend to have highly theoretical minds. This inability to connect with other people easily makes the feeling of detachment even more intense.

At the same time, the tendency to think deep leaves a mark on your perception of other people as well. Being a deep thinker is not only about trying to solve the world’s problems or eternal dilemmas. Many deep thinkers are fascinated with the human psyche and its mysteries. The ability to analyze human nature in depth also affects social situations and day to day interactions with people.

A deep thinker with an analytical mind can easily detect inconsistencies in someone’s behavior which indicate lies, authenticity, and hidden motives. As a result, this ability inevitably leads to disappointment. The more you deal with people and see their true nature, the more alone you feel.

7. Others confuse you for being arrogant/weird/absentminded

For the most part, deep thinkers are introverts who remain immersed in their thoughts most of the day and don’t open up to other people easily.

For this reason, those who don’t know you well may get the wrong impression that you are full of yourself and are acting snobby, avoiding small talks and group activities.

I like deep thinkers. I don’t like to have normal conversations with people. I love learning about what makes them who they are. Their thoughts. Views. Who is important to them. What is important to them. Let me pick your brain

I like deep thinkers. I don’t like to have normal conversations with people. I love learning about what makes them who they are. Their thoughts. Views. Who is important to them. What is important to them. Let me pick your brain.
-Unknown

Some may think you are a weirdo or an absentminded daydreamer who just sits there and has his/her head in the clouds all day long.

8. The necessity to solve everyday problems can be a real challenge

You may have reflected on the questions that most people have never asked themselves and have read more books than anyone around you.

Hours of your life may have passed trying to find answers to meaningful questions and figure out what this existence is all about. You may have remarkable insights and may notice things most people are unaware of. However, solving everyday problems can make you feel completely helpless.

The truth is that deep thinking rarely equals practical thinking. Ask a deep thinker to explain to you the essence of existentialist philosophy for your college paper, and they will. Ask them to help you buy a washing machine for your new home, and they will scratch their head, feeling clueless.

The mundane aspects of being don’t really interest a deep thinker and their practical thinking skills are not that good. So they try to avoid dealing with such issues at any cost.

9. Periods of introspection and causeless sadness

If you are a deep thinker, you are probably familiar with the feeling of sadness you may have from time to time for no obvious reason. It is a sort of existential depression.

Pain and suffering are always inevitable

Pain and suffering are always inevitable for a large intelligence and a deep heart. The really great men must, I think, have great sadness on earth.
-Fyodor Dostoevsky, “Crime and Punishment”

In these periods, you are just drawn into yourself, analyzing your life, or reflecting on existential issues. Nothing can really get you out of this state unless the flow of your thoughts comes to some conclusion.

Thinking in depth is directly linked with reflecting on existential questions. A person who has never asked themselves about the meaning of life and everything can’t be really considered a deep thinker.

Is there life after death? Who am I? What is my purpose in this world? Questions like these are certainly interesting to think about. At the same time though, they have no answers. So reflecting on these matters automatically means that you will be chasing the elusive truth for a lifetime and will never reach it.

10. Lack of understanding

When you have that thoughtful expression on your face, even your close ones may assume that something is wrong with you and start worrying about you, asking questions like “Is everything all right?” or “Are you ok?”

The problem is that it’s not always easy to explain the cause of this mood. It may be something as simple as a book with a sad ending or a thought-provoking documentary you recently watched – literally anything can put you in deep thoughts.

11. It can be difficult to get out of your head and return to reality

When you are reading a book or are simply immersed in your thoughts, it’s like if you were traveling to an alternate reality. A real struggle is when you have to come back to the “real” world and return to your job, everyday duties, and activities. This return is always accompanied by a feeling of confusion and even frustration.

Remember those mornings when you are having a beautiful dream and it is suddenly interrupted by the sound of the alarm clock? This is what it feels like when you realize it’s time to get out of your head and come back to real life.

How to Cope as a Deep Thinker in the Modern World?

Are you a deep thinker who struggles with staying connected to reality and those around you? You may want to check my related articles for some guidance:

Can you relate to any of the above-described points? Share your thoughts with us.

P.S. After numerous requests from our readers, we created a community aimed to bring like-minded deep thinkers around the world together. If you are interested, join our Facebook group“Deep Thinkers in the Modern World”.

P.P.S. If you are a deep thinker who feels alien to modern society, check out my new book The Power of Misfits: How to Find Your Place in a World You Don’t Fit In, which is available on Amazon.


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This Post Has 203 Comments

  1. Ana N.

    I related to this so much! Every word spoke to me; I’m so glad I’m not alone. Thank you for such a great article!

    1. Anna LeMind

      I’m glad you liked it! and it’s so great to know I’m not alone either 🙂

      1. Aaron

        Hi. Where do I start. Well, I believe I’m a deep thinker. I relate to part 1,3,4,6,7,8 pretty well. 2&5 is a hit and miss. It’s more like Hell to me like it’s a I can’t get out of my head kind of thing. Idk I have ADHD pretty good(I say good cause I love racing head) so my thoughts slip away and are replaced with something new. I’m trying to figure out who I am, so I looked “deep thinkers ” and here I am. So thanks

  2. David Winsland

    I relate to all of these but particularly the ’causeless sadness’. I have nothing to be unhappy about and so my wife feels that I should go around with a permanent smile upon my face while laughing at the inane joke that form a pretence for humour nowadays. You’ve hit the nail on the head with this one..

  3. Anjana Silva

    This line relates to me very well. ‘Sometimes, you just can’t understand other people and their actions, which makes you wonder why you are such a misfit and feel like you come from another planet’. It is really true that people are losing their human values rather rapidly nowaday…. Anyway very nice article Anna. Keep it up. Cheers!!

  4. JB

    This is one of the best articles in this blog that best describes me and my struggles in my personal and professional life. Most of my friend and colleagues describe as if I have my own world. It takes so much time before I immerse myself in a group because I feel that I need to profile the people I’m dealing with, before I mingle with them. True, I also have a poor social skills, often alone and sad.

  5. Brittney Colvard

    What a beautiful article. What do you recommend for those who have trouble returning to reality, especially after long periods of deep thinking?

    1. Anna LeMind

      Hi Brittney,

      Thank you! I guess the point is not to force this return to happen too quickly and sharply. It should be natural, so just let yourself gradually pass from one state to another, just like you switch from sleep to wakefulness. Also, you may want to discuss the issues or questions that have occupied your mind with someone. Of course, not everyone has a person who loves deep conversations, but if you do, sharing your thoughts with another human being is a great way to get out of your head and reach some conclusions as well.

  6. Faizan

    I relate to all this and to answer my question are the holy books especially the Quran and Bible. i am a muslim and sometimes refer to the life of the prophet if i am not able to come to a conclusion. usually i would read inspriring articles or quotes. Amazing article, was excited to read this when i got the email.

  7. Nebur IS Wrong

    1st point : “Sometimes, you just can’t understand other people and their actions,” if you are such a deep thinker you can think deep enough into understanding why other people act like they do.
    4th point: Deep thinkers understand the importance of connecting and communicating with others as we live in society.
    5th point: Reading books = Deep thinking. Good to know.

    Everything else is fine i guess. I’m speaking of my own experience however, i cannot generalize it, as you may experience world differently. I have no way of knowing.

    1. Anna LeMind

      Hi Nebur,

      1) You certainly can think and figure out the possible motives behind other people’s actions. Actually, I meant here that you can’t fully understand them because you are different from the majority of people and can’t grasp their logic.
      2) Deep thinkers love connecting and having deep conversations with likeminded people but I doubt if anyone of them likes small talks.
      3) Of course, the fact that you like reading books doesn’t make you a deep thinker. However, I guess that the reverse is quite true because books are a great food for thought.

      In general, this article is based on my personal experiences, so it makes perfect sense that not everyone can relate to what I wrote. We all are different, don’t you think 🙂

  8. audra

    This was beautiful and a relate to it so much. My only question would be when you say you have a hard time solving every day problems, can you give me an example of what you mean?

    1. Anna LeMind

      Hi Audra,

      Thank you, I’m glad you liked it 🙂 An example could be something as simple as setting up an appointment with a doctor or repairing something in your home – literally anything that makes you deal with the “real world.” Maybe this is not true for all deep thinkers, but I guess that most of them have a theoretical mind and are not very good at dealing with practical issues.

  9. PETERS

    Thanks for the article, I agree with most of the observations.
    Regarding point 5 – if you can resolve the problem using the money, it’s not a problem, it’s a cost. Deep thinkers can have some problems with it because of points 2 & 3.

  10. Rahul Chanda

    I agree all the points given & I like the thought very much. But I want to know why human beings are so complicated? Complication makes our life so haze.

  11. Dan

    I’m in, deep thinker. Your description fits me. Sometimes I become bored with people who offend you without any evidence or questioning, boring conversations that are shallow…

  12. Dan

    When can deep thinkers have their fulfillment without being down looked by others as being weird

  13. Thea Dunlap

    3,4 5, and 8 are on point for me. Some really find me weird especially when that is their fist impression of me. I am often absentminded, my mom always points it out.

  14. Reese

    Great article. My relationship has ended because I’m too much if a deep thinker.

  15. Fred Gillum

    I only woke up recently to my “problem”. Your comments on deep thinkers helped confirm some of my suspicions about my own weirdness. It’s taken many years to start getting my act together. At age 74 I have finally figured out what I want to be when I grow up!!

  16. Silvester

    Beautiful article. It describes exactly what i am. And what iam struggling with for some time. But the Problem for me is to talk with someone that could understand me. Its very hard to find that right Person for me. Any ideas where could i find Person like that or what kinda Person should it be ?

  17. Stephen Michael Kuhn

    Prior to “knowing myself” – all of this was one of the driving factors for my addiction to drugs/alcohol – for more than 35 years. I thought that it was basically an anathema to me, to my life – and used “substances” to “overcome” – which obviously created disharmony on a spiritual level, which no amount of drugs/alcohol could overcome. On eventually coming into proper recovery and sobriety – the path that I had taken (A.A. + 12 Steps) helped me to find out exactly WHO I was and WHAT I was – accepting and embracing the real “me” – and then coming to actually enjoy my “weirdness” – as well, coming to understand how some of these can be turned into a positive and utilised to further enrich my life’s journey…strange as it may sound to some…

    Thank you, and be safe, be well. Peace and blessings.

  18. Kelly

    Boy did this describe me! Do you recommend any books to help us deep thinkers understand ourselves better? There I go, wanting to think deep about why I think deep! 🙂

  19. Rain

    Woww , thank you , whoever you wrote this !!

  20. Amy

    Wow! Everything that I read makes since it describes me perfectly. I always feel so alone no one really gets me and reading this makes me feel much better!!!

  21. Jaunette

    Matches all of the points love the article made my day

  22. Usman

    Ooh… I think the article is totally about me….. Thanks writer.. May Allah bless you

  23. Prince

    Hello. Apart from being an introvert, I’m a hyperhidrosis patient and that makes me wish I never have to do anything with anyone, but unfortunately, I can’t escape working with people. Thanks for the article.

  24. Ehoodi

    Been called crazy weird for so long that I have come to accept it,am just over joyed by knowing today that am crazy, thank you very much e.k

    1. Musah Musah

      people call what they dont understand crazy. Crazy is a subjective word. No one is crazy.

  25. Eric

    This was growing up as a kid thru high school and still. It seemed as though everyone or most people were a little confused or scared or thought it’s the quiet ones that you should worry about. How frustrating I enjoyed solitude even as a small kid I’d sit somewhere enjoy the beautiful outdoors and analyze everything and everyone. I became a recluse for most of my time except work of course. It’s quite interesting to have seen this article and see I’m not just some weirdo that there are other people out there like me with this struggle

  26. DF

    It’s really a struggel, i thought it would be easier when getting older. It isn’t, get slowly more and more detached. Nice to know i’m not alone battling this fight. Btw not giving up, still too much fun inside my head 😉 Thanks for the interest, reseach and artikel.

  27. Patrizia

    I am a deep thinker, a great listener and an extremely sensitive person. What I have learned from my experiences is that not necessarily other people need to be the same. I don’t need to give explanations about who I am and why, and I don’t ask or expect anyone to be anything but what they are. I follow my instincts and values, seek respect and give it back. When it gets too much, I walk away and don’t look back. This is how I learned to survive, always hoping that like minded people will eventually cross my path. When they do it’s a blessing, and I cherish those moments forever inside of me as I grow stronger and more determined to continue to be the person I keep becoming. I grow each day, I learn and accept every experience with a fuller understanding, patience and joy. Even when they get unbearable and overwhelming, I live these moments fully and then let them flow until they melt in me. Because of this I am often on my own, I have difficultly in relating in social circumstances and I cope with my solitude as best I can. These are things that make us unique, not different or wrong, cherish your diversity and use it as a gift to others and it will become a gift for yourself.

    1. Daisy

      “Even when they get unbearable and overwhelming, I live these moments fully and then let them flow until they melt in me.”

      This is really beautiful! I think you have an amazing inner world! I’m glad that beautiful people like you exist!

  28. Natasha

    Thanks for this article. This is exactly me also. I feel good knowing there are other people in the world that feel the same way as me. My friends, family and random people have always treated my like I am weird when I know I am not. I have been abused and used by many of them. Sometimes I don’t think any genuine people exist besides myself and feel very down. I have been blamed for things I haven’t done because of evil people. I have had groups of people against me my whole life because I choose to do the right thing and I think it scares them or they just don’t like me. It is for peoples’ own good though and they need to learn to think more deeply about their actions because they really do affect others whether they realize it or not.

  29. Don

    There have been times when I’ve questioned the value of my being a deep thinker. It has consequences. Many times it has brought sadness and depressive feelings, conclusions that there are no answers, a definite tendency to drift away at inopportune times, comments about living in another world, in fact all named in the article. Over time, I’ve decided it is the world I prefer to live in. I love thinking and learned long ago to overlook the comments. I thank the writer of this post not only for its content, but for mentioning in her first sentence that ‘deep thinker is a great gift’. I couldn’t agree more.

  30. David Betts

    Interesting stuff here! Some of this certainly applies to me. Good to read as it makes me feel better knowing there are others who are similar 😊.

  31. Jo

    This is so me. Just thinking today that I don’t belong on this planet. Thinking how can I find people that think like me.

  32. BC

    I can definitely relate. I have never felt like I belonged, even as a child and people have always annoyed me. Trying to find a way to deal with all of this so I’m not so irritated all of the time.

  33. Salma

    The 8th amd the 3rd point makes total sense to me.. deep thinking has always been the most interesting part of me for me. I love to sit by a calmer place that gives me pleasure and get into deep thoughts. 8th point has always been the only negetive effect of deep thinking that sometimes make people think im mad at them or angry about something etc. Creates a wrong impression. And im working on that behaviour. But in the end I enjoy getting into deep thoughts and I also love to try and explain what I think (some things).

  34. TABANI

    I can relate to all those struggles mentioned, sometimes I wish we can be fully accepted as we are as we accept other personalities as they are. You hear an extrovert asking you “Why are you so quiet?” seriously? I don’t recall any introvert ever asking anyone “Why are you so talkative?” Let’s just accept that personality differences exist

  35. Ben

    I wish I knew some of you guys. This article explains me so well. i don’t know a single person that thinks this way. It’s really hard to relate to most people I come across. I really enjoy being in nature. I love the silence.

    1. Martin

      This describes me to a T…All who can relate, let us meet up on facebook.

      1. Heidi

        Seems like this article was written just for me. I really thought I was the only one who thought like me and it can be really lonely at times as I just don’t understand the way other people think. I would love to chat to people who can relate.

  36. chucky

    Did u study me before writing this article? When am thinking or analysing something, someone around me might think am been disgusted about them been around me… and my latest thought is how come guys of nowadays can’t just have a female friend without having any intimacy with her????

  37. Cheryl Ramsay

    I believe this personality trait is a blessing more than a curse. I can relate 100%. Deep thinkers are very intuitive.

  38. fk

    I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I always think about everything, people, nature, cosmos, kids, life etc. I especially cannot stop to seeing details in life but I usually inattentive. I always feel there are something important I see but my circle never see that. I don’t know how can I stop to seeing things from this perspective because this is big reason for discussing with people.

    I actually have good job and I was always successful person at work. But for personal life, I can not say same thing.. I’ve a son and sometimes I feel he doesn’t understand me 🙂 and I feel guilty. I know I normally very good father than more people but I don’t know this is all about details.

    Can somebody say me pls am I normal 🙂 because I really need to see some people thinking like me, otherwise feeling insane.

    1. the voice from the other room

      You are fine. Look out your window. Peace might exist there. Nature is the best echo chamber. It speaks all languages. It understands and invented cherry blossoms in answer to your questions. Does it make sense now?

  39. Al

    “Yond Cassius has a lean and hungry look, He thinks too much; such men are dangerous.” Scratch the surface of the neurological normal and all you get is more surface (and sometimes a knife). I always translate “deep” to mean “brain-damaged.” I don’t see any evidence that ‘deep’ in this context means anything but “someone to avoid”. When people say I’m a deep thinker, what they really mean is I’m a nerd and have no friends. They are probably right. We used to call this type of person a navel-gazer, or collectively refer to these “deep thoughts” as Jack Handyisms. Now we are all about handing out trophies to all participants and validating the subjective claims and history-free abstractions of any fool parroting a contrarian idea. Society is correct to shun us. Socrates was a sick man and pointed to just how degenerate Greek culture had become.

  40. Gautam Ghosh

    Oh ! It seems that you are writing about me .

  41. Ava

    All these comments are as interesting as the article itself. I see myself in most of you. I am different to most people I know and for most o them different = difficult. I’ve also suffered depression and sadness because I’ve felt like I’m not understood. However this gift is what now gives me strength as I’ve come to know and understand who I am, that gives me great confidence these days but getting here was the opposite, full of insecurities etc. always wondering what others were thinking.
    Now I am happy because it comes from who I am, not what I am, I no longer need validation from others. I’ve learned to enjoy walking my journey alone and sharing what I’ve learned with others when it is permitted I don’t care for all the political correct stuff.it does nothing for me, I prefer people to be real and authentic without all the bull. I only took 60 years to get here but I’ve arrived and now I’m a formidable personality, sometimes too much for others but that is fine. I love who I am these days.
    Be well my fellow travelers, we are here for a reason 🙂

    1. Darren

      This is an amazing comment, I’m 18 and I’ve always been a deep thinker and wrapped up in meditation. I always thought it was something I would just outgrow and I would eventually conform to society, but that’s literally impossible unless I want to die inside. I just thought it was cool that your 60 and are still on your true life path. I kind of figured that to make it in today’s world you had to conform to the stupidity and keep life’s greatest questions to yourself. I’m just glad to see I’m not completely alone. I met a 59 year old man at the park the other day while I was playing guitar and we literally talked for 2 hours about our life expiriences and it really offered me some solice that the entire world isnt chickens with their heads chopped off. He seemed like he really chose his life and seeing your comment just confirmed that I need to be 100% me even if it means traveling alone most days.

  42. Pollyblue

    Wow, I had just been trying to relate to my husband thus evening about my latest internal conflicts and frustrations that I really couldn’t explain, and then I came across this article. It made me cry, I felt lime maybe I wasn’t alone and just maybe I could find someone in the world to talk to who might understand me. I read the whole thing out loud to him and he said it sounds like I wrote it, I feel like I could have. Thank you for the validation.

  43. matthew

    hey so this little article really reaches out to me, im married and have been for years now, and my wife still thinks of me as distant and there is no real way of explaining that im not. i would love to share conversations with her or anybody in that matter, but i literary suck at staring a conversation, so any tips on socializing would be great for me. also glad to see that im not the only one.

  44. Ben

    Good article. Feeling misunderstood isn’t fun. Power to you all.

  45. Sanjay Kumar

    Comment…I used to think that there must be few man in the world with this kind of mind situations as mine. this article totally match to my behavior.

  46. Ollie

    We do cross paths with people like us or others who also have some of our traits. This connection does give us great relief and belonging however the majority of people can’t relate or understand to our persona whether by distractions of life or avoidance due to the negativity and often unpleasant realisations around the truths of our existence. Be brave and persevere with our honest endeavors to confront and question our reality. Be who you are. Its minds like ours that challenge the establishment and its actions, we are a powerful and threatening entity to it and we are dangerously obscure, hence our withdrawn personality

  47. ikirkie

    “You think too much!”
    How many times have I heard that piffle in my life?
    I am each and every one of those eight points. Thx.

    1. Justin

      You’re life will be much happier if you just stop ‘over analysing’. If I had a dollar for every time I heard that..

  48. Jenson Mccall

    Hello, i was just reading through the comments and everyone on here seems to be about 40 – 60, married, has kids. but im only 14 and i am a really deep thinker, i feel like an alien to everyone else. i have my group of friends (4 of us) but i still feel like they dont understand me when i tell them how i get, because i am badly depressed. but they just tell me its gonna be ok. i was just wondering what age did you people start to become a deep thinker? because im 14 and i can look into the full perspective of things and take my mind on a journey.

    1. jake

      hello everyone i’m 18 and i’m everything of all what you said in comments and @jenson mccall i’m 18 i started to think deep when i got 18.i’m curious about all of you people .curious to meet you all . maybe if we could discuss in group video calling

  49. Luke Reppucci

    Yes, I feel like my life is a constant existential crisis punctuated by fleeting distractions and other brief periods of respite that come only after reaching conclusions that are sufficient to temporarily assuage my mind. This relates to my horror at the true implications of naturalism, namely nihilism and antinatalism. I have to leave open the possibility that this worldview is wrong in order to continue functioning, which is already difficult enough (at times almost prohibitive) considering the mere possibility (however great or small) that naturalism’s dictates are indeed correct, and that we are all doomed. If this is true, then the sophisticated consciousness we possess, which allows us to have these realisations, is a cruel, sick joke this universe (or multiverse!) has played on us.

  50. Cal Pace

    I have been on this journey of trying to understand and truly find myself for about a year now. I am only 18, I am glad I’m figuring all of this out this early. I hate feeling like I don’t truly belong anywhere. I absolutely love my ability to see the big picture and to analyze every little detail that is possible. It allows me overcome so many obsticales that most can’t, at times I feel very useful.

    I absolutely hate small talk it’s boring. I can sit and talk about deep and intricate topics all day, but I don’t know anyone like me. When I’m alone (which is often) I think about everything possible known to mankind (why are we here, what is my purpose, psychological, etc.). I go through periods of depression and in those times I have no energy to think or do much of anything. In times like that I’m usually engulfed in television and other forms of entertainment that draw me away from reality.

    But when I finally make it through I come back to my self and get a handle on my immense anxiety and stress. At those times I can think of rational ways to beat my issues. Previously I would let my negative thoughts and insecurities reign but hopefully now I can keep things optimistic. Thank you for this post and I wish all of you luck on making the best out of our situation.

    1. jake

      while i’m thinking like you i was looking for people like me and all of you seem to be like me now i’m more curious about how do you all live and what do you do or what are interests or hobbies?

    2. Amber

      It’s the same for me too. I’m 17 this year and I’ve kind of numbed myself from society and the way it works now. It’s really all about pretense for me in my society cos if you do not try to fit in you will be labelled as an outcast. All the gibberish and drama existing in false friendships are seriously exhausting but i have to keep up with this society if i want to survive. I have to go on because if i don’t there really isn’t any job that i can take up in the future. Sometimes the loneliness kicks in and i cant help but overthink a lot of stuff in the world. I wish that i could meet someone who truly understands me one day. I’m not really sure if i am a deep thinker but i sure could relate o most of the stuff in this article. To all the deep thinkers out there, try not to delve too deeply in a matter cos it may cause more sadness than anything. Try to keep up with this crazy society and not give up hope in meeting some others like yourself. Kudos to the author who wrote this i feel less alone in the world. God bless.

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